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writes:my boyfriend and I broke up almost 3 months ago now, we were together 8 months, we talked about the future a lot but then we seemed to suddenly not be able to communicate anymore. ive found these 3 months so difficult because i cant understand why i was so angry to him so much, pretty much right from the beginning. ive never been so close to someone before and it scared me, he was the only person i can say i loved. We ended up breaking up because i told him that i never want him to contact me again and i want to be left alone. I said this in anger though, i guess i was hoping he would fight for me but i was quite angry towards him, he was heartbroken. I feel like i was too angry on him, he was very loving and supportive I don't know if i should try contact him, at least to say sorry? we dont have any mutual friends so i cant find out from them how he is. what should I do?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (5 February 2007):
 If he hasn't been in contact with you in all this time then I'd safely say he's over you! I would leave it and move on. "You never miss the water till the well runs dry" comes to mind here.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (4 February 2007):
 I think it's been three months now and that contacting him even to say sorry will mess with his head, making him wonder if you want him back. I say that if you find yourself in a position where you meet him randomly it might ease your conscience to apologise but otherwise just put it down to experience and try not to blame yourself.
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reader, loops +, writes (4 February 2007):
unfortunately, I made the mistake of contacting my ex after we split. Under similar circumstances to how yours end. We got back together, and it just happened again. As heartbreaking as it is to just sit back and let him go it is probably the best for you.
As much as it might hurt to admit, you have to look at it properly, are you just missing the love and support now you are on your own, not him? And also for the same reason are you just remembering the good times, when you say 3 out of 8 months were bad? Also unfortunately if you broke his heart once the next time you enter a relationship with him trust is going to be a major issue.
Personally I would bite the bullet and keep getting on with your life, find someone else who you do click with, and stop running about after someone who it isn't going to work with
Good luck, ive been there its hard, but as cliched as it is things really do get better
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