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writes:I am recently new in my team and this man has just caught my eye. he is atleast 20 years older i'm 22. He is single!! not no home wrecker. But we get along like house on fire. So far its just the glances, smiling, cheaky comments. Today he bumped into me purposely and said hello. even though i had already said hello. When i attended meeting i thought wouldn;t be able to , he had such a big grin . Smelt so sexy. how can i seduce him? i flick my hair alot, i cover my curves and i smile alot. We get along.Tomorrow we are spending majority afternoon together to do some errands i'm driving we had a really good giggle about it. today felt like he just wanted a excuse to talk to me. We keep purposely walking near eachother but not looking. I can feel this chemistry . what should i do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 November 2012):
 let me ask you which is more important
A JOB or some fun times with a guy old enough to be your dad?
Now before you all think I'm down on age gaps, I'm not in general.... my husband is 13 years younger than I am.
I do get concerned that folks who want to "date" co-workers are not seeing the big picture.
1. you are new to the office your position there fore is not as secure as an old timer
2. you are young at 22 (even if you don't think so) and as such think with the wrong end (yes women are prone to it as well)
3. it's a new fun flirtation.... the issue is YOU may see more than he does.
I know for me, I'm always up for a good "sport flirt" with a co-worker. Especially new ones... and if I was single it might be taken the wrong way... but even if I'm single, if I'm flirting with a co-worker and we have chemistry, it's just a fun way to pass the work day.... nothing more.
IF you DATE a co-worker and it does not work out, what do you think happens?
BTW he may be SINGLE (as in not married currently)but how do you know he does not have a gf or many gf? how do you know he's not a love em and leave em kind of guy?
honey your hormones are talking not your brain....
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reader, citadel  +, writes (15 November 2012):
The most intoxicating way to seduce a man.
IGNORE him..
I think it's an ego thing, which I think is 10x's the size of their @#@#% which is probably a good thing.. I think...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): this is tough, as attraction is not something that can be controlled... however if you engage in a relationship, you have to be prepared to accept the consequences if things turn sour. i kind of talk here from experience as thats how i met my current bf of 4 years (he is 10 years older but at the time we were in different departments, so the relationship didnt really affect our jobs/co-workers).On one part you need to think about how it will affect your job, relationship with your co-workers (are they very gossip-y? will they think that you are getting a favor treatment?).But i think that what may become more of an issue, is the age difference if you start dating as maybe you guys will expect different things from one another: - maybe he will want to have marriage/kids where as you don't feel ready for this yet - the opposite: you will want to take the relationship further where as he wants to stay single and just have a cute twenty-something girl for just fun. so if you arent on the same page without similar expectations then on the long run you will def. have problems.Another thing is that maybe you are only attracted to what he reprensents. due to his age, im guessing that he has a high position of authority in the company, so maybe if you knew him outside of work your perception of him would change. If you're determined to do something with this guy, I think that one of the things to help is to also spend some time getting to know the person to make sure that it's not just a physical attraction, e.g. try to find excuses to talk to him. Reason says that this is a bad idea, however i know that sometimes the heart/lust takes over the mind.
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