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writes:hey everyone, i just want to tell you all my life story cuz my friends don't get me. they're not mature enough to understand what i'm going through. ok im from africa, i came to america 2 and a half years ago, i live with my dad, i thought i was the happiest girl in the world when i came here, i thought i was finally gonna get those cute clothes, shoes and everything i see when i watch american movies. but i was wrong, november last year my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer, it was in advance stage so it affected his kidney and spread all over his body. i live alone with my dad there's nobody here except me, i try my best to help him, my step sisters, they are american they dont even come to see him at all but when he wasn't sick he would go pick them up at 6:00am in the morning for school not even high school its college while i tell him not to take me to school so i walk so that he wouldn't get tired when he goes to work later. its been pretty hard living him at home alone and going to school cuz all i think of in school is his health, he lost alot of weight since he's been sick not healthy weight loss, just yesterday my stepmom came, she wouldn't have came if my dad didn't call her to come, as i was doing my homework she came to where i was sitting and told me my dad was gonna die, i didn't know if i should cry or just sit there think about its like to not have a dad, i couldn't believe she just drop the bomb on me like that without even thinking how i would react maybe i would have gone to the kitchen, take the knife and kill myself, but she didn't care the way she said it made me so mad, she didn't even have faith anymore, i dont want him to die, my dad has worked every single day of his life and he would not get to retire so he can enjoy all the years hes been working for. in case anything happens, that means i will be going to a foster home or back to africa where i belong or stay with my stepmom that told me he will die and be treated like dirt, i dont even even know what to think, i think my life is the worst life anybody could ever live, i dont care if am poor i just dont want him to die i want him to live to see me as the doctor he wants me to be in future, i hope he gets better i just want everything to get back to the way it was. sometimes i cry myself to sleep and hope everything gets better when i wake up, nut thats not exactly how its works.i know this is not a question but i just wanted to tell someone that will get me snd hopefully give me some advice cuz my friends dont care. i told one of my friend what's happening and stuff, and she was telling me to date her cousin. i dont even care about dating right now. all i want is a complete family.thanks for reading my story. this is all i could write for now.
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reader, izzygurl +, writes (10 April 2012):
izzygurl is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks...i really appreciate your advise,i just hope everything gets back to the way it was.
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reader, BeautifulWorld +, writes (1 April 2012):
Hi darling, please stay strong.... God is big and he will surely help you. You never know what could happen just stay positive and stay by your fathers side. I know how it is, i live with my dad just like my mother passed away when i was young and my father is all i have, i love him very much. I know how you feel and how hard it is to see your father suffer, but just stay positive God is big and great.
Please be strong, take care of yourself and never feel alone because you aren't. 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2012): Oh, izzygurl, my heart is breaking for you. You obviously love your father very much. It is awful to face the death of a parent, but especially when you are so young and feeling alone.I don't know how your step-mother told you the news, but she must care for you on some level to have told you. It's not an easy thing to tell someone and very difficult to know how to say it.Speak to a school counsellor or a teacher you particularly like. Do you attend church? Is there someone there you could speak to? You need support to help you through this painful time in your life.Your father may live - like the Claraw1 experienced - for a longer time than you expect. You should make the most of this time with your father - tell him you love him, make the best of every day with him. Your father will be happier if he knows you will work hard at school and try to make the best life you can in America. He took you to a new country for a reason - to make a good life for you both. It is terribly sad that he won't be able to live out those plans with you, but it would be a wonderful memorial to him (and ease his emotional pain) if you made a success of your life.I wish you every blessing and support.
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (31 March 2012):
 Hello sweetie. I know how hard it is and how scary it is to think that your Dad may not get to see you grow up and be all the things that you have both been dreaming of for you. When I was 14, my brother who is 14 years older than me told me that my Dad was going to die as he had emphazema (lung cancer) and airways passage disease, I was devastated and it was all I could worry about, when I was at school I would worry about him being at home and that I should be there with him, at night I would cry myself to sleep and be terrified that when I woke up in the morning, I would find that he had passed away in the night. My advice is go and talk to a counselor at school, or a teacher whom you feel comfortable with talking to. I did that and it did help. I know how horrible a situation this is, and your step-mom was horrible for the way she said this to you. Nobody knows what the future holds, and unfortunately some people like your step-mom have no idea how to be understanding or deal with situations like this. I know with myself I was a mess at first when my brother told me my Dad was going to die, I talked to the school counselor and it did help me a lot, My Dad passed away when I was 31 years old, which was much longer than I thought he would be around for. The best thing to do is show him you love him and be there for him and make everyday the best possible day. Please go and talk to a teacher or a counselor at your school. If you need to just talk to someone please send me a personal message, I will be more than happy to help you if I can. Take care sweetie.
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