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*lackHeart24
writes:Dear Cupid, I'm on the verge of tears, I have no idea what to do. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and soul, but lately he's become so enamored with this virtual chat game called IMVU. He spends more time on that game then he does with me, almost as if it's becoming his reality. It's gotten to the point I'm asking him to spend some time together and all his answers are "in a few" or "im busy". I don't know what to do, it hurts so much that i'm crying, please help me
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reader, citadel  +, writes (8 October 2013):
If you can't beat 'em, leave 'em.
But if you think about it, he's addicted. You want him addicted to you? Disappear, eventually during a power outage he'll be "mm where did she go"
But by that time you may have a life and maybe a new bf.
You're crying for attention, go get some somewhere else.
You're not going to get it through him, not until he see's you're gone.
Don't let this affect your self esteem, if anything you may start to look at things YOU want to be doing.
Get addicted to yourself. Not selfish, no, self love. Practice that and a computer will never threaten or haunt you again.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 October 2013):
 Gaming addiction. My ex was like this, but with WoW. Google gaming addiction for further info, and read up about it. Not much to do I am afraid. I had to leave that relationship. It only got worse with time, to the point he didnt even notice I was in the room with him, talking to him.. Didnt go to bed, he was up all night. He had red eyes going to work, dropped out of university three times (couldnt keep up with classes). All the time he refused that it was a problem. Addicts dont see it themselves.
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reader, BlackHeart24 +, writes (4 October 2013):
BlackHeart24 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I did ask him about it and I have talked to him about it...IMVU is actually how I met him so I'm familiar with it too and yes he does he pays for VIP since we live in the same state together it made our relationship easy to manage.He explained to me when we first started dating that he uses IMVU as an escape from his own drama with his family, but lately i don't know what to make of it. I've witnessed him get upset and bent out of shape over things on there it's like he forgets that it's not real and it scares me that he's become so addicted to it. IMVU is the only way I can talk to him now, he wont answer any texts or calls he's never on skype anymore, IMVU is the only way I can really talk to him and that's usually never a guarentee I may be able to get him in a private chat if I'm lucky
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (4 October 2013):
It sounds like your boyfriend is addicted to this internet/game and its his hobby.
You did the right thing confronting and telling your boyfriend how you feel, good on you!
Continue to be clear and communicate what you need from the relationship and see how it goes the next few days.
The next step is with him because giving up an addiction is something only the user can do.
He needs to consider your feelings and if he's a good boyfriend and worthy of you he will calm down his net time and devote more time to you.
If he continues with "Im busy" tone maybe you need to consider if you really want to be with someone who does not value your feelings and allows you to cry. This is not a sign of a good boyfriend.
Goodluck!
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