Nervous about getting a blowjob for the first time!
Q. Hey, i've been seeing a girl for some weeks now. it seems to be getting a bit sexual. i haven't done anything with a girl before but is about to sometime next week. she has said she wants to give me a blowjob, but im nervous. is there any tips, i ...
A. 21 July 2009: Climaxing is often quite different for a man and woman. A male climax is fast powerful and forceful. A female climax may be extended, wave upon wave. This is something you aren't going to get from fellatio even with as experienced an operator as ... (read in full...)
We didnt use a condom, could I be pregnant?
Q. hey, Me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom about 2 weeks ago, I know we should have used a one we normally always do, it was just a spur of the moment thing. He didn't cum inside me but I'm worried I might be pregnant but I haven't had any ...
A. 20 July 2009: Why don't you go to the chemist and buy a pregnancy testing kit?... (read in full...)
Nervous about getting a blowjob for the first time!
Q. Hey, i've been seeing a girl for some weeks now. it seems to be getting a bit sexual. i haven't done anything with a girl before but is about to sometime next week. she has said she wants to give me a blowjob, but im nervous. is there any tips, i ...
A. 20 July 2009: I think you may be disappointed. As a form of sexual congress it is rated more in popular myth than execution. There is a certain amount of ego involved in having someone do this for you but in a real sense you may be better off with her giving you ... (read in full...)
Cheated....how should I feel?
Q. my wife cheated on me just before we separated. she then slept with another 3 guys while we were apart, 1 of them she works with. we are now back together and she finally told me about it after someone let part of the story slip. now she is always ...
A. 20 July 2009: You are probably going through hell right now. I can't tell you how I feel for you. It's broken and it will never be the same. I'm so sorry. Take heart. Around the corner something good is coming, but not how you expect.... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me? Why didn't he want to come to England to be with me?
Q. i ned some advice as i am going crazy with thinking. i went to turkey for 2 weeks, went with people that really i should not have done and was unhappy after 2 days of getting there. i aked the hotel manager was their any spare rooms but hotel was ...
A. 17 July 2009: Come on Shirley Valentine, you are old enough to have heard of holiday romances. The guys at holiday resorts 'pull' every other week.
What defies belief, apart from the fact that you couldn't read the 'Goodbye Look', is that you expected him to give... (read in full...)
How do I find a male platonic friend just to talk to?
Q. .........I'm lost and yet confused about my marriage and I will sit my husband down and talk more about our strange dilemma...but I hardly think he will answer straight,but anyhow...How do I go about finding a male platonic friend to talk to...not ...
A. 17 July 2009: Visit a gay bar perhaps; talk to your vicar... You may want to guard against any relationship being misinterpreted by your husband. You could even discuss your problem here at Dear Cupid which is what most correspondents do.... (read in full...)
Cheated....how should I feel?
Q. my wife cheated on me just before we separated. she then slept with another 3 guys while we were apart, 1 of them she works with. we are now back together and she finally told me about it after someone let part of the story slip. now she is always ...
A. 17 July 2009: It's going to take a lot of getting over. She may have felt trapped; she may have wanted a little excitement and glamour in her life. Nevertheless what's done is done, and she has told you about it for a reason.
I think you will need to redraw the ... (read in full...)
I want a proper relationship, not just to be the friend all the time.
Q. I have a problem that prevents me from a relationship. I never had a problem with relationships thru highs chool and such, thru each relationship I have learned a great deal. There are still some I wish never ended or I did something different. I ...
A. 12 June 2009: What do you think the problem is?... (read in full...)
Should I have sex at 13?
Q. i want to have sex with my boyfriend and he wants to as well but we r only 13 is it ok if we did?...
A. 11 June 2009: No.... (read in full...)
Communication problems with my stressed out boyfriend! Help!
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship (LDR) for about 19 months now. Things were so good in the beginning and he quickly swept me off my feet. He did what he could to relocate here, but his life was pulled out from under him. Since then, it ...
A. 11 June 2009: Tell him that when he is ready to have a normal relationship with you to get in touch. In the meantime you will carry on with your life - and you should do just that. If he ever does feel able to start a normal relationship, person to person not ... (read in full...)
Personal freedom and rights in married life
Q. I am married for 2 years.I have a 14 month old baby. This marriage was settled by my parents. They chose the girl and I agreed. Before marriage I had some psychological problems. I was studying Masters in IT in Dhaka, Bangladesh in 2007. Both m...
A. 11 June 2009: You need to win your independence. Independence is never given - it is always won. Stand up and be your own man. Look after your wife who you love, and prove you can manage without your parents. It's your life not theirs. Stop being a wimp. Don't ... (read in full...)
Should I continue my relationship while at uni? It would be a LDR.
