He said he's met someone else ...
Q. I'm sorry. I cant write all the details of this at the moment as I am so upset.My boyfriend has told me that he has met someone else. I cant understand it. He still seemed like he was in love with me when I last saw him on Tuesday. He went to his ...
A. 3 March 2014: I would love to meet your face and say "thank you" for such strong words of honesty from your soul..
For your soul loved words I will give you the skinny.
You are a fully developed lover, to be sure. So you did nothing wrong.
How you deal with it... (read in full...)
Women, do you prefer it when a man delays ejaculation?
Q. I just want to find out if delayed ejaculation is necessarily than premature ejaculation where the female perspective is concerned. I sleep on a regular basis with sex workers. Normally, I ejaculate within a minute or tow, sometimes even within ...
A. 3 March 2014: Such an interesting question. Are you saying you can do one or the other? Hard and quick or soft and long lasting? It's really up to you or maybe your control or your letting go of control. Guys who are into the practice of the ride are hard and... (read in full...)
What do you do when its always you doing the contacting? if stop I may lose what friends I have.
Q. We all get busy in life, work, family, hobbies, etc and at times it's not easy to see friends/acquaintances on a regular basis, some people we see regularly, some not often at all. Sometimes I feel like I am always the one doing the texting or ...
A. 12 February 2014: "I might end up with no one if I leave it to them!" Here is the root of your problem. That's why it's so good to write about problems, because as we write away on a tangent, we will find a few things we hide from ourselves. So what can you do?... (read in full...)
The last convo we had he said I was acting like a psycho and wants me to leave him alone. How do I fix all this?
Q. I've been dating this guy for aboyt 2 months. He has his own business and works crazy hours and gets stressed about it. In the beginning we spent a lot of time together. We went out and did enjoyable things together. Then he started a really huge ...
A. 1 November 2013: Sorry, but he's a guy, I'm pretty sure you're done. Don't take it personal. In your world relationships make the time and that's ok, that's normal. If a man is too busy during the first 2 3 months, he's not into you. But that means nothing ... (read in full...)
My husband said he was only on the dating site to look at the pictures
Q. I found out my husband had been going on hookup/dating sites. He claimed he was using photos for masturbation vs going to porn sites. At first he lied and denied it at all. He said he didn't know how those sites got on his phone. (And I found them ...
A. 1 November 2013: I don't know, sounds like his mother shamed him and made him have to hide his sexuality to masturbate to pictures rather than have full contact intimacy. Many men do not know how to have real sex lives. I'm sure many go to the grave thinking, "shit, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said "I love you" so quickly! How long does it take for them to know they're in love?
Q. I'm 18 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He told me he loved me for the first time very early in our relationship (2 weeks) and it kinda freaked me out how early he said that. For a while I just wouldn't say it back ...
A. 1 November 2013: When you've been hurt in other relationships and someone comes along and proves himself to you. It says to you, Finally I can relax, I'm loved! The red flags are. Too young to understand. Too early to really know the real you. Too heart broken o... (read in full...)
I have some doubts about him as a longterm partner!
Q. My boyfriend asked me to marry him, and now I am torn. Idontknowif anyone else went through the same analyzing stage before getting married, but this is what I am doing right now, and question myself if this is real love and if few qualities that ...
A. 23 October 2013: Oh, I must say, I get really good vibes from this post. I suggest you try not to hard to control him, I think he has alot you can learn from him. How about living in his shoes. Sounds sweet in alot of respects. He seems to keep his customer... (read in full...)
He has lost all faith in me after I snooped, how can I put things right?
Q. I have been in a lovely relationship with a guy in his 40s. His wife left 3 years ago after they mutually separated after 20 years due to growing apart. She came home pregnant and moved out shortly after with her new partner. My boyfriend has a ...
A. 23 October 2013: Snooping into someones stuff means you're afraid to ask outright for answers or set limitations.
Which means you think someone has more power in the relationship. However, you're actions have got people talking and low and behold I can hear the ... (read in full...)
I just need to feel heard and loved without it being the lead up to sex sometimes. Advice?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm looking for an outside perspective on my relationship with my boyfriend please? We have been together for 4 years but due to the fact he works evenings and I work 9-5 we can only see each other twice a week max for a couple of ...
A. 23 October 2013: twice you mention "he feels hurt"
Well, if that isn't manipulation at it's best I don't know how else to spell it.
He pushes the reset button everytime you want to talk about mmm.. ANYTHING. You're not in a relationship your in HIS relation... (read in full...)
I have lost attraction to my wife since she gained a lot of weight.
Q. Hi i have a problem,my wife is fat she has put on weight,I requested, advised her to decrease her weight, but she not taking any step to do it,due to this i am annoyed how shall i tell her that i am not able to manage my sexual intercourse, i don't ...
