Why does he never see it from my point of view?
Q. Why is it that he constantly thinks I have something to hide or that I'm not telling the whole truth...then later I find out lil details he's left out and when I point it out; I'm over-reacting??? Or how everytime I just want to vent, he can never ...
A. 11 October 2009: Give yourself a break and get free of this relationship. Trust is the basis for all long-term partnerships. Trying to make this work will always mean you are playing catchup in his game. It's time to look elsewhere. ... (read in full...)
Advice for getting around girlfriends mum ?
Q. hi basically im completly in love with my ex who broke up with me today but it wasnt on our terms about 5 weeks ago her mum found out we were having sex and found out about a morning after pill had been taken she has completly flipped and ...
A. 10 October 2009: There are too many unanswered components in this. For example if you are about to go to college or take exams then a child would be more of a burden even though all children bring love with them.
Her mother may feel she is too immature to make the ... (read in full...)
I still miss my first love after 2 years... is this normal? How can I fix it?
Q. Drunkenly I've looked at an old girlfriends profile over facebook. We've not spoken for about a year and half and separated over 2 years ago... yet, having read that she's in a relationship brings up strong feelings of sadness and envy. Surely af...
A. 8 October 2009: Sorry mate - that's the beautiful scar we all carry - our first love. It's OK to feel that way - just don't keep scratching it. Get on with your beautiful new relationship.
Remember you broke up with your first love for a reason. It's easy to glos... (read in full...)
She said she doesn't love me anymore after 8 years, how do I know if she really means it?
Q. ok my girl broke up with me 5 days ago and she wouldnt answer any of my calls or textes. so i sent her flowers and i finaly got a text back which didnt say much anyhow. i talked to her today and she told me she doesnt wanna talk to me because she ...
A. 8 October 2009: Actually you have to start doing the opposite of what you expect. Agree with her. Tell her she is probably right and you should be apart.
She doesn't want a clinging, needy relationship. She actually wants the person she met eight years ago. You ... (read in full...)
I seem to attract girls who always end up cheating on me, please help.
Q. Im a 16 year old boy, and I know I'm probably too young to really be needing this advice, but I just want some help. I seem to attract women who always end up cheating on me. That or they're awkward relationships that end in two weeks. I don't k...
A. 8 October 2009: Nothing wrong with you mate. It's an experimental time in your early teens as far as relationships and dating go. You feel it all deeply but there is a lot of experience to go under your belt yet. Just because you have a developed code of behaviour ... (read in full...)
Went with my ex on a trip but like another guy and I think he got the wrong impression!
Q. Ok well i'll start from the beginning, I've just been in Greece for 2 weeks, went with a male friend who used to be my boyfriend. I went with him because we get on well and wanted to see if we could get back together. Over the course of the holiday ...
A. 6 October 2009: I live in a place similar to the one you visited. I have bad news for you. Every time a flight lands a new set of holiday romances begin. Mostly they end when the plane takes off again for home.
It's a macho thing for Greek men (Mediterranean men)... (read in full...)
Should I marry him or not?
Q. i had a 2 years relationship wd my bf...well,i've always been waiting for him to propose and whenever i brought up the subject to him he'd say to me he aint ready and that used to tear my heart apart...well,lately he surprised me by proposing to me ...
A. 5 October 2009: You don't have to get married. Society is moving on. It is no longer frowned upon to have a long-term relationship with a person to whom you are not married. You have legal rights too these days in that situation.
However if you do get married and ... (read in full...)
He rarely initiates and when he does, it's like a tap here, a touch there. No passion.
Q. Hello everyone. I'm having intimacy problems with my bf. I'm a woman who is very used to have intimate relationships with my partner more than once every 7 days. For the past two months, its been only once every 7 days. I always initiate. Always. ...
A. 5 October 2009: The other thing I forgot to mention is timing. Men are often quite horny first thing in the morning. With women it can be last thing at night. Problem - he is tired from work perhaps and just wants to sleep.
