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writes:Okay so, my boyfriend has recently stopped watching porn out of respect for me. I just recently found his old porn stash of dvds and he doesn't know that I know about them. I know I'm going to get a lot of responses about how I should talk to him about it and what not, but I just want to know if there is a way to ruin a dvd without visible proof? That way if he tries to watch it he can't. We live together in a small apartment so me finding it was inevitable.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 December 2011):
 Sure.... just get a strong magnet and pass it over/near them.....
Good luck....
P.S. Don't expect me to invite you to MY house to "watch movies" any time soon!!!!.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're all right. I just spoke to him about it and he tossed them all away right in front of me. Thanks guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're all right. I just spoke to him about it and he tossed them all away right in front of me. Thanks guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): So would you think it okay if he destroys something of yours he takes exception to?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 I hope you are kidding. Otherwise this is one of the lamest post I have read. If you ruin his stash ( and if he does not figure out it was you to ruin it, which is improbable since you live there too, and he knows how you feel about porn- it would not take Enstein to make 2 plus 2 ! ) and if he decides he wants to watch porn again, what would prevent him from just buying new porn material ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): Oh and I forgot to mention. Do you know how expensive porn is? Effectively what you're saying is you want to destroy 100's of dollars worth of his property. What if he decided to sell them off because he didn't need them anymore only for an angry buyer to tell him he's been ripped off? Say he even decided to use that money to treat you, how would you feel then? Actually given what you want to do you probably wouldn't care to be honest. It seems you care more about porn than he does and you actually care more about porn than your relationship too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): So out of respect for you he says he won't watch them and out of respect for him you're going to sneakily destroy them?
I think you'd do him a huge favour by doing it, so he can dump your sly, immature ass for damaging his property. Because simply there is no chance in hell all of his DVD's that he carefully stored away are suddenly all going to be damaged. If you think he's not going to think it was you, you're going to be in for a big shock.
Now if you're thinking that the only way he'd know they're damaged is if he decides to watch one, then you're even more of an idiot than I thought. Because first off you're playing games and trying to trick your own boyfriend, where's the trust there? Secondly we guys share our porn stash and lend them to our friends, so what happens if he decides of his own volition that they're useless to him, decides to give them all away and then gets a phonecall saying they're all broken and scratched, when he hasn't taken them out of the box since you told him you didn't want him watching them?
Grow up OP, if you want to get rid of them be a woman and ask him to get rid of them. Porn is an issue he gave up for you out of respect and you don't even have the decency and respect to just ask him to give away his stash? You're a drama queen then looking for a fight. You're sly, manipulative and devious if you do this and I guarantee he will run a mile if you do because there's no chance his entire stash will magically break while safely stored away, and frankly has he deserved to be treated like this by you?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 Nope, don't know how to destroy people's possessions in secret. Since your not interested in having a proper relationship built on honest talking, there isn't much advice I can give to help you out.
If you feel so strongly, and he has made a promise, what's the problem with getting a big dustbin, starting a bonfire in front of him and watching it together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): I don't suppose it has occurred to you that those videos will still be his property after your relationship ends. You will no longer have any business telling him what he can't watch then.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 Forget the childish games. You don't like them, he claims he doesn't watch them anymore, so treat them the way you'd treat any junk. Break them and toss them out. No fuss, no muss and no announcements.
If he asks about them, be matter of fact about what you did and advise him that is how you will handle any more porn you stumble across.
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 Are you sure you really want to do this? Apart from it not being your property and you have no right to destroy anybody else's property, including your boyfriend's, it show's a complete lack of respect for him and his property. My friend did this thinking she was being clever, what it actually achieved was that when he finally remembered they were there and went to get rid of them, he knew she was behind it and their relationship ended, simply because she didn't respect that it was his property. To be honest when she told me what she had done and how he had broken up with her, I told her I couldn't blame him , she had no right and it was wrong in so many ways, whether it's porn or not. I don't like porn, but I respect other people's property! You should do the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): I understand your feeling about him watching porn, many people do feel that way. Irregardless of whether the dvd's are porn or not, they are his property, not yours, and just because you live with him and are his girlfriend does not change that. Thus you have no right to destroy his property no matter what it is, or how you may feel about what is on the dvd's. It is a crime, and I would hope that you had more respect for your boyfriend's right than this. You realise that what you are considering is a crime, and you could end up in legal trouble for doing such a thing. Honestly it is a very immature way of handling the issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): I had to laugh when I read this!
I know the wise thing is to talk to him about it, ask why he feels the need to store it. But damaging it all is alot more satisfying,just a scratch would do it.
However, to be adult, then just talk to him, say you found them,he probably hasn't given it a 2nd thought, but be careful you don't scare him off with your rules.Maybe suggest you watch one together,then make fun of the actors/actresses.Cos to me, they are just funny.
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reader, eek +, writes (17 December 2011):
 i dont understand why this is such an issue to you. But yes its easy to ruin a disk without visible signs. Leaving it print side down on a hot radiator for several hours should do the trick. Or tell him to give them to a single friend. But honestly you need to work out why porn is such a big deal to you.
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