A. 8 October 2013: Ok, Have read your past posts. I have very good news.
You two are going to be just fine.
When women get fat so does the inside of their vaginal walls.
And by what you say about the size of your penis.
You guys are now a match.
However,... (read in full...)
She's high-stress and overreacts
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. My girlfriend gets upset at me when I simply try to communicate and says really hurtful stuff in the process. My girlfriend is extremely high stress and I'm very laid back. Since she's so high stress, in gener...
A. 8 October 2013: I say cut contact, at least for a while. Until she either finds a way to deal with stress, like we all have to.
Stand up to her, lay it on the line.
If she can't handle that then I'd say move on.
If this has nothing to do with you and your act... (read in full...)
He spends more time online and in chat rooms than with me - what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm on the verge of tears, I have no idea what to do. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and soul, but lately he's become so enamored with this virtual chat game called IMVU. He spends more time on that game then he does ...
A. 8 October 2013: If you can't beat 'em, leave 'em.
But if you think about it, he's addicted. You want him addicted to you? Disappear, eventually during a power outage he'll be "mm where did she go"
But by that time you may have a life and maybe a new bf.
You... (read in full...)
Why did my ex send me a photo of him and his new girl?
Q. So my ex boyfriend and I haven't talked since we broke up. He has nerve to send me a picture of him and his new girl. I'm not going to lie, it did break me. I was getting over him and I'm happy for him but why would he do that? ... I need help:-(...
A. 27 June 2013: WHY? Because he wanted to get a reaction. The one you had, because he new you would have it.
So have your reaction, but never let him see you sweat.
But never under any circumstances retaliate, because
A) You're above that !!! Right?
and ... (read in full...)
It's has been 4 days and no text. Is he still into me or not?
Q. So, I met this guy through a family friend, and its been a week since we met. He and I had so much fun on a date (not an official date). He and I flirted- so I'm pretty sure that hes interested. We exchanged numbers, and he even gave me his US ...
A. 21 February 2013: Don't move on, move forward.
Don't text him, just do your life.
If he moves towards you, then call it.
Date or don't, but for now, forget about it.... (read in full...)
When should I call it a day with relationships?
Q. When should I call it a day with relationships? I'm 26 and have never been able to stay in a relationship for more than a couple of months. I get bored easily, I'm a loner and don't like being tied down. I keep thinking it will be different with any...
A. 21 February 2013: I think maybe you are choosing men who you don't have alot of interest in. You may pick them so you don't feel challenged. Or you may pick them because you have an insecurity or are afraid of vulnerability. You are probably choosing men who you ... (read in full...)
After all these years, why do I still think about my past love?
Q. I volounteer at the local youth center, and with the help of my mentors have building up a good network systems. About 4 years ago I met this particular youth worker, at the time I really didn't see how amazing he was till after I got to know hi...
A. 30 January 2013: Oh I don't agree with the status quo on this at all.
When I remember my ex (ex's) I can write the best poetry.
I have used all the things that I loved about them to discover what I DO like in men and of course because of the expired RS what I D... (read in full...)
Escape from this narcissistic lover
Q. My lover is a Narcissist but perhaps this is it.. First off all I am going to post a link so you can see what has been happening http://www.dearcupid.org/question/jeky...
A. 30 January 2013: Yes, you're alone with this personal experience, but not alone where it comes to many others' similar experiences. Just type in the search and read on. I had one of those. He still calls. No biggie anymore, we talk about once every 3 months. My ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to hardly know someone after going out on 2 dates?
Q. Is it normal to barely know someone after 2 dates? I'm 20 years old, recently met this 21 year old guy that comes to my university, we both live near campus and have seen each other twice. First time he came around to my house and the 2nd time I w...
A. 30 January 2013: Think of the people in your life you know well and trust.
Friends, co-workers, teachers, etc.
How long did those relationships take to build.
No big difference except chemistry and that is one difference you have to be very careful of.
No ki... (read in full...)
What should I do? Call it quits until he gets his stuff together or tough it out a little longer?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 months. I've known him 9 months before actually making it official. Anyways at this time he's currently jobless and Car less . He has been applying for any kinda of job yet nothing has come up. He ...
A. 30 January 2013: Well making it official may also include going through the bad times, the dry times, the honey I've got a headache times. Question to ask yourself is do you resent his character or do you resent the situation. If it's his character you'll have to ... (read in full...)
How can I seduce the man at work?is he even interested in me?
Q. I am recently new in my team and this man has just caught my eye. he is atleast 20 years older i'm 22. He is single!! not no home wrecker. But we get along like house on fire. So far its just the glances, smiling, cheaky comments. Today h...
A. 15 November 2012: The most intoxicating way to seduce a man.
IGNORE him..