You can find a way around this.... (read in full...)
Does anybody else suffer from IBS?
Q. This is more of a health question, I realise that, but I am really desperate. The thing is, I have irritable bowel syndrome. I was diagnosed when I was 18, and I'm now 23. I take an anti-spasmodic, which helps, but every so often I get bad ...
A. 1 October 2009: I think you should be discussing this with a health professional. Irritable bowel is fairly common and the causes are varied and numerous.
You need to identify the cause. Your GP will check it isn't something else like Crohns. He will refer you ... (read in full...)
My mum has just been diagnosed with cancer but I'm supposed to be moving to Oz next month - I want to be there for my mum but I don't want to lose my boyfriend either!
Q. I would appreciate any advice.. My Mum was diagnosed with rectal cancer last week and has to undergo chemo and radiation therapy combined before an operation in January. She may have to have chemo afterwards too. This has all come as a massive ...
A. 1 October 2009: This is a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation. The choice is yours and there is no right answer. You just have to make some sort of decision right or wrong.
There is always a chance that you and your boyfriend won't break up, but you ... (read in full...)
Questionable relationship?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 3 months.He is a widow, and I am divorced.We seem to really like each other, but I am still wondering what to make of the relationship.I travel to see him, and we email everyday.But, I am still wondering how he feels ...
A. 29 September 2009: I think you should let things grow naturally. Don't be pushy. Two years isn't that long to get over a bereavement (I assume that's what you mean by 'lost his wife'.
One step at a time grasshopper.... (read in full...)
Tatoos and where to get them?
Q. Ok, so this isnt a realtionship question or anything but i was wondering if someone could help me with this decision. i have a tattoo on my back towards my neck and its fairly decent size tattoo about 7 inches in length and about 4 inches wide. now ...
A. 29 September 2009: I don't understand why you are asking this question in a relationship forum. Surely the way forward, if you are convinced permanent body art is cool, is to Google tats and your home state to find the artists nearest to you.... (read in full...)
Should she tell, will police notify people at work anyway?
Q. Help, my daughter has was caught using work mobile whilst driving. Police issued immediate fine and points to licence. She is traumatised as her work mobile phone policy states that moibile phones should not be used whilst driving, and breach o...
A. 29 September 2009: What's done is done. I would hate for her to be out of a job because of this foolish act. I feel that many of the correspondents to this feed are a little to ready to bring out the noose. We have all done stupid things; things we regret; things ... (read in full...)
My parents never listen to me!
Q. hi my problem is that my parents never listen to me or understand my point whenever i am in some problem.. i dont say i am right always but still when i am right they dont agree at that point of time wheras they agree to it in future when they...
A. 23 September 2009: Try writing your concerns in a letter to them. Ask if they can give you some advice on your questions. Try not to be too angry. Remember, how it sounds in your head isn't always the way it comes over when read out by another. ... (read in full...)
What is the solution for a dramatic relationship?
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me two months ago after a relationship of 2 years. She is Canadian studying in Frankfurt, I am Austrian living in Luxembourg. We had a long distance relationship, seeing each other every weekend. When we met, she gave...
A. 23 September 2009: I think you have to play this out. Whatever anyone tells you, you are only going to let your emotions rule your head. Can you both strike a bargain with which you both can live? Tempestuous relationships are magnificent and also torture.
I thin... (read in full...)
Should she tell, will police notify people at work anyway?
Q. Help, my daughter has was caught using work mobile whilst driving. Police issued immediate fine and points to licence. She is traumatised as her work mobile phone policy states that moibile phones should not be used whilst driving, and breach o...
A. 23 September 2009: I think it is highly unlikely that the police would notify her place of work. Perhaps she may now think twice. I don't want to sound judgemental but I have almost been wiped twice owing to drivers using phones while they are driving. It is more ... (read in full...)
Is it safe for a man to ejaculate inside the woman's anus?
