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writes:I am a big girl with many self-confidence issues. My boyfriend of two years tells me that he loves all of my curves, but almost avoids touching my stomach whenever we cuddle. What is the best way to ask him to touch my stomach when we are intimate? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 November 2012):
 I would just take his hand and guide it. Show him where you really like being touched. That way he won't take it as you "telling" him that what he was doing before was wrong but he will take it as a OH she likes that too!
(as opposed to telling him with words)
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reader, citadel  +, writes (13 November 2012):
Touch it yourself, ooo and ah and let him know you are good with all of you. Guys tend to gravitate towards whatever the girl is getting off on. Also bake some bread and let him kneed it. Get him in the habit of experiencing joy and fun with the smushy smooshy stuff of life.
For you imagine you are all just bones, all skeleton and think of how that feels and sounds intimately.
They don't call it sins of the bones. Nah.. flesh is fleshy it's alive and it's loaded with nerves. So don't get nervous, get nervy. Bonne Chance. Get your Kneeds met. LOL
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reader, fishdish +, writes (13 November 2012):
 I'd be playful with it, have said things like, rub mah belleh! otherwise i agree with placing his hands there and say that you feel protected (or whatever adjective fits!) when he touches you there
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): OP most girls who have any bit of softness on their bellies hate it when we guys touch it and feel very uncomfortable. I've more than one ex who hated it, others pulled my hand away or others took it upon to themselves to talk about how fat they are. It's like saying something about a girls ass to her, we're conditioned just not to do those things (if we're smart), smart guys will avoid any insecurities at all costs.
Simply put his hand there in less intimate circumstances, like when you're cuddling or spooning, let him see you're perfectly comfortable having his hands there and do the same when you're intimate and ask him to specifically do stuff that you'd like, playfully.
It's just awkward OP, you know when you're being intimate and you touch an area on the person that makes them freeze and ruin the moment? I've had that happen a few times when I softly grabbed a bit of belly, it happens a lot when you try to take the bra off of a woman who hate her boobs too.
Still I think it's best done if you just grab his hand while spooning, and rub your belly with it and tell him you like that. In general OP if you tell a guy something you like having done, he'll gladly do it to please you and the more things we know you like the easier that is for us to do.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 November 2012):
 He probably is worried that he will make you feel self-conscious if he draws attention to it. The best way is to say "I just love when you touch me here" and pull his hand there.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (13 November 2012):
 HI
the best way is to guide his hand when your being intimate with eachother, if he pulls away, then he is probably being nice and not wanting to tell you how he really feels without offending you, if he enjoys and continues to touch your stomach, then it's because he was afraid to touch you there incase you were paranoid about your stomach. Men are strange creatures at the best of times ( sorry guys) but true. damned if you do damned if you don't if you know what i mean. so go for it, the more confidence you show, the more he will want to caress.
Mandy x
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