I love my husband but I'm embarrassed by him because he lacks ambition and intelligence. I feel so bad about all this.
Q. I constantly wonder if anyone out there has a similar problem to mine? I have been married to a wonderful man for 4 years and together 11. We separated for 4 months a some years ago and when we got back together decided to get married. I love thi...
A. 10 November 2012: Your first mistake was thinking you could change him.
Your second mistake was trying. Your third was mistaking the value of love vs the value of basic values. This leads everyone down a path of guilt and illusion. Not a place you want to spen... (read in full...)
How do I get past caring for my ex?
Q. Hi me and my ex has been split for 7 n half months. I left him due tks his drinking problems basically i just had enough of the lies and bein let down all time. We have a daughter together and i have started dating. Thing is i still care about my ...
A. 18 June 2012: Glad we are here for you, if you feel in the least unstable or needy, keep in touch, many of us have been through this.
Take special special care.
Feel ya..
... (read in full...)
Online guy--we're going to meet should I take a parent the first time?
Q. so three years ago i met a guy online, he lives in another country . So we were friends for about a year then it kind've became an online relationship when he told me he liked me and i liked him back. We talk on video call etc and ive spoken to his ...
A. 16 June 2012: Now there is a girl who knows how to take care of herself.
Hats Off, Let us know how it went.... (read in full...)
I feel that my boyfriend is ashamed of me and is keeping me away from his inner circle and family
Q. Im 21 and my bf is 30.... and we have been together for almost a year. When I first met him I was just head over heels for him because he's everything I thought I wanted. But lately I just keeping asking myself should I leave. I mean we get along ...
A. 16 June 2012: Never look at potential. "the man he could be"
You must accept him at face value for the man he is today.
Never count on people changing.
Myself I got out. It's your choice, give it some time, planning, thinking. Don't rush forth in an emot... (read in full...)
My BF says he doesn't need to wear a condom because he smokes.... is this true?
Q. My boyfriend smokes so should he wear a condom when we start to have sex because I've heard it's more difficult for a girl to get pregnant from a boy who smokes cigarettes?...
A. 15 June 2012: He's blowing smoke alright.
He's blowing smoke out his $ss.
Sperm can live in the uterus for 5 days, an egg will live for 12 to 24 hours.
Those sperm are on a mission, the egg just sits there like a lovely flower with no worries.
That is also ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact, are we just not compatible? He's often late or changes plans
Q. Here is the thing, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and have this pet peeve with him. I am not sure where my relationship stands with him at this point I became very angry and probably ruined our relationship. My bf has no concept of time,...
A. 15 June 2012: The bottom line is this. Take me as I am or don't take me at all. It's about your boundaries and accepting him
If you can't now and he doesn't change, make sure you have alot of tylenol on hand for your headaches.
... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is into anal sex and doesn't like the way my vagina looks
Q. This is kind of embarrassing but here we go. I have been in a LDR for several years. Not long after we started dating my boyfriend talked me into, um, pleasuring myself on camera for him. So I did and it's become a regular thing where we do it ...
A. 15 June 2012: Do you know his last name?
Do you know his phone number?
Do you know his parents, friends?
Do you know anything more than the fact he's a very scary person.
Whatever info, solid info you have you need to share that with someone you know.
I've ... (read in full...)
How do you safely have sex twice in a row while using condoms?
Q. This might be a little TMI, but that's why I'm here rather than asking a friend. So my partner and I rely on condoms and we frequently like to go twice in a row. I get REALLY nervous trying to put on the fresh condom on the second time. There's ...
A. 15 June 2012: Sperm can live in the uterus for 5 days but only about 5 minutes when exposed to air.
So give your selves a break of say 10 minutes and you'll have no worries.
Also did you know that the female egg lasts 12-24 hours.
Sperm will wait at her ... (read in full...)
How to regain our normal sex life after two pregnancies?
Q. my wife is not interested in sex relation after having two daughters whereas we had both feel more and enjoy in sex relation in earlier. how to regain sex as earlier? please suggest me. skumar...