Q. is it safe for a man to cum inside the womens anus? does it cause colon problems?...
A. 23 September 2009: Well you won't get pregnant but there may be some internal damage. Nature didn't design it for sex. Sometimes there is tearing and bleeding. It is why there can be a concern over transmitting the HIV virus that way.
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Should I leave things as they are not totally fulfilled? Or push for more?
Q. i am completely taken with a man who i have known for a little more than 3 years. he has on and off shown attraction to me too and even though our communication is maybe every other week, he will call me after a night of being "with the boys" ...
A. 22 September 2009: I think you should find another man and stop being the convenient stop over for this one. It would be OK if you were both happy with the relationship but I sense you are not. Once you have found someone who can give you what you want you can end ... (read in full...)
Confused over two guys...I need help figuring out what I want!
Q. Yes, this is another of those "confused about which guy" questions...but it's not your typical question of based on these few paragraphs, which guy is better for me, who you've also never met... so please read on! I really need to sort this out ...
A. 22 September 2009: Finish your thesis. You can't expect a long distance relationship to work out and you have only had, as you say, a few dates with guy #2 in five months. So, both these can't be classed as that serious. Treat them as as a bit of R&R from work. Once ... (read in full...)
I feel lost and unwanted!
Q. I am married and not happy. I am 60 but look 50 my husband hasn't given me any affection for many years. i have worked at my company for 14 years and have meant someone who is married and 6 years younger than me. i have commented adultrey and ...
A. 19 September 2009: First - I don't think you should ever admit to your adultery. You can never have your old relationship back if you do and it could kill it forever. Second - I don't think you should continue a relationship with this other man. Just accept it was a... (read in full...)
What can I do? Before I met him, I was bubbly and laughing, now I'm always sad and crying.
Q. my boyfriend works with me in a hotel, im a waitress hes a cook.. he works 5 day week i work day in day out.. so theres not lot days that we have togher.. im asking my self why he does this to me .... last week he was dinner shift like me and he ...
A. 19 September 2009: I think you have got yourself in a toxic relationship and that it needs to end. You have to gather the pieces of yourself together and start regaining your true, fun self. I don't see your present situation getting any better.... (read in full...)
How do I get him to confess his feelings for me?
Q. ok so there is this guy who is my friend. He has feelings for me but he ain't going to confess his feelings for me. He thinks that i don't know he has feelings for me, the truth is i know he has feelings for me. Since he is not going to confess, ...
A. 19 September 2009: If you know, then why do you need to have it vocalised?
For some people it is the opposite way around. People say, 'I love you,' but don't mean it. Just get on with enjoying each other's company. If you know there are genuine feelings then acce... (read in full...)
Had a holiday romance, the guy doesn't seem interested now we're back home, and I can't get over it! What should I do?
Q. Hello all. I am still upset, and grieving after a one week holiday romance that happened 6 weeks ago now. I don;t know what 's the matter with me, but I run it over and over in my head, and miss him so badly, night and day. I tried contacti...
A. 19 September 2009: Well perhaps it's his turn to travel out to see you.... (read in full...)
He rarely initiates and when he does, it's like a tap here, a touch there. No passion.
Q. Hello everyone. I'm having intimacy problems with my bf. I'm a woman who is very used to have intimate relationships with my partner more than once every 7 days. For the past two months, its been only once every 7 days. I always initiate. Always. ...
A. 4 September 2009: Some men need more encouragement. Why should it be they who have to initiate lovemaking. Do you kiss and cuddle to let him know you are feeling receptive? Some me are forceful and take what they want when they want. They can be criticised for being ... (read in full...)
Why do I have to wait hand and foot for this guy?
Q. I'm sick of loving my ex boyfriend. After everything he has done to me, I still wait hand and foot for him! He has broken every promise in the book. He has cheated on me, tried to control my life, broken up with me, and gotten back together with me ...
A. 4 September 2009: You are in a toxic relationship. He isn't going to change and neither are you. The only solution is distance between you and give yourself the chance to meet someone who really cares for you.
