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writes:i have been with my current boyfriend for 2 and a half years. i love him to pieces, but because i spend all my time with him, (which i love!) we never have anything to talk about apart from work (which gets boring after a while). can anybody help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (5 February 2007):
 Try taking a day or two a week and spending with your friends whilst he spends time with his... Even if it's movies and dinner, or going shopping... it's something to talk about later on when you guys spend time together. Also when you are with him try doing some exciting things instead fo sitting at home. Maybe go see a live band, or go on a hike... something you dont have to talk to each other much to have fun... you'll soon have lots to talk about if you make your own lives more interesting.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 February 2007):
 If you don't spend every waking moment together it doesnt mean you love him any less. If you look around at the couples who have lasted for years and years you'll probably find that the reason for this is because they take time apart to be individuals as well as part of a couple. Try some things you've always wanted to and ask your boyfriend to do the same. You'll soon have loads more to talk about!
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reader, Evangeline +, writes (5 February 2007):
 Hi,
I know exactly how you feel, and it is something that is quite normal after being in a relationship with someone for a long time. I think its great that you spend lots of time together and are still really close. However it might be good for you to start a hobbie or an interest without him. This could be joining a book club, film club, rock climbing, dance class - anything that you've always wanted to do but never had a chance to do! This will give you something different to talk about, and you often find in relationships if one person starts something new, it often spurs the other one on to do something they want to do.
Doing things together out side of work often spurs conversation on as well, for example discuss a film you saw together, or a play, or a sports match. You could also take up a sport together - like you could both learn how to sail together or something.
Hope i've helped.
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