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months now and its going well. The only problem is that in september i will be going to uni and my chosen uni is about 5ish hours away from him. People keep asking me if we are going to keep seeing each ...
A. 11 June 2009: You are too young to get tied into a relationship like this - definitely a long distance one. Going to college is about meeting new people, having fun... It's a time when you can become yourself. You have to give yourself the opportunity to meet new ... (read in full...)
Married man wants me all for himself, what do you think?
Q. i met this guy at my job...who was sexually attracted to me and everyday he kept bothering me until finally he kisses me and we have a deep long sexual moment. the problem is that his with a girl and has two kids with her. i dont care and never ...
A. 11 June 2009: And it doesn't have to just be about the sex. However the benefits of having another partner must be balanced against the hurt it might cause. As I said earlier, in some countries it is not unusual. In others it results in an immediate call to a ... (read in full...)
Was this rape?? What do I do?
Q. I have a problem.I doubt anyone will want to help me but I hope so.I took a girl out on our first ever date, and we went clubbing..we preceeded to get horribly drunk, and had to get a motel because I didnt want to risk driving her home...there was ...
A. 10 June 2009: Some of the previous answers are incorrect. The fact that she was drunk while she said yes does not mean she properly consented in law in some countries.
I agree with one of the previous writers who said it could have been her first time. That... (read in full...)
A lot has happened between us. Now I'm pregnant and he doesn't want it
Q. right I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months, in the very short space of time alot has happend. soo when i met him he had only been single for 1 week. he split up with hes ex as hes in the army and she called him all the time was very needy an...
A. 10 June 2009: You have been a fool - but you don't have to continue being a fool. You have a choice to make over the baby but don't expect him to be around to help. Sorry - it's a tough break. You can get through it and there is help available if you seek it.... (read in full...)
Was this rape?? What do I do?
Q. I have a problem.I doubt anyone will want to help me but I hope so.I took a girl out on our first ever date, and we went clubbing..we preceeded to get horribly drunk, and had to get a motel because I didnt want to risk driving her home...there was ...
A. 8 June 2009: Just contact her about general stuff. Don't mention the night of lust. She might appreciate your being there in a non-sexual way. Ask her out for a coffee or pizza but keep it light. Just a no-strings kind of meeting. You need to show that you care ... (read in full...)
Married man wants me all for himself, what do you think?
Q. i met this guy at my job...who was sexually attracted to me and everyday he kept bothering me until finally he kisses me and we have a deep long sexual moment. the problem is that his with a girl and has two kids with her. i dont care and never ...
A. 8 June 2009: Do you want to be the other woman? In some countries like France the idea of a mistress is acceptable if it doesn't interfere in family life. In other countries the revelation of the other woman can destroy a home.
Do you think he would he be prep... (read in full...)
How to tell my mother that I'm an atheist?
Q. It's no so much of a question that requires an answer, more of a comment with follow-ups I'm an atheist the reason i don't believe in god is because the world is jacked up. I really don't believe in religion because of what it has done for the wor...
A. 8 June 2009: There is no rule that says you have to tell your mum everything. Teenagers are supposed to have secrets from their parents - it's part of becoming an individual.
While you are living in your parents' house you are obliged to some extent to fall... (read in full...)
Should we be friends with benefits?
Q. im 13 and there is this 16 year old boy that always wants me to send him dirty pictures and try things with him at the movies . me and my friend really like him he always flirts with us at the movies and stuff two days ago he suggested that we shou...
A. 8 June 2009: No. It's illegal and could land him in court. You know the right answer to this already.
Don't let yourself be manipulated by this young perv'.... (read in full...)
How can he choose a stranger over me so easily (twice!) when we had three years of history together?
Q. My boyfriend of three years broke up with me about six months ago. I didn't know why at that time but I found out later that he left me for some one else - he broke up with me on the day he had some coffee with this girl-- it was just coffee without ...
A. 8 June 2009: There are two factors here, but maybe it's just one after all. First your boyfriend is emotionally immature. Some men never grow out of this phase and constantly move from woman to woman. As long as the women involved understand this, then no harm ... (read in full...)
Should I move to be with my fiancee while I look for work?
Q. While I was in a long-distance relationship during graduate school, my boyfriend proposed to me. About a month or so later he confessed to buying another house and lying about it to me. This affected what I thought our relationship was (I thought he ...
A. 7 June 2009: It's a difficult call. Do you like the house he has chosen? Do you like the city? Could you be happy there? Will he support you while you look for work. If the answer to any of these is 'no' then perhaps you need to make a compromise arrangement.
T... (read in full...)
How to stop his communication with her?
Q. I had been married for 5 years. My husband has this "friendship" with another woman, but she is really manipulative. He denied having communication with her, but I had found information that show that they are having communication. How can I made ...
