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writes:i split with my bf of 2 months.... 2 weeks ago, because he said he wasnt ready for a relationship with any1 at the moment! i have now found out he went on a date with sum1 last night! do you think he was lying to me about our split, or do yo think he is going to confuse her like he confused me! should i tell her in warning of what could happen to her? i dont know her though. Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve +, writes (5 February 2007):
 He's decided he just doesn't want to be with you any more and has used the "I'm not ready for a relationship with anyone" excuse as just that... an excuse! Say nothing to this other woman, it's none of your business. If you do she'll only think you're telling her because you're jealous and want him back.
Move on and find someone who will be honest with you and give you the love you deserve. Breaking up with you is HIS loss, not yours!
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007): I expect you are still hurting over the fact that you broke up with him.
However, he IS - as are you - now free to date whomsoever he/you want, for whatever reason. As you said, you don't know this woman, and nor can you know why he chose to go out with her, or whether it will lead to a second date, nor can you know what she's looking for. AND it isn't relevant.
I don't know what you hope to accomplish by telling her. Its not likely that he would get back with you.
If you knew that he was a rapist or thief THEN there might possibly be some grounds to think about warning her. As it is, you would do well to leave things alone!
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reader, Kurt  +, writes (5 February 2007):
 This guy sounds young. It also sounds like he didn't like you enough to keep you as a GF, but liked you enough that he didn't want to hurt your feelings.
Being young and not knowing the correct way to let you down easy he lied to you.
Dating is a learning experience. One has to learn what they like and don't like and then how to tell the person they don't like that it is over in a considerate way.
I am sorry you got hurt, but stooping to gossip is just as low as his lying. Be the better person and let it go.
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reader, Abigail +, writes (5 February 2007):
I would let them get on with it - I would say he isn't the right person for you, and although it's not a nice thing to happen at all, better to find out at the 2 month stage than further down the track. Find someone who deserves you and who treats you properly! I had a similar experience last year, and although it was painful, that person wasn't right for me and I have since found someone who is. I would forget him, he's not worth worrying about. Good luck.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 February 2007):
 Don't say anything to the new girl. You'll just sound pathetic and bitter. To be honest it sounds like he lied to you about the reasons for your split but even if he didnt and plans to treat the new girl in exactly the same way it's not for you to say anything to her. She has to figure out what he's like on her own. If you knew her I might advise you differently but since you don't I'd advise you to keep your nose out.
CD
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