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reader, TAKARA  +, writes (15 May 2010):
i don't think you should i mean think about it ..we still have our whole life to have sex plus.. if your boyfriend really cares he can wait ..nd there's all the risks stds,hivs getting pregnant and MANY more soo pls don't risk all that just cus of sex ..nd if ur bf can't wait then you need to leave him because he must not really care!!:)i really hope you find this helpful!:D
another 13 yr old,
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): Stds and Hivs are always a risk along with pregnacy, but this is really a personal decision you should decide for yourself. I was told I'll know I'm ready when I am sure of the decision. If you have doubt you should wait. If this boy really likes you he'll respect your decision and wait. If not he may be one of those boys out there for sex.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): honestly i think ur too young to have sex...
but whos gonna stop you if yoou reallly want to do it..
just be care full use condoms
since ur starting puberty go to doctor and get birth control to regulate ur period if irregular and take full advantage of birth control again be carefull not to get any sti's
i suggest you look up wht sexual transmitted infections look like on the net and picture that evry time a guy wants to have sexd unprotected ....
again ur still young but we cnt really go with you evry where you to make sure u dnt have sex so just be carefull and use condoms
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 At 13 you are in the middle of puberty and think you know what is best for yourself, we have all been there and do things that we regret.
You are 13, you won't be with your boyfriend forever, i'm sorry but only very few people do stay together from a young age. You should wait for the right person to have sex with, someone that loves and really cares for you.
Sex is a big thing. It may not seem like it but there is an emotional side to it, the chances are you will regret it witch you will have to live with, also if people find out it will give you a cheap reputation witch isn't nice believe me on this one.
I advise you to wait until you are in a very serious relationship and know your completely in love and a little bit older than 13.
Good luck sweetie
Livia
xoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): see some things have happend to one on my family members... the guy asked if she wanted to have sex she said yes like an edoit she is the same age and then guess what happend he turned around saying i had sex with her and he promised not to tell anyone but if you trust him that much and if loves you that much i say go ahead it is your life and if you want to be a mom or whatever I am telling you it would not be that cool some people think it would be so I say if you want to then you should just be ready and use a CONDOM! be protected it is better than getting a disease!
be safe!
I hope I have helped!
GOOD LUCK YOUNG ONE to you and your sex life!
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reader, Skellington +, writes (13 June 2009):
 No, you are waaaaay too young.
Personally, I'm all for the rebellion, "do whatever you want" stuff, but sex at 13 is a bit much.
Wait till you're 16, that's a normal age and you'll be much more mature if there are any "surprises" say nine months later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): IN my opinion you are too young to have sex. But if you are willing to deal with the consequences that come with havin sex then go for it.
Just as long as you know you can get pregnant and get an std but if you feel you are mature and are physically and mentally ready than good luck. USE A CONDOM!!!
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reader, iLuvMusic14 +, writes (12 June 2009):
 I don't think u should but thats my opinion. I'm 14 and i don't think kids my age should but i know same do. Just think about if you don't have condoms or birth control you might get pregnet. Just keep safe and do not get pregnet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Sex can be a wonderful thing. Unfortunately most 13 year old girls are not emotionally equipped to have sex, and 13 year old boys are DEFINITELY NOT EMOTIONALLY EQUIPPED to have sex.
You have a long life ahead of you. Why rush things? Why risk pregnancy and miss out on lots of other great things that young people do?
There are dozens of things you and your boyfriend can spend time on besides sex... movies, long walks, kissing, sports, art galleries are just a few.
So my advice is "NO -- don't have sex with your boyfriend".
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reader, pebble +, writes (11 June 2009):
 You are mature enough to have sex if you are willing to deal with all the consequences of sex.
-figuring out TWO methods of birth control and getting him to agree
-able to get hold of the morning after pill should one or both of your methods fail
-to get STI checks BEFORE sex, both of you. Meaning a vaginal/cervical swab for you and a swab from the inside of his penis.
-to be prepared to go to the doctors and have your genitals examined should you pick up an infection. And to realise that some STIs will kill you (AIDs) and others will leave you infertile if left untreated (chlamydia).
-to deal with the fact that you might get pregnant, are you able to look after a child? Carry it in your body for nine months while still at school? Is your boyfriend prepared to get a full time job to support you both for the next 18 years? Are you willing to be woken up four times a night for the next 2 years or longer? Prepared to give up every spare penny you might have for nappies and milk? What if he leaves you?
-What about if he tells everyone at school after you've done it? How will you handle that?
When you can deal with all that stuff, then you are ready to have sex.
Good luck!
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reader, Hasden  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 No !! Don't do it until you're 20,
I'm serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): im 13 too, and have been with my boyfriend for about a year. iv never thought about doing that, and i wouldn't. You may think your in love, but if he's your first boyfriend.. you have alot more to come. dont rush things if you think your going to be together forever, because then you would have forever.
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reader, Smellyellie +, writes (11 June 2009):
 You need to do whatever you want to do. No-one can tell you what you want to do with yourself as it is your brain and body and your choice how you use it.