A. 15 June 2012: A babysitter
A hotel
A bottle of bubbly
A hot tub
A few candles
A Do not Disturb sign
And
A card you gave her years ago to set the romance back in time... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this guy?
Q. Hi, Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we see one another every fornightly sometime weekly has he lives away with work. We get on great, I've met his family been invited on their holidays n...
A. 15 June 2012: Well you said you love him, now you're both at a new stage.
It'll be different and he may blow hot and cold. But you've set the temperature a bit higher. So put it on the windowsill in your heart and let it cool. Things sound good. It's all comi... (read in full...)
How do I get past caring for my ex?
Q. Hi me and my ex has been split for 7 n half months. I left him due tks his drinking problems basically i just had enough of the lies and bein let down all time. We have a daughter together and i have started dating. Thing is i still care about my ...
A. 15 June 2012: Read the book "co-dependant no more"
Read it again.
than read it again.
You're doing a difficult and important thing for everyone.
You're the hero in your story here. Your life will shine as will your daughters. Congratulations ... (read in full...)
How do I get enough confidence to have sex with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7, almost 8 months and they have been amazing. He is such a great guy and is so good to me. The only problem is that we haven't had sex yet. He has been very patient with me, and it isn't that I don't want to have ...
A. 15 June 2012: Explain ahead of time to him about your issues, insecurities, vulnerabilities, have that talk first. I'm sure if he loves you he'll reassure you every step of this journey. Be comfortable with this talk, be open, that's the start of good love ... (read in full...)
Have you ever said "I'll love you forever" and then changed your mind?
Q. Hi this is a question going out to all you ladies out there Just wondering if you have ever said ' i love you forever' or ' i want to be with you forever ' or ' i will always be your girl ' to someone you have been in love with? andddd wait for ...
A. 15 June 2012: Well we only get in life as far as our fears take us.
I say if you want two feet in, you're going to have to stop saying. I love my fears forever. Drop your top 3 most feared issues and you may find the road is long and clear.... (read in full...)
What makes girls like bastards?
Q. im a smart and honest guy about to be a sophmore:) But it seems like girls go after the asshole dumbass guys? im an average looking guy i wear collared shirts everyday because i like to have class. what makes girls like bastards?...
A. 15 June 2012: Firstly why are you calling men Bastards.
You are one.
It's not the bad boy image, it's the masculine image.
Tuff, sturdy, strong, capable, protective, powerful, leader, team player, ambitious, aggressive.
Some women will look for a passive ma... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signed up on dating sites
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend is signed up for a few dating site and signed up recently. I know from our past he's just gonna say it was for point for some game he's playing but am I the only one that thinks is disrespectful and sneaky? This is ...
A. 15 June 2012: Play in his ball park, see if he likes it.... (read in full...)
Women don't like me because I am short!
Q. hi everybody, if u have read about my problems in the past, u wil realise that i hav a major self esteem issue. i dnt loke myself because of my height. it is sad to adaadmit but yea it is true and i need help. well i am about 5 tall and have ne...
A. 15 June 2012:
4' 8? Gary Coleman
5' 0? Danny DeVito
5' 2? Paul Williams
5' 2½” Dudley Moore
5' 3? Prince
5' 5? Michael J. Fox
There are many others.
What is probably happening is that you get too nervous about your height and it eff... (read in full...)
I can't see myself with anyone else
Q. there was this guy i fell in love with in high school our senior year he would ditch his friends to sit next me and he always would be flirting with me my friends thought he liked me well he moved and went to college and i went to college in our ...
A. 15 June 2012: Surprise yourself and date some guys. You may find you can see yourself with many men. Don't get too hung up on this one guy just yet. Futures are fates, let's stick to today's business. You've given your time, energy and love to someone who is ... (read in full...)
Am I stuck in the FRIENDS ZONE forever with this guy??? Help me get out!!!!!!
