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writes:Hi everyone1 im 17 and dating a guy who is 22, he is my first bf and im crazy about him but here is the problem. i live with my brother and he dosen't know about it. He asked so many times if i was dating and i said no, i think if he finds out that the guy is 22 he will freak out and tell me to stop seeing the guy so should continue keeping this as a secret or should i just tell him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 You should tell your brother, he may surprise you and see that your honesty shows maturity. On the hand if he finds out your keeping it from him he may see that as a sign that your not mature enough to date this guy. It's best to be honest with and take it from there. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is 29 and ja he is my legal guardian.im still under age,the age is 18 but i don't have sex with him
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reader, freedom asuelimen  +, writes (16 December 2011):
i think u should tell him and see what happens next, because u cannot hide it 4 ever so it is better to let the cat out of the bag now that the relationship is stil you
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 December 2011):
 what is the legal age where you are?
here it is 18 and a 22 yr old can get in trouble for dating (i.e. being sexual)with a 17 yr old.
if you are close to or over legal age then you should tell him... the older you are the less age matters
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): Yes, tell your brother the truth about your boyfriend. The thing about keeping something like a relationship secret is that it becomes increasingly difficult over time to hide it (either that, or be honest about it - and I'm speaking from personal experience here). Your brother may not react as negatively as you fear; he'll see the fact that you choose not to lie to him as positive, even if he isn't initially accepting of the idea of you dating. How old is he, by the way? Is he your legal guardian?
Whatever happens, remember that your brother only cares about you and doesn't want to see you get hurt. Mine is the same... only at 15, he's four years younger than me! You're a young adult now, and with the right attitude you'll be able to demonstrate just that. Good luck and take care x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 December 2011):
 If you are serious about this guy well then the truth will eventually come out in the end. I think it is best just to come clean and be honest with your brother at least then he knows that you trust him and you are not lying to him. I know it might be a shock to him but it is your life therefore he needs to accept your decisions. But talking to him should help. He may be a bit angry but that is only because he loves you and he wants to protect you.
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reader, wiser now +, writes (16 December 2011):
Lying always creates bigger problems than before.... Had you been honest from the beginning you would not be in this situation. Your brother will freak out because you have been hiding this from him... If you were my sister I would ground you and tell your B/F to stay away or else.Next time give honesty a try.
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