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writes:I'm 17 next week and having a party to celebrate it on friday! I am planing to have many friends their but they are all 16-19... there will be about 25 of them.... thing is im seriously upside down in love with a 26 year old man and i wanna invite him too. i dunno how he feels about me but i wanna make a move... do you think its a good idea to ask him to come or will he feel uncomfortable with all the other friends? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): This age-difference thing is very cultural. I mean, I’m American, but my parents are Greek, and in Europe, age is much less of a “thing.”
Here’s a story that might help you make your decision. My dad is six years older than my mom, right? So, on her 16th birthday, she invited him, the 22 year old. She didn’t even *know* him—my grandmother knew his mom, and suggested she invite him. Love at first sight. The rest is history.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (4 February 2007):
 I would feel awkward personally but feel free to ask him. Just don't be crushed if he doesn't turn up.
CD
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (4 February 2007):
 Oooh, how awkward. I can just imagine, if I was 26 and went to a party filled with 16-19year old girls... well, it would be weird. He's going to feel VERY out of place, and REALLY old. In theory, he's out of college already and you guys haven't even finished high school. Talk about a big generation gap!
Now, you could tell him that it's your birthday and you'd love for him to stop by and give you a birthday hug at your party. That way, if he wants to stop by, he won't have to stay. And if he feels like hanging around, he will.
Otherwise, that would be weird and a little skeevy.
xxIndia
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reader, AskEve +, writes (4 February 2007):
 I'm sure if you're having a party there will be older ones like your parents and relatives there, will there not? There is no harm in asking this guy you like. Let him know how many will be there then leave the decision up to him.
Happy 17th when it comes! :o)
Eve
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (4 February 2007):
 If I were 26 and a 16 year-old asked me to her birthday party, I'd probably decline the invitation, unless we were already friends. . . and friends only. That's a pretty big age gap at that age for romantic pursuits.
So to answer your question: No, I don't think it's a good idea to ask him, regardless of how he would feel being around your other friends.
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