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writes:Hello aunts and uncles, I hope you're enjoying the holidays! So, there was this guy that I used to like. Let's call him T. T is somewhat of a ladykiller, he has a ton of friends who are girls, and he's dated a lot of people. Recently, I was leaving school and he tackle-hugged me against a wall. I was surprised but also happy. He took me to our schools band room, but he was carrying me. Think "groom carrying a bride over the threshold" type of carrying. Once we got there, we basically talked for a good half hour, but then I had to leave because band practice was starting. I really thought he liked me! I was happy! Then, the next day, as I was going to sit at his lunch table (I sit there every day) one of my friends came up and told me that he'd asked out one of my good friends. They're going out, and have been for the past couple weeks. I felt heartbroken and teased, and I didn"t understand why he sent me the ssignals the day before. This happened as I said a few weeks ago, but I'd still like to maybe confront him about this false message he gave me. How should I go about this, if I should at all?
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reader, feralfox +, writes (26 December 2011):
As someone who falls for charming ladykillers quite often, I can say from experience that they are not the kind of boys you want to get involved with unless you aren't afraid of getting yanked around and confused. Like iAmHereTOHelpYou said, take it as a lesson learned. He sounds like a flirtatious boy, and he sounds like he's more interested in having fun than having a relationship. In fact, if you are very good friends with the girl he asked out maybe you should warn her that he has been flirting with other people so that she doesn't get hurt. Maybe she won't care and go out with him anyways, but there's a good chance he might flirt with her too and then move on when he's bored and wants something new. Sorry if that sounds harsh! But a lot of guys your age might not know what they want yet, especially if they are flirting with a lot of different girls. Don't hold it against him, but be careful and aware that some guys do this and protect yourself from getting too hurt!
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (26 December 2011):
 Don't confront him at all about this, it will just cause more drama that you don't need. Just leave it as a lesson learned that he is not the guy for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2011): Oh god! It's no different to when i was at school! same story new faces haha.Your young even if you had gotten together it would have lasted a month or two? I know it seems so important at your age but you will look back and laugh trust me!He was just being flirty, he's a guy its what they do. He spotted a girl he knew took her off for a nice heart felt chat, left and chose a different one the next day. I dont mean to sound harsh but it's the way of the world. He's a hormone filled young boy who couldn't you the day of the week let alone the name of his latest girlfriend.Don't worry they will be over soon, and then you will have your chance. But if you want my advice don't bother, go for a boy a year or so above you they are more mature (hopefully) just don't let yourself get used.As for saying something to him, i wouldn't, it will upset your friend who's with him, and he will probably act like it meant nothing to him and make you look stupid. Teenage boys are stupid, dont worry they get better. Not much i'll admit but a bit!
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