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writes:My boyfriend of three years broke up with me about six months ago. I didn't know why at that time but I found out later that he left me for some one else - he broke up with me on the day he had some coffee with this girl-- it was just coffee without being any romantic or sexual or talking about dating at all. He said that he had never felt the connection he felt with the other girl with me during our entire three years' relationship while this girl made him feel so conneted to her on their first coffee, and that is why he should break up with me. They dated for a while and then became a couple. But after four months later they broke up. I sort of expected because he chose her over me rather too hastily. I called him because I really missed him and wanted him back, and we hung out a few times. I asked him to get back together, which he seems to be listening to. We even slept together a couple of times, so I thought maybe we have a second chance. But a month later, the other girl called him again, and suddenly he stopped having sex with me and told me not to call him because he is dating this girl again, which left me really hurt. I mean, he was so sweet and loyal during our whole three years' relationship and we never argued. We were happy. And suddenly, he broke up with me and then went back to her again. How can he choose her over me so easily (twice!!) when we had three years of history together? What was wrong with our three years relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): he do not love you. he likes sex with you..leave him and you will find someone who cares and love you..
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (8 June 2009):
 Hun he's a guy...most guys do this they get bored of the relationship want to move onto something else new and fresh. and then because that girl didn't want him he came back to you which is totally unfair and messing with your feelings.. but then because she did want to give it another go he thought hell yeah! i got mine until someone come back to me.he is abusing the fact he knows you like him and he shouldn't do that because then this gives you false hope about you guys ever becoming again.. this guy really isn't worth your time you clearly felt alot more in the relationship that he ever did and that just shows you're a better person than him and know what you want in life. you need to forget him now .move on and find a really lovely guy who'll treat you like the way you DESERVE to be treated in life and whom wont use you because they know you've got feelings for them still.Hope this helps.xxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Denizen +, writes (8 June 2009):
 There are two factors here, but maybe it's just one after all. First your boyfriend is emotionally immature. Some men never grow out of this phase and constantly move from woman to woman. As long as the women involved understand this, then no harm is done.
You however imagined your relationship was on a different footing to what it actually was. He was less attached than you thought and maybe even bored and looking for a new fillip to add some zest to his life. Some men go from partner to partner in constant search for this one dimension in a relationship.
I think you should look for someone better who will love you completely. The old adage about there being plenty of fish in the sea is still true. If you are looking for someone to be faithful then he isn't ready for this at the moment.
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