I think it's an ego thing, which I think is 10x's the size of their @#@#% which is probably a good thing.. I think...... (read in full...)
I'm an intelligent woman losing her wits over a crush on my professor!
Q. Adult Woman Crush on Professor, This is extremely distracting to me. I have not been able to fully focus in class, I got my first B+ in a class that is an easy A+ (due to the fact I was more concerned how I looked prior to class than going over ...
A. 15 November 2012: You are not in lust with this man, you are in lust with THE WORD.
I have one such relationship, mine however is equivalent to a french poet. Love his words so dearly, they are often my life saving breath.
We were once together, it was beautifu... (read in full...)
What is romantic? Summer or winter?
Q. whether you're seeing someone, or in a relationship do you find it's more romantic in the summer or winter? I would have assumed it'd be summer, but then my mate says he finds winter is better. What do you guys think? And also, can you mind saying ...
A. 15 November 2012: Summer is fun and rock n' roll and whoo hoo.
But I remember many times, infront of fireplaces, snow falling silently, warm embraces, soft places.
Yes, let it snow let it snow let it snow.
... (read in full...)
Are these men just time wasters?
Q. ok, I am all but a young girl but I still get very puzzled by some male behavior: there are these two guys, not even one, two, who once in a while start a chat with me, but when we actually meet at the pub or with friends don't really ever come clo...
A. 15 November 2012: Does it matter, it's just two guys.
Don't bother with them if you don't like their style, it'll only confuse you.
There are men who will fit your needs. Just focus on those guys.
Forget the rest. If you go shopping for a red dress do you spend... (read in full...)
I am getting fed up with my boyfriends ex wife
Q. I am getting fed up with my boyfriends ex wife. She is too dependent on him for jobs and advice and see`s him as her best friend. Yes, granted, I think if there was any chance of getting him back she wouldnt waste a moment. I have told him my ...
A. 13 November 2012: The more you criticize her, the more he attaches to HER
the more you show jealousy, the more he attaches to HER
The more you create stipulations with him, the more he attaches to HER
The more you challenge her, the more POWER she gets
The mo... (read in full...)
My husband of twenty years has been cheating on me for over half of our marriage!
Q. I have been married to my husband for almost 20 years. I am 48 and he is 65! I recently found out he had been seeing this girl in her 20's "off and on" (whatever that means) for 14 years! They hooked up when she was 17 years old! I never ...
A. 13 November 2012: I'm missing a big chunk of your story. Like 12 months of it.
What happened after he got home with a damaged truck?
You split, you got back together, was there any counseling?
What has you asking online at this point for suggestions?
Has there bee... (read in full...)
It seems all we do is argue
Q. I am 28 years old married for two years with a 15 month old son. My husband and I have been arguing a lot. To me it seems like he isn't happy but when I say anything he says its me, that I'm always miserable and start fights with him. I see things ...
A. 13 November 2012: Simple is as simple does.
Do this and than do nothing. Keep this short and to the point and say it calmly. Calmly.....
"Honey, if there was an emergency right now, if we needed you to drive us or "Johnny" to the hospital right now, could you?" ... (read in full...)
I know I've messed him around. What might he be thinking?
Q. Met a guy, talked for hours, kissed, he walked me home and when I didn’t want him to leave took me to his where we cuddled (no sex just kissing – despite him having an erection not once did he try anything, he was a gent). He took me in a taxi ...
A. 13 November 2012: You're a free agent, why would you think you messed things up?
You can do whatever you want, you sound confident and comfortable with the status quo. Life is good.
He could have had many dates, flings, friends in as much time. I wouldn't put any ... (read in full...)
Do you prefer texting or calling?
Q. Hey everyone, I need to ask all you agony aunts if you prefer texting or calling? I personally prefer texting,like if someone calls me I don't like it,I just don't answer and text that person..cuz I'm more comfortable texting!you know with callin...
A. 13 November 2012: I personally prefer things in writing. Not only to fall back on but as a daily diary and scheduler.
However if a guy has the voice like Hugo Weaving or Carl Sagan. Well.. the answer is obvious... ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my frigid husband of 20 years?
Q. I need advice on whether to end my marriage of 20 years. I have 2 kids, age 11 and 14. I am a Stay at Home Mom. My husband does not initiate sex, has no interest in sex but keeps me around. Probably to do the housework and childcare. Strange ...
A. 13 November 2012: SAVE YOURSELF. You're going to have to get off the "marriage" kick. I mean, forget about thinking the "marriage" is the glue that makes you guys tick. You're going to have to stop making excuses, works late, kids, house slave.. whatever. He's not... (read in full...)
Why can't I say the word "Love" to anyone?
