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writes:Hey folks.Thanks so much to everyone who's been so helpful whenever i've needed advice. I really do take on board what you say.I am 22 this coming May, i've been seeing someone for nearly 5 months who i love and is like my best friend but who is younger than me and i found out just under a week ago that i'm pregnant with his child.My career is just taking off, i live in a shared house with 2 other people and i live 100 miles away from my family where i moved to for the sake of my job.My family want me to keep it and move back up there but it's so complicated with finding another job and an apartment etc all before the baby comes..I'm so afraid of what everyone will think as though they'll be disappointed or look down on me or something for getting myself into this situation so young? i feel it is too soon for my boyfriend at 2 years younger than me, even though he supports whatever i decide. I'm worried about getting fat, the pain, losing my social life when there's so much i have left to do yet!I'm almost certain i'm having the abortion i'm scheduled for but there's a tiny part of me that worries i might regret it.I'm terrified. Beyond belief. It's like i'm living someone elses life right now and that this can't really be happening to me but it is. I'm so ashamed!What do i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): I had an abortion when I was 21. All I can say is DON'T DO IT!!! Please. It is horrible. I am pregnant again now, 7 months along, at 25 yrs. old & It's not so bad. I am still working. What makes u think you can't keep your job, take a maternity leave & come back after the baby is born?? Most women are able to work up to 9 months if the job isn't strenuous. Please don't kill your beautiful baby. Even the state will help you with child care & things if u are a single mother. You can do this. I really hope you do.
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reader, mel_22 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Hi, I know exactly how you feel at 22 myself I have 2 kids but life doesn't really have to change I had my 1st at 18 and was considering an abortion but I had to weigh up whether I would be able to live with myself and how to change the way things could work and I did. Life doesnt have to revolve around work you could have a career when your child goes to school or even better after maternity leave there are so many ways now of getting back to work with help with child care costs and help towards rent for parents maybe you should consider cancelling your appointment and looking further into the options you have open to you, I wouldnt do anything untill your mind is 100% and who knows maybe your partner might like to be a stay at home dad talk to people social services and the job centre always have good advice for pregnant women and your partner might just want to look after the baby himself
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reader, Pooh-bear  +, writes (6 February 2007):
First of all, I know how you feel. I'm pregnant myself and I felt the same way you do. Believe me it was hard at first. I didn't know what I was going to about carrying a precious life inside of me. Exspecially with me being only 18 years old. But my family stuck beside me and so did my man. If your boyfriend loves you, I'm pretty sure that he doesn't want you to abort his child. You can get through this and you're career will be waitng there for you after you have the baby. Keep the baby and you will see that you made the right choice. Once your stomach starts getting bigger and the baby can hear your voice, you'll start getting little kicks in the stomach and it will make you smile. Now as far as the pain, all I can say is, there will be some rough days. Then again, you might not have any problems because everyone's pregnancy is different. If you keep the baby, start asking your mom how her pregnancy was when she was pregnant with you. Some times you can tell how bad things are going to get because your body can react the same way your mother's did. Take it from me. I'm a nurse. Being pregnant isn't so bad, you'll learn to like it. By the way, your social life is going to be even better because everybody will want to know your plans for the baby. Basically, your social life will revolve around you and the life that you are carrying.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Eventually everyone regrets something big time. Dont let that be a reason to hold you back.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 February 2007):
 Nobody who posts here can tell you that you definitely won't regret it because nobody knows you like you know yourself. You're very lucky to have such a supportive family who are willing to help if you do decide to have the baby and really everything you're worried about are things you can overcome. Personally I don't know if I could go through with an abortion but I'm not in your situation. You're the only one who can say whether you're doing the right thing. I hope you find the strength to decide.
CD
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