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I don't have any qualifications, I just treat people as they were my own friend and try to look at everything from a different perspective.
I live by myself and I love it very much.
I dislike people who try to beat around the bush or derail a conversation.
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He doesn't know how to break off with his 19 year old g/f to be with me!
Q. First,let me start with my mistake. I started an affair before I decided for sure to leave my husband of 9 years. Husband is a good man, but we married at 19 and my feelings have changed. I love him, but no longer in love or desire him. We have a 6 ...
A. 21 March 2011: I don't think this relationship will go anywhere but you can be patient and see if things work out. If it doesn't then move on. I doubt I could ever trust someone like the 40 yr old guy who initially wanted a sexual relationship and also had a 19 yr ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks it might be a good idea to go to different schools and to be apart from each other for at least a semester but I feel like this option might result in us breaking up....
Q. Hey there everyone. So...My husband and I got married when we were 16. Despite popular belief, it wasn't because we were having a baby or anything - we just knew we were supposed to be together and our parents trusted us. Anyway, now we're 18 and...
A. 18 March 2011: The two of you are married and the two of you should trust each other even if it is being away for a long time. You said that you knew you were supposed to be together and even got married AND your parents trusted you. If thats the case then go ... (read in full...)
Is there anything else I can do or do you all just think I'm crazy and wasting my time?
Q. Alright, so this girl and I have been.."talking" for the past 4 months. we're actually pretty serious about it all though. We met and things were great. We were great friends. Then things started getting a little more serious and we liked each ...
A. 18 March 2011: I get what you mean and a lot of guys have been in that situation I'm sure. All I can tell you is stop talking to her and see if she comes around. If she doesn't then move on and find another. I get how you feel but I'm sure she doesn't fe... (read in full...)
All talk, no action
Q. I have known this guy for many years now. Intially I was attracted to him and let him know about my attraction. Since then, he has been contacting me to share intimate details of his life. We have had a chance to see each other at functions but in ...
A. 18 March 2011: Why are you still seeing him when you very well know that this is not the kind of relationship you want?... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to see my first boyfriend again because I cheated on him.
Q. My first boyfriend treated me the greatest. I was not sexually attracted to him tho, and when he tried to do stuff when I wasn't into it I felt horrible and guilty. I tried to break up with him a couple times, but when I was leaving the room he ...
A. 18 March 2011: After a year I doubt it matters to talk about it to him, I don't think he'd want to know. What's the point of being honest now? The only relief to be gained is yours from your guilt if you tell him. Yes it is painful for you to think about but he ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault she got so messed up at my party?
Q. I had a house party because my parents were away, my brother said it was ok too. we both invited a lot of people and the people we invited brought more people. i invited my ex, the girl i want a relationship with. as the night went on, people got ...
A. 13 March 2011: I guess in one way you are sort of responsible because it was your party (or you and your brother's) and it was on your premises. At the same time I know there isn't much you can do. I'm glad you went looking for her and found her. Take care of h... (read in full...)
Brother kissing sister. Weird?
Q. Does anyone think it is somewhat awkward for a 32 year old man to be playfully kissing his 35 year old sister? As the girlfriend, I have never seen him act out this behavior. I just think it's a flirty and wierd situation. Like he said he will kiss ...
A. 13 March 2011: My family and I are very close and we are all very social. It is not uncommon for my relatives to kiss each other on the lips even same sex lol. Not like all the time though, I mean when we greet those who we haven't seen in quite some time but are ... (read in full...)
Best friend or the Girl?
Q. I have known this girl for over a year and a half now... The first year I knew her she had a boyfriend, she broke up with him over 6months ago now. When they broke up I had broken up with a girl I was seeing at the same time... So we ended up ...
A. 12 March 2011: If she wants to be with you and you want to be with her your best friend should understand eventually. Be there to support him or give him his space if he needs it. I know it is heart breaking but not making a choice is far worse. I think you should ... (read in full...)
We have a baby, but he's always talking to his ex!
Q. I have a problem with my fiance. Here is a little background about us. We started dating just about 2 years ago. We both were in relationships before for 4 years and broke up and began dating about 1 month later. We had problems with our ex's. His ...
A. 12 March 2011: It is cheating and I doubt he will ever change. I have no idea why you fall for his lies. Maybe you think something is there when there actually isn't and he is the only one you can rely on. I hope he at least pays his child support. I'm not sure ... (read in full...)
What's this with me and my male friend? Views on our relationship please!
