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writes:Im so scared of losing my partner! He is so perfect and I love him lots but everyday I think what if its the last day I'm with him what if he leaves. He is the most perfect man on earth, he is loyal , loving and makes me feel special and I do not want to lose him. We don't argue much, we do have fun together and things ARE going great (we are going to get married etc) however, its almost like he is too good to be true. I want to spend forever with him but I am scared he might one day leave, like when I get old or if I fall ill (he says he wont in fact he stayed with me through a serious illness) He is much, much older than me but obviously attracted to younger women so I am really concerned. I just need some reassurance. Reply to this Question
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reader, Practical  +, writes (27 August 2010):
Just read a lot about the law of attraction! we attract what we are focusing on.. so by focusing on loosing your bf.. and having that fear haunting u, u might really attract it !
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reader, dijoyful +, writes (26 August 2010):
 You sound like one lucky girl, i agree that if you keep worrying about him leaving you will make this happen, you have to stop it now or you will create the one thing you are affraid off, him leaving you. Push this idea out of your head and replace it with loving thoughts of him. Nothing in life comes with a garantee, just know that what ever might happen in the future you can handle it, 'TRUST AND LET GO' And Enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): In your explanation, you don't give a single negative comment about your partner. It sounds to me like he loves you very much, but if you continue with requiring constant reassurance about his love and devotion, he's going to get tired of it, and he WILL leave.
It sounds like you're having some self-esteem issues that you alone need to address. Seek counseling (check out universities for discounted rates from their psychology departments, for example) or take up some kind of hobby to let you unwind and stop being so tense and worrying, like boxing or yoga (totally at opposite ends of the spectrum, but I don't know what you're into).
You have a keeper. Now be a keeper in return.
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