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writes:I have been very stupid twice.. I have been with boyfriend for 5years, xmas 2004 i was too drunk and kissed a friend, because i was drunk and we'd always been flirty i thought i loved him! we thought we had something special- when really we didnt at all!i told boyfriend that night, and it took a while for us to get back to normal, then apparantly i kissed a random boy at a party 3 months ago, which i have only just found out about- a friend told me 2 weeks ago!!!i dont know why i have done this-and the fact ive done it twice is crazy, i think that alcohol has very bad effect, and the fact i had no idea about the last time is scary... again i told boyfriend the same nite i found out. and this time i have really really hurt my honey... i have felt disgusting, what should i do? he is my soulmate
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reader, AskEve +, writes (5 February 2007):
 What should you do? Simple! CUT OUT THE ALCOHOL! You can't control it.
Eve
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (5 February 2007):
 I think you have a Very Understanding Boyfriend! A lot of guys would be good enough to forgive this behaviour once, but twice?!! He must think, at the back of his mind, that if you can kiss guys when drunk, what else could you do, and not remember? It is, of course possible, that you have kissed (or gone further), and not been aware of it, if you have not been told that you have done these things. Don`t risk hurting (or losing) your boyfriend again, keep to soft drinks for a while, until you can be sure that you can enjoy a couple of drinks, without getting drunk and risking what is dear to you, your boyfriend, and your PRIDE. Best Wishes, Heather.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): I have been on the receiving end of someone who used alcohol as an excuse for their behaviour.
I would say, if someone said "I did this but I don't remember doing it I'm so sorry" it wouldn't really mean any thing but if they said "I did this but I don't remember doing it, I'm so sorry.. I'm going to make sure I don't ever get that drunk again" it would. You have repeated the same mistake twice, I think if you're lucky enough for your boyfriend to stay with you then you need to start making some promises -to yourself- that you won't get in such a bad state again. I hope it works out for you :)
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (4 February 2007):
 You dont do anything. Ball's in his court now. Wait for his response. Guess the obvious thing for the future is not to drink but we both know that's not gonna happen is it?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (4 February 2007):
 The fact that you can't even remember kissing the second boy is quite worrying. It suggests that you're developing a bit of a problem with drinking. We all have occassional wild nights but when you can't remember things the next day it starts to get less fun and more serious. If you think that alcohol is lowering your inhibitions you have to stop drinking it, or at least reduce the amount you're drinking. Also try to think about how you would feel if your boyfriend did this to you? Hopefully that should act as a deterrant in future.
CD
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