Q. I've known this guy for three years and we were just friends and the other day he said he loved me, but i just cant get the words out of my mouth. I dont no how i feel, i've never been able to tell anyone i love them, not even the people who are the ...
A. 13 November 2012: Well, maybe you've attached too much fear to the word.
Or maybe it represents too much control. If I love you, I'm responsible for your feelings. Maybe there are sad memories around it, a dying pet or family member. Everything I love dies kind... (read in full...)
His comment has damaged my self esteem. What should I do now?
Q. Basically, my crush called me ugly indirectly a few days back. He did indeed mention that he was joking, however, this is not the first time something like this has happened. It really crushed my self esteem, especially since they were talking about ...
A. 13 November 2012: 2 RED FLAGS He verbally abused you, name calling, bullying etc. look it up. Then when you stand up for yourself, he gets mad and shuts down. This is the definition of manipulative control. It may get worse, you'll have to either drop him or keep ... (read in full...)
What do you do when everyone around you is happy and you arent?
Q. Why is it that everyone around me either getting engaged getting married having a baby or their pregnant, although I am happy for them it's really hard to be happy when I'm 29 years old and I'm not married or engaged or anything, I'm a single ...
A. 13 November 2012: Yes define happiness.
A child's smile
A good meal
A trip to the park
A hot bath
A good sister or brother
A belly laugh
A paid bill
An education
A job well done
A bowl of cherries
What is your bliss?... (read in full...)
I have to break up with him but I don't know how to!
Q. Well, how to begin... I am 26. year old woman who is in love with man 25 years older than me. So we met in very strange way and we loved each other from the first moment we shook hands. He is from another country and we have seen each other not ...
A. 13 November 2012: Write two stories one you stay the other you go.
See all what you think will happen or want to happen.
Read them and see which story you like best, follow that story.... (read in full...)
How can I get over my nervousness and do sexual things to my boyfriend?
Q. How can get over my nerves in the bedroom and get some confidence? I've been with my partner a while now and the sex is great between us, hes incredible at everthing he does and I want to return the favour but I get so nervous I chicken out. I feel ...
A. 13 November 2012: Tequila, a pair of nylons, soft light, and some creativity.
And knowing that you can do no wrong, a guy will never not like anything you do to them. Never this side of total S&M and that's a thin line too.
... (read in full...)
If she didn't like m,e, why did she go out with me?
Q. I met this girl on a train and we hit it off quite well. I took her number and asked her out for a date, quite specifically saying that iI want the first date to be in a nice restaurant. it went well. We also had coffee another time and were texting ...
A. 13 November 2012: She's sadly obligated through tradition, religion, culture.
You might like peanut butter cup cakes or basketball or your left eye might be .9 mm smaller than your right eye.
This is an "Arranged" marriage. It's not personal, which is the sad part... (read in full...)
Masturbation Question
Q. Can i marstabate whilst on a period?...
A. 13 November 2012: As Doctor Suess would say
In a house
with a mouse
In a box
with a fox
You can Masturbate here and there
You really shouldn't give a care
... (read in full...)
I spent months trying to get over him, now he tells me he fancied me.
Q. So after some time trying to get over a friend who's in a relationship with someone else, he tells me, when we're both a bit drunk and talkative, that he 'really fancied' me when he first me me. Well that's that progress out of the window. W...
A. 13 November 2012: Well you'll have to ask him when he's sober or keep him drunk. LOL. ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to ask my boyfriend to touch my stomach when we are intimate?
Q. I am a big girl with many self-confidence issues. My boyfriend of two years tells me that he loves all of my curves, but almost avoids touching my stomach whenever we cuddle. What is the best way to ask him to touch my stomach when we are intimate?...
A. 13 November 2012: Touch it yourself, ooo and ah and let him know you are good with all of you. Guys tend to gravitate towards whatever the girl is getting off on. Also bake some bread and let him kneed it. Get him in the habit of experiencing joy and fun with the ... (read in full...)
Need advice, I'm having trouble getting over my ex-girlfriend.
Q. So... I'm having trouble getting over my ex-girlfriend. The thing is we've been on and off for almost a decade. This year though we've been getting really far apart. earlier this year I backed off because she wasn't showing interest at all, ...
A. 13 November 2012: You must find the awesome power of the word "NO"
That's your elixir. ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I'm embarrassed by him because he lacks ambition and intelligence. I feel so bad about all this.
Q. I constantly wonder if anyone out there has a similar problem to mine? I have been married to a wonderful man for 4 years and together 11. We separated for 4 months a some years ago and when we got back together decided to get married. I love thi...
A. 10 November 2012: Your first mistake was thinking you could change him.
Your second mistake was trying. Your third was mistaking the value of love vs the value of basic values. This leads everyone down a path of guilt and illusion. Not a place you want to spen... (read in full...)
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