Believe me there is no future for you in this rela... (read in full...)
Should I step in with my opinion?
Q. I started seeing my best friend whom I fell in love with though it never worked out the way we would have liked we are still friends but its not the same there is a point to me telling you this. . . Anyway that's not my question. . . she told me ...
A. 28 August 2009: Perhaps she is looking for more commitment from you. Could you see yourself getting into a long-term relationship with her? It doesn't have to be marriage these days.... (read in full...)
How can I be more assertive to get a girlfriend?
Q. [MOD NOTE: Multiple questions from same poster so I have combined them] Q1. Im a 15 year old boy and im kinda nerdy and quiet and don't get out much because I get so nervous thinking of the people im going be around and if someone is going to pick...
A. 28 August 2009: question 1
Join a martial arts group - judo, kung foo, Karate, Tai Kwando, Jujitsu and the rest. You don't have to fight anyone but you will be able to defend yourself and not be afraid of being hurt. You will also have some pretty good mates in t... (read in full...)
I can't get over him, what do I do?
Q. I need some advice. I have been apart from they guy I was dating for just over a year now, and I can't get over him. We were together for a pretty long time (about three years), and he was the first and only guy I ever truly fell in love with. He ...
A. 28 August 2009: Keep busy - fill your life with experience, fun and laughter. Standing forlornly won't help. If there is anything you can do to change the situation then do it. If not you have to get on with life.
Part of being alive is feeling what you are feel... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel through an email?
Q. In my senior year of highschool I had strong feelings for a teacher I had.I had her my sphomore year too,but I was just her TA my senior year. I'm in love with her.yes it's not a crush.i would always visit her during passing period we would always ...
A. 24 August 2009: Ah that achy breaky heart. What to do? You are going to do whatever you are going to do, no matter what anyone says. I think the relationship is ill advised and probably one-sided but will that stop you making a complete idiot out of yourself? Of ... (read in full...)
Had a holiday romance, the guy doesn't seem interested now we're back home, and I can't get over it! What should I do?
Q. Hello all. I am still upset, and grieving after a one week holiday romance that happened 6 weeks ago now. I don;t know what 's the matter with me, but I run it over and over in my head, and miss him so badly, night and day. I tried contacti...
A. 24 August 2009: Just accept it for what it was. And yes, millions of people have had this experience. By now he is enjoying the company of someone else and no matter what line you were fed at the time he won't want to see you again. You put your age between ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I'm interested, in a subtle way?
Q. There is this great guy that I really like a lot and I don't know how he feels about me. I'm 38, never been married and my last serious relationship left me heart broken and lacking confidence. What can I do to subtly let him know I'm interested? I ...
A. 23 August 2009: Ask him to join you for some activity that is not particularly romantic - just so you can get to know each other better. ... (read in full...)
They don't know it, but I keep going back and forth between 2 girls
Q. i am so confused its even got me suffering deppression i hate me so much i am in love with 2 people and i cant work my way around it and they love me 2 but they dont know about each other and i have broken with one and went to the other then i broke ...
A. 23 August 2009: Do you see how this deception is messing you up? This is the lesson. This is the lesson. This is the lesson.... (read in full...)
I don't want to end things with my boyfriend, but what can I do about his immaturity?
Q. Okay, so I was pretty desperate one night and decided to browse the internet for some help and came across this website! My problem is my immature boyfriend. We have been going out for a little more than a year now, and I really really like him...
A. 6 August 2009: I see the difficulty. The trick is to involve him in process so that the decisions become his because he was part of making them. There is sometimes a fear that when you set off on a path (like a job or a school course) then this is the way it i... (read in full...)
I don't want to end things with my boyfriend, but what can I do about his immaturity?
Q. Okay, so I was pretty desperate one night and decided to browse the internet for some help and came across this website! My problem is my immature boyfriend. We have been going out for a little more than a year now, and I really really like him...
