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writes:right I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months, in the very short space of time alot has happend. soo when i met him he had only been single for 1 week. he split up with hes ex as hes in the army and she called him all the time was very needy and annoyed him. soo i met him and everything seemed ok at first, but stupidly after just 2 weeks together I decided to go back to his home town with him for a week. it was horrible he treated me like i was meaningless he took me to a party left me on my own and flirted with everyother girl there, i felt so unattractive and horrible and i had no choice but to stay there. anyway when we got back he went on leave for another week , he had told me many many silly lies before this time .. so he went back and he met up with his ex he told that he still loved her online before they met up , but then they did meet they kissed but then moment later he told her she has ruined his life and it was me that he loved not her.. since all this i forgave him and things have been perfect but now ive found out im pregnant he wants rid but im not sure what the right thing to do is please help. thanks
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reader, siany2009 +, writes (17 June 2009):
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Correction: National guard goes to base once a month, not week.
apologies.
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Girl i know how it feels im in the same situation except i already have my baby which is my life and guess what i didnt ask for child support he is not giving me any money at all. oh i didnt ask child support because he was born in mexico so he went back. But if you are still living with that guy please get out he really has problems he might do something stupid. Go to your parents house if they support you or a friends house. you know becoming a mother makes you stronger in life makes you more successful because you now have reason to for who to fight for. you can make it girl! that baby that is growing has no fault at all he really deserves a chance to see the sky to hold your hand to touch your face to feel secure when your around to go to his first day of school and come home and say "mommy i have a friend from school" its wonderful being a mom. The choice is all yours. wish you the best!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 June 2009):
 Well one thing you can count on is that he will not be there physically to help you with this child, if you decide to go through with the pregnancy. He's already told you he didn't want it. However, if you do choose to have it, then he will HAVE to support you financially. Child Support however rarely cover more then a drop in the "ocean" of raising a child. So basically you are on your own, and hopefully your family will support you no matter what you choose.
It is YOUR body. What do YOU want?
Be realistic. He will not all of a sudden do a 180 and decide to be a good guy, he's already proven he isn't worth a darn.
Have you considered talking to your mom or dad?
I can not tell you what to do only you will know what is right for you. I will not judge your decision. Right now you are sorta darned if you do and darned if you don't.
PS he can not tell you what to do. You only you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): I don't want to start a pro choice vs. pro life arguement here, but think about what is best for the baby. Becuase it is not its fault who did what, why it is living in your stomach, and what sort of things brought its parent together. It is just there, waiting and is very innocent.
I believe some people will tell you that the right thing is to aboprt it, as it will not have a father and some people will tell you that kids can be raised with no father, which is usually better than having a bad father and to keep it.
This is a rather controversial subject but in the end, you just have to listen to your own heart and your own values and your own mind. But whatever you do, do it for yourself and for the baby. not for this man. I think you're wasting your time honsetly.
And I'd like to know what he's doing in the Army that means he leaves for a week at a time, because in active duty, he is stationed and has a job on base. In national guard, he lives at home and goes to the base once a week until deployment when he is gone for a year straight.
So are you sure that he's going with the military for a week at a time? You said he went on "leave" which is actually more like vacation, but i'm guessing you mispoke.
Anyway, good luck.
~SY.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (10 June 2009):
 You have been a fool - but you don't have to continue being a fool. You have a choice to make over the baby but don't expect him to be around to help. Sorry - it's a tough break. You can get through it and there is help available if you seek it.
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