A. 6 June 2009: Good question and the answer is you can't. You can ask, threaten, cajole... You can ask the other woman to back off - say it's not helping your relationship. In the end it depends what his relationship with this other person is about. She may j... (read in full...)
How to go about telling ex how I feel
Q. the end of the school year is in a few days for me...and i want to tell my ex how i feel without looking stupid (were not going to the same school next year so it will probly be the last time i ever see him) how do i go about all this?? and i thi...
A. 6 June 2009: Make it less serious. If you are always going to have a special link, you don't need to say it. Some friendships survive the years but most do not. Time and distance all play a part. Why not give a little keepsake to remember you by - nothing ... (read in full...)
Are we over because I had sex with ex?
Q. I went to a party with my girlfriend. She's new at my school (she has trouble making friends) and we been to together 3 months now. She kept clinging to me (she doesn`t really know anyone at the party besides me) she would`t let me 4 secords to ...
A. 6 June 2009: If you can't keep it in your pants for a short while you don't deserve your old girlfriend. As you were her first you have hurt her very much and she will never forget the way you treated her. Do her a real favour and stay out of her life.... (read in full...)
Can I make a selfish man and father change or should I just leave him to be alone and ruin someone else's life?
Q. Hello all, I am 25 years old and have a 6 year old son with my ex and a one month old with the man I am having trouble with. I lost my job at 3 months pregnant and I was extremely depressed and felt really lonely and distressed due to hormones...
A. 6 June 2009: This isn't the right person for you by the sound of things. You need to have an escape route. You have a job - that is good. Now get your own place to live. You need to dig your way out of this. Be brave, be strong, help will come on the way.... (read in full...)
Should I be with him, when he hides from his girlfriend with me and makes out?
Q. I think I have an issue. I am in love with a guy that already has a grilfriend. We were dating for a while but he dumped me. We still like each other- it's obvious. We have kinda become friends with benefits we dont have sex we just make out. Last ...
A. 25 May 2009: I think you need to open your eyes to this situation. How would you like it if you were the other girl? Do unto others as you would be done by. It flatters male ego to think they can have more than one woman on a string. Is this what you want to be?... (read in full...)
We broke up bitterly, I said some awful things, he does not want to talk, should I apologize with a letter and keep moving on?
Q. After dating for 3 years, 2 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. It was a terrible breakup, I still cannot believe how everything went down. I think about it and it infuriates me, that I gave him my love. One day I am upset and then the next ...
A. 25 May 2009: I think a letter is a good idea. At least you will feel you have done all you can. Men can be sulky when they are hurt. We can act like children but that's no reason for you to act as the mummy.
Write a good letter and get on with your life. He may ... (read in full...)
I hired a prostitute... but couldn't get an erection!
Q. Hi, I'm a 27 year old guy. I'm a virgin, and for the last few years have been getting concerned about my situation. I haven't really gone out much in my twenties. But do enjoy it when I do get out. I have kinda withdrawn a bit. It's not that I'm...
A. 24 May 2009: I don't think this is that unusual. It seems like you were pinning a lot on this. That alone can be enough to put you off. The girl probably would have been a stranger too which doesn't help.
Some men take a Viagra to get over the hurdle. The thin... (read in full...)
Is it possible that semen could reach my vagina and I could be pregnant?
Q. Hey.. I have something bothering me all day and I need some advice.. Yesterday I was with my boyfriend and we were fooling around. I've never had sex, and we were making out. We were naked and I gave him oral sex. He came on his stomach and a bi...
A. 24 May 2009: It's highly unlikely. You can get test kits and morning after kits over the counter at a pharmacy if it is playing on your mind.
You could suggest he wears a condom even if you don't want full sex. He might actually enjoy that as part of the expe... (read in full...)
Should I return my big sister's love
Q. hi, im kinda falling for my sister and i want to know if its alright to return the same love to her. im 18 and shes 20. we always hang out alot, tease each other, and support each other. when I was younger, i never really had any friends, i was ...
A. 24 May 2009: The previous reply is wrong because it is somebody else's business. You are breaking civil and religious codes. They are there for a reason not just to stop your fun. Take some responsibility.
Inside you know what's right or you wouldn't have writ... (read in full...)
He ex says he has something to tell me, but wont say what. Why is he waiting so long?
Q. My ex and I have not seen each other in a year now, we live in different countries, but still love each other, as we have both expressed it to each other. I had some issues and I hurt him very much, not by anything external of our relationship, but ...
A. 24 May 2009: You are right - you can't imagine what it might be, at least you shouldn't try any longer. If you don't want to come straight out and ask, then try saying something like: 'That thing you wanted to discuss, was it important?'
This leads you to woma... (read in full...)
Do you think that because I was worried about him he will think I have feelings for him?
