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writes:The man I love (dating for 3 months..) isn't talking to me anymore since Wednesday because of an argument over the phone. This argument shouldn't have taken place at all. It was stupid and I should have realized he was going through a lot of stress at the time and not continue the conversation. I'm so devastated. I sent him an honest email apologizing on what I had said and done wrong at that time. I'm afraid of calling him because our last conversation ended with him hanging up on me. I wish I could rewind to Wednesday and handle it differently. How long can a man stay mad? Will he ever call me back or is it his way to say it's over? Reply to this Question
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reader, dijoyful  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 5 days is quite a while for him to 'think', as i don't know what the argument was about it's hard to judge his response. Usually i would agree to leave him till his ready to speak, but as you are in a fairly new relationship I think you really need to grasp the bull by the horns and call him again, apoligise for not being more supportive, if he is not interested in hearing what you have to say, then there is not alot you can do to change his mind. Leave him be and get on with your life, if this one thing has caused him to behave this way then he might just be using it as an excuse to finish with you. If he does get in touch at a later date, then you can decide if you still want to be with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSince this is a holiday week-end I don't want to bother him. I believe he needs some space and I'm willing to give it to him. Yes I love him as strange as this may sound after only 3 months. Thank you for your inputs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): It depends on their personality really. Some men have their moment, blow off steam and its over. Some can hold a grudge forever.
I dont think you can just lump all men together...the same as we women are different.
For instance, i have an elephants memory when wronged and go all quiet and withdrawn. I have to work on this aspect of myself. I want to throw up things from ages ago, drag it all back out...when the quiet goes away I can rag on forEVER..lol you know the type.
My hubby takes and takes and when he blows, its over. He says his piece and thats all there is.
I think just as we are fat, skinny, white, black, loud, quiet, funny, serious, dull, bright...
we are all different. We cannot tell you how your man will act. Only you have a clue about that.
I would suggest you meet him somewhere, or phone...try to talk this out. If he refuses, i would try to accept that it is over. mal
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reader, Odds +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Not sure if you can really tell if you love someone after three months. I say that because he is probably thinking the same thing. Depending on what the argument was about, he may decide to just move on - that's most likely if the argument was over something really big, or over something really, really trivial.
How long a man stays mad depends on what he can do about the source of his anger. If he can change it, he'll do so and then stop being mad. If he can't change it, he'll probably stay mad about a week or two before he decides to just leave. Clock's ticking.
Still, if you really want him back, note the following: Email is really impersonal. You should man up and call him. Say hi, ask him how he feels, then apologize. Don't demand an apology in return; he'll probably offer a sincere one all on his own next time you meet in person, but he won't want to do it over the phone.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 September 2010):
You've just got to let him come to you. If it takes more than 14 days, then it's probably best to just end it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): As you have sent him a email, the ball really is his court, just sit tight and see if her contacts you.
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