A. 2 August 2009: Pinktopaz writes a forceful response to your query but I think is dealing in some stereotypical male who goes to college and does all the conventional things. Thank goodness that the people who make a mark in the world don't act like 90 percent of ... (read in full...)
I love them both, how do I pick just one.
Q. Long story short, I love 2 great Men. I have made some bad decisions, and want to choose right this time! "A" and I met a year ago on dating site. After 2 phone calls, I booked a flight to meet him. 4 amazing months with him, and I fell hard....
A. 1 August 2009: Could you stand to let both of them go for six months? Perhaps things would be clearer then. It would allow them and you to decide what's really important.... (read in full...)
I don't want to end things with my boyfriend, but what can I do about his immaturity?
Q. Okay, so I was pretty desperate one night and decided to browse the internet for some help and came across this website! My problem is my immature boyfriend. We have been going out for a little more than a year now, and I really really like him...
A. 1 August 2009: What is it that makes him immature in your eyes? It wasn't obvious from your letter. The fact that you argue isn't immature, or that he hasn't decided what to do with his life yet.
Lots of couples in long-term relationships enjoy a good argu... (read in full...)
How do I get over this crush?
Q. I cannot get this guy Gary off my mind. I won't get into all the details, but there is no chance of us ever hooking up. He is a friend of mine. I can never wait to see him. I have sexual dreams about him and sometimes masturbate to the thought of us ...
A. 22 July 2009: Love conquers all - or not. If it is just a crush you will get over it. It's really difficult when you are in the white heat phase and climbing the wall. As you don't say why some sort of relationship isn't possible it's difficult to comment ... (read in full...)
Do girls like guys that write poetry?
Q. hey im 14 and i hate to boast but im quite a poet. i also write songs and i have even wrote a book. but the problem is i was wondering do girls like this in a guy or do they think that it is stupid? please help me because i dont know....
A. 21 July 2009: Some do and some don't. That's what makes the world go round. I don't mean to bring you down but it should be:
'...and I have even WRITTEN a book.'
If you are going to expose your literary talent, then best make all the checks before you go publi... (read in full...)
How do you get through to someone that would rather yell than discuss
Q. I know that most people have a tumultuous relationship with their mothers while going through their teen years - I did, and I still do. I haven't had a bad life by any means and for the most part my family is pretty functional and normal (certain...
A. 21 July 2009: I would distance yourself from her. You don't need her approval. If you are living at home it's time to move out. Make your own decisions; live your own life, cut the apron strings. It doesn't matter what she thinks so don't get into a row about ... (read in full...)
Nervous about getting a blowjob for the first time!
Q. Hey, i've been seeing a girl for some weeks now. it seems to be getting a bit sexual. i haven't done anything with a girl before but is about to sometime next week. she has said she wants to give me a blowjob, but im nervous. is there any tips, i ...
A. 21 July 2009: Climaxing is often quite different for a man and woman. A male climax is fast powerful and forceful. A female climax may be extended, wave upon wave. This is something you aren't going to get from fellatio even with as experienced an operator as ... (read in full...)
We didnt use a condom, could I be pregnant?
Q. hey, Me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom about 2 weeks ago, I know we should have used a one we normally always do, it was just a spur of the moment thing. He didn't cum inside me but I'm worried I might be pregnant but I haven't had any ...
A. 20 July 2009: Why don't you go to the chemist and buy a pregnancy testing kit?... (read in full...)
Nervous about getting a blowjob for the first time!
Q. Hey, i've been seeing a girl for some weeks now. it seems to be getting a bit sexual. i haven't done anything with a girl before but is about to sometime next week. she has said she wants to give me a blowjob, but im nervous. is there any tips, i ...
A. 20 July 2009: I think you may be disappointed. As a form of sexual congress it is rated more in popular myth than execution. There is a certain amount of ego involved in having someone do this for you but in a real sense you may be better off with her giving you ... (read in full...)
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