Q. There´s this guy I have feelings for who is a military stationed somewhere across the country. We met 2 years ago when he did TDY in my town. We kinda clicked since the moment we met, unfortunately he had to leave a week later with no chance f...
A. 22 May 2009: He doesn't love you. Forget him and move on.... (read in full...)
He ex says he has something to tell me, but wont say what. Why is he waiting so long?
Q. My ex and I have not seen each other in a year now, we live in different countries, but still love each other, as we have both expressed it to each other. I had some issues and I hurt him very much, not by anything external of our relationship, but ...
A. 22 May 2009: Just tell him: 'If you have something to say come out and say it now.' Now's the time or never. If it's never, so be it. Don't let your imagination twist you in knots. It may not be what you hope for.... (read in full...)
I think my mates girlfriend fancies me!
Q. i know this sounds big headed, but i think my mates girl fancy's me.. she's always texting me and telling me i'm cute, she always wants me around and wen im not in she beggs for me to come in, WE recently had our school prom and she was on my ar...
A. 20 May 2009: If you don't want complications then make it clear to her. By the way, last time Ilooked they didn't have school proms in UK!... (read in full...)
My husband is hiding his marriage from his friends!
Q. My husband and I got married five months back..My husband had married once and the got divorced. He told me the reason for their divorce is because his Ex- wife got a better paying job and then they started having problems. Even though I had all ...
A. 19 May 2009: There is an argument for different cultures behaving differently but you are a person in you own right and your first duty is to be true to yourself. In a western society he must learn to adapt. If you are worried enough to think about divorce ... (read in full...)
My fiancee broke it off and I want her back. Maybe send a birthday card?
Q. Hello, My fiancee broke up with me a few weeks ago for reasons i have no clue. Her birthday is next week and i was wondering if i should send her a card? I still love her and care about her and i really do want her back, everyone is telling me...
A. 19 May 2009: I don't think a birthday card is going to do it - but that is no reason not to send one. It's a nice thought. You probably need to leave some time for the dust to settle. Perhaps she thought things were getting too serious. It's hard to know. Af... (read in full...)
Any men willing to share their views on platonic friendship?
Q. Thanks for reading this - this is a rather open-ended question. Without going into the details of my situation, I was wondering what attitude men have towards being platonic friends with women. I have a new-ish straight male friend who is si...
A. 18 May 2009: Of course men can been friends with women. If you want to move the relationship on to a romatic footing then take the initiative and see what happens.... (read in full...)
Should I come out to my homophobic family?
Q. So i finally accepted myself as being a lesbian and i wanted to know if i should tell my family or when even if its only been a couple of months since i had accepted myself and nearly everyone in my family is homophobic...
A. 14 May 2009: At your age you are still finding out about your sexuality. I have had friends who thought they were homosexual find happiness in a heterosexual relationship. It is also not uncommon for people to discover their homosexual side later in life.
I woul... (read in full...)
Should I just leave my fiancé??
Q. Should i leave my fiancee? My fiancee and I have arguments almost every day but what relationship don't. He is so jealous of me when I was talking to an old friend guy about a lady who had surgery, he wouldn't take the time to listen to me whe...
A. 13 May 2009: Yes leave now and don't go back no matter what.... (read in full...)
I really don't know what to do...
Q. I really don't know what to do... ive been with my boyfriend for only 8 months, and i love him so much... its that kind of love that isnt exiting but its always there kind of love. like youde do anything for them... almost everything. but about 10...
A. 13 May 2009: Choose the lighter happiness.... (read in full...)
Should I return my big sister's love
Q. hi, im kinda falling for my sister and i want to know if its alright to return the same love to her. im 18 and shes 20. we always hang out alot, tease each other, and support each other. when I was younger, i never really had any friends, i was ...
A. 13 May 2009: Of course it's wrong - it's also illegal. If you are looking for permissin then I'm sorry. You just have to redirect your feelings to a suitable partner.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is nothing but a pothead!
Q. My boyfriend is nothing but a pothead. I can't stand it. He's stuck in a dead end minimum wage job because he can't pass a drug test. He never follows through with anything at all. All he does is get high then eat everything in the house. The ...
A. 13 May 2009: The thing is, do you want to bring up the baby without a dad? His reality is a bit warped at the moment. He needs a way to stop, and a reason. Have you talked to your parents or a near relation? You need support in this. Having a baby is tough en... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is nothing but a pothead!
Q. My boyfriend is nothing but a pothead. I can't stand it. He's stuck in a dead end minimum wage job because he can't pass a drug test. He never follows through with anything at all. All he does is get high then eat everything in the house. The ...
A. 12 May 2009: He needs to want to quit and he may need help doing it. He may need psychological help or counselling. I don't know how you go about that in america. Are there any other males around from whom he would take advice?
It is better if your baby has a da... (read in full...)
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