All I would say is make sure you know this is what you really want. Loosing your virginity should be something special and you should not rush it!! Think about this and ask yourself the question is this boy really the one you would like to do it with and not regret it afterwards!!
This is up too you!!
Let me know how things go and any other questions don't hesitate to ask me!!!
Ellie x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Forget if its legal or not. What you do behind closed doors is your buisness. If you want to have sex that is your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): babes, im 15 and i lost my virginity about a month ago to a boy im not actually going out with :S it was a bad thing to do and i regretted it so much afterwards because it wasnt anything like i thought it was going to be.
ive had sex another time since this and each time i regret it but i dont know why i do it, only because he wants to maybe? or maybe because i do generally love him im not sure but i didnt know all the risks either and i had a pregnancy scare afterwards when the condom came off.
im not giving you a lecture about it because believe me ive had it from all my friends since.Personally i think you are maybe a bit too young still and as the other posters have said its illegal...but then i cant really say much about that cos i was in the same boat.
But you do have to be really careful and its not as easy as you think by just putting a condom on because theres always a risk and it could go wrong but i know for some people like me i doesnt change things it just might help you to know and make sure you and him are serious first.
anyway babe i hope this helps (: if you wanna chat with me just message me and ill try and get back to you soon :)
xxxx
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reader, Livelife +, writes (11 June 2009):
I don't think that you should do it. The fact that you are here asking shows that maybe now is not the right time yet for you. Yes, you and your boyfriend may want to do it, but there are a lot of hormones that your body is getting used to at your age and it's going to make you want a lot of different things.
I think you should wait a while, let your bodies sort things out, and maybe by the time you are both of legal age you'll be more ready to make this decision on your own. If you do decide to go through with it, please be careful and use contraception (condoms, birth control, etc.) If you have more questions, feel free to message me or any of the other people here, we're here to listen. Please listen to what I said, and the good advice of the other responses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): You both really need to think about this one. I was 16 when I lost my virginity, and I was absolutely sure I was happy with it at the time, and I believed that I was in love with my boyfriend.
I'm now nearly 19 and have a much better understanding of the word love. I constantly tell my current boyfriend how much I regret sleeping with that first person, it makes me feel sick in fact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): If you boyfriend truely loved you he would wait give him the test tell him your not ready yet and if he really loves you he will respect your decision .
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): No.
The desire to experience something so common as having sex is an experience you don't need right now. It is not necessary for your well-being. If anything, it will mess up your mind and outlook on life because you will now know "the forbidden fruit" of carnal knowledge. This is a taboo not because religious authorities make it so but because wise people have realized that sexual knowledge requires a mature mind to understand it and to have the resources that it entails if a baby were to come along.
Nothing good can come out of having sex at 13 than waiting until you are mature enough to have real sex as the union of two mature people. You both are really still children in our civilized society and you still will remain children until you reach the age of majority where you live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Okay, i'm going to put aside your age for a second, and ask these questions:
How long have you been with him for?
Do you completely trust him?
Are you sure you're ready?
...I don't think you are
If you're hesitant about it by even a small percent, then it still means you're not ready, you might not realise that until after, but by then it'll be too late! Once you lose your virginity you can't get it back.
Onto your age, legally, no it's not OK, and 13 is still a very young age to lose it at - Even if you CAN answer those questions I asked above with a 'yes', and you've been with your boyfriend for a significant amount of time.
Of course, it's not my decision, but you should think very carefully about it, I think you should wait a few more years.
At whatever time you do choose to lose it, please use protection, and this does mean the pill and/or the implant or injection aswell as your boyfriend using a condom.
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reader, yanza +, writes (11 June 2009):
 ok hear is the question do you really want to look back and remember that at 13 i lost my virginity because me and my boyfriend wanted to?
what are the chances of you and him being together forever?
im 15 and personally i have been tempted but i held out knowing that i have the rest of my life to wait for the right person.
your only 13 and you have only just started life and it is technically illegal for you to be having sex at your age, and lets not forget about the huge responsibilitys that come with having sex are you prepared to get pregnant? are you prepared to have an STI or and STD infact? condoms are nott 100% protection no matter what brand or where you got them from accidents do happen.
but obviously it is no ones choice except yours but please remember all the problems and responsibilites that comee alone with having sex but please if you do decide to do it ALWAYS BE PROTECTED.
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reader, Your friend +, writes (11 June 2009):
 I wouldn't advise it. Beside all the things that could happen, sexually transmitted disease (regardless that he will tell you he is clean), pregnancy (don't think a condom always works..if he wears one) and the agony of losing him if he loses interest after you do it which is a common reaction from men. I'm a guy so I'm giving this to you from a male perspective. You have plenty of time and lots of opportunities in the future, no need to rush. Why don'y you say no and see what his reaction is, this might help you make a decision..Your Friend
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (11 June 2009):
 no sweety you guys are too young and underage.
wait until you're both alot older and when it feels right.
and possible more legal.
you don't want to rush these things hunny.
take your time with him don't just go ahead and have sex you have to be so careful as well due to diseases and pregnanices.
you should be on the pill and he should wear a condom but you guys are too young.
you're not legal
so you really shouldn't do it.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (11 June 2009):
 No.
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