Q. Hi all. Can you tell me if a girl can ever get out of the Friends Zone with a guy? Is it possible? Is it impossible? Can a guy start to see a woman differently other than just a friend in time? Will it never happen? Is there ANY hope for me...
A. 15 June 2012: Can't help you, asked the same thing tonight.
I'm blaming it on Venus retrograde.
Wait until the 26th of June when it goes direct.
Then lay one on his lips, see what transpires.
... (read in full...)
Why does he lie about his drinking when he's out of town?
Q. Ive have been married 25 years my husband used to drink quite a bit he stopped, only now when he goes out of town to work , he sits a round and drinks till 12 and one in the morning. he calls me speech is slurred , knowing he is drinking, I ask ...
A. 15 June 2012: What are you afraid of?
Him starting to drink again in your home?
Him finding an excuse to be unfaithful?
Him getting into trouble or an accident?
Him getting physically too sick to hold a job?
Him getting physically sick period?
What are yo... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that there is a difference between an accident and an intentional reaction?
Q. I accidently kicked my husband in the groin (he was standing behind me) as I was explaining to my older son that it was unacceptable to constantly thump my younger son. My husband suddenly ran and lunged at me with his thick MBT shoes on and kick...
A. 15 June 2012: This can't be the first time he has been abusive.
There is no way this is the first time.
Do you think you should seek outside assistance?
... (read in full...)
Should I give her some space and time to think instead of being so enthusiastic to go see her?
Q. So, about a month ago I met the most wonderful woman. She is 31 with 2 kids, and I'm 26 with one. We both are recently divorced. (both our ex's cheated about 9 months ago) we have known each other for a few years, (I went to school with her ex, and ...
A. 15 June 2012: In the beginning there was the light and it was good.
Keep it shiny, but remember if you polish the stone to often it will wear away.
Moderation is key.
She's got a red flag on your habit, if you need the habit more than her or she agrees to it... (read in full...)
I feel that my boyfriend is ashamed of me and is keeping me away from his inner circle and family
Q. Im 21 and my bf is 30.... and we have been together for almost a year. When I first met him I was just head over heels for him because he's everything I thought I wanted. But lately I just keeping asking myself should I leave. I mean we get along ...
A. 15 June 2012: I just left a relationship like this. It reeks havoc on your self esteem. I left him, and he wrote back simply saying "well, we had good times"
So when I got out NC, period. He was as cold and callus as a clam. I hate him now. I see the ligh... (read in full...)
Well basically my girl left me because she feels I'm buying her too much and I need advice ?
Q. I'm 43 and I'm dating a 30 year old lady from Ireland for about 8 month's now . Things got off to a brilliant start we met at a gathering we had sort of similar friends , were introduced and got talking . I thought she one of the most preeties...
A. 15 June 2012: Well she's down to earth and you're flying with the jet set.
All is well, you have no worries.
Here is what you do. You send here a letter in the letter you put in a spoon a cheap old spoon. Added to that letter is an invoice for your donation... (read in full...)
Ex back w his ex. Do I interfere or take revenge ?
Q. My now ex-boyfriend broke my heart. Twice. And now I'm feeling the need for revenge. Basically we dated a year and a half total - there was a break in between when I caught him in an online affair. But I gave him a second chance only to have him...
A. 15 June 2012: Nah, it's come back to bite you. I've been burned, we all have at one point. But I'm a silent, patient person. Silence is golden and you'll see, what comes around goes around. For me in one instance it was 35 years before I witnessed a perso... (read in full...)
Online guy--we're going to meet should I take a parent the first time?
Q. so three years ago i met a guy online, he lives in another country . So we were friends for about a year then it kind've became an online relationship when he told me he liked me and i liked him back. We talk on video call etc and ive spoken to his ...
A. 15 June 2012: Make it a public place and have a parent stand in the wings incase it gets crazy. 3 years is a long time, if he was lets say working with a sex ring, he wouldn't have wasted this much time. But you never know.
Best play it safe. Also make sure... (read in full...)
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