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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I was with this guy for 2 years and we used to live close by eachother.I loved him so much but we started fighting all the time and he has a huge temper and anger problem so I moved away from him and also broke up. I also realized that our relationship wasnt moving foward at all. He wouldnt ever take me out on dates in 2 years.I have let him come by from time to time to try and see if he has changed but he hasnt, he is still the same way. I realized that after 2 years the relationship should be completely either set free or rekindled. I decided to set it free and he wouldnt stop texting that he loved me so I finally called and told him to please dont say he loves me anymore because I wanna move on and be happy. He said no that hes not gonna let go. This man has broken my furniture,pushed me,neglected me and has not shown any affection to me when I tried giving him another chance,So i ended it.I told him i would be there for him if he needed me so the other day he asked me what i was doing and i told him i was leaving gym.He came to my house with out even asking or saying anything and my friend from church came by to drop off a dog crate and he completley flipped out and started texting that im a whore and that he never wants to see or hear from me again, I didnt do anything at all. Just because my male friend has a truck he automatically assumed i was having a relation with someone. It shouldnt matter because were not together. After numerous times of me telling him that it was just a friend from church and telling him that he could come and meet him, he told me i am just a fucking whore and to go and blow my brains out. Why and how could someone say that to you after you being there for them???? I cried all day because I havent had someone say something to me that cruel ever. Should I even be upset about this or just forget about him totally????
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): He is abusive and has anger issues. He needs therapy. He wants to hang on to you just in case he needs you, but at the same time he doesn't really want you. The best thing to do with someone like this is to cut them completely out of your life and move on. If he becomes stalker material then report him to the police because he could be potentially dangerous and you do not want to have to deal with someone like that.
Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 September 2010):
This guy needs professional help. I would advise you never to speak to him, see him or respond to him again.
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reader, dijoyful +, writes (22 September 2010):
 It's not wrong to feel upset, your obivously a caring and sensitive prson so when you get accussed of being something nasty it will hurt. That said you must tell yourself that all what he has called you is NOT true and your NOT going to let him break you down again, this is all part of his abusive and controlling nature, and he is still trying to control you. You must break free from any contact with him, he is toxic, you have already made it clear to him that it is over, now you urgently need to walk away before he turns really nasty. Stop trying to be his friend, it will only distroy your self-esteem. Hold your head high, you know you've done your best, surround your self with people who appreciate you for a lovely lady that you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): pfft you should forget about him totally, I don't know how you put up with it for so long.
He physically and verbally abused you throughout your relationship, he said things that no-one no matter how angry over a breakup no-one should ever say. A real man he is not. he doesn't have the right to say he won't let go, you aren't a posession.
Run for the hills you owe him nothing, you don't have to prove to him anything. you are broken up and for a very good reason, you probably won't be the last person he acts like that with.
Take some time for yourself and congratulate yourself on ending a relationship with an abusive person, your future relationships will be much better for it.
Take care.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (22 September 2010):
 you need to understand some guys-especially those insecure and posessive-gave a hard time letting go...im putting this very lightly so as not offend the good guys. if he gets violent you dont have to put up with it...call the police and get a restraining order! stand up for urself and dont take his crap!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): Miss, this man is abusive and very unhealthy to be around or even be associated with. I once loved a very angry and depressive woman. However, with my personal well being in mind, I did whatever it took for me to stay safe and away. I blocked her phone number, email, and even politely and respectfully told her to not attempt to contact me or my family in any shape or form or the police would be involved. I CUT her completely out. I feel its necessary for you at this time to do something similar. He seems awfully immature btw. Im sorry for the tears.
Regards.
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