Q. I know I love him even when I am married to a very nice guy. But no alarms here. I don't try to get him to wreck lives. But I need all your views on our relationship. I know this guy for a few years now. He is a junior advocate and I am a clien...
A. 11 March 2011: Like I said I don't think there is anything to worry about. You have a very good friendship and it is not strange or weird at all. The only thing is that it is rare and hard for anyone to relate to.
Good Luck with the friendship I hope it becom... (read in full...)
I don't understand my friend
Q. Dear Cupid i dont get my friend she and i make plans together but in the end shes done it without telling me for example she ask me if i wanted to help her sell makeup and i said ya then 2 months later shes selling makeup on her own,or when i told ...
A. 11 March 2011: I see you point but you should just be up front with her and ask her why she does those things. ... (read in full...)
What did he mean by his comment?
Q. ok, maybe some of you can decipher this. what does it mean while having sex, your boyfriend grabs your thigh, squeezes it and says, this is what I want not some stick. I'm not fat, but I'm not a stick either. it totally took me out of the mood and i ...
A. 10 March 2011: He loves your size. That's what HE meant. Nothing more and nothing less. ... (read in full...)
Who is she leading on?
Q. Recently my girlfriend and I moved in together but things haven't been so great. The reason being that I love herewith all my heart, and she assures me that she wants to be with me as well. Although she does have feelings for a close friend of hers, ...
A. 10 March 2011: I'm not sure who is leading who on but living with someone who loves someone else is kinda stupid..unless you don't mind that sort of thing. She moved in with you yet you feel like an option in her life and you shouldn't have to feel like that at ... (read in full...)
She needs space but still loves me!
Q. Please read entire post as I really need an answer: So, I recently got out of a 1 year and 2 month relationship. For about the first 3-4 months things were perfect as they always are, and then the fights and arguments started to happen. I'll adm...
A. 10 March 2011: It means you need to show real interest in her rather than only about you. From your actions you wanted to have fun and hang out with your friends. But in your fun you never even considered your girl friend even once. You never once placed yourself... (read in full...)
Long distance: she won't text me back, is she extremel busy? Or is she just playing me?
Q. Long story short, and ill explain it the best i can. I am having a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for the past 3 months now. We seen and hung out with each other for a week over winter break, but after that she went back to living in ...
A. 10 March 2011: No girl can be that busy. Even if she was that busy you should be trying to ask her what is going on in her life to make her that busy. If that is all the info you get from her...that she says she is busy then I think she fell out of love from you ... (read in full...)
What's this with me and my male friend? Views on our relationship please!
Q. I know I love him even when I am married to a very nice guy. But no alarms here. I don't try to get him to wreck lives. But I need all your views on our relationship. I know this guy for a few years now. He is a junior advocate and I am a clien...
A. 10 March 2011: When I read this I hear everything about you so it is hard to understand the guy's feelings here.
Does he have a girlfriend? Wife? How is his life going?
I don't think there is anything to worry, friends like that are hard to find as long as ... (read in full...)
Ladies can you tell me what is going on here?
Q. I've known this woman for over a year now, we go to church together at a smaller church. I had left for a bit, and returned, and decided to ask her to coffee. Finally after a week or so we met up, and it was great, and we talked for about 3 hours. ...
A. 9 March 2011: I won't think too much into it but from what you said she is just not into you. Your intuition is probably right in that she seems distant and avoiding you. It's not something you did or didn't do but she just doesn't like you that way, I'm sure she ... (read in full...)
He lied to me again..
Q. I have been hanging out with this guy for a couple of months now, and we have been having an amazing time, I heard a rumor that he slept with my friend, I confronted him about and he SWORE to me he did not, explaining everything, and I just got it ...
A. 9 March 2011: So you are just is friend or his gf or what?
I get that he is lying but it's probably none of your business anyway? Or you are dating him? I don't really know where the two of you stand.
Also be sure and careful where you hear your information,... (read in full...)
What would you do if you were me?
Q. lately my exboyfriend's been acting weird. Last monday i missed my bus stop so i had to get off at my ex's. As i was getting off I noticed he was standing where he used to wait for me when we were dating. As i was getting off i was talking to ...
A. 8 March 2011: Has he been acting weird or you? Hehe
Talk to him if you want, I don't see any reason why you can't talk to him. ... (read in full...)
Should I give him one last chance or just move on?
Q. Finally my boyfriend want's to do everything to make me happy(Now) .I afraid it's too late .He has hurt me so much that it's just too hard for me to trust him again When he said something ,he did something hurtful else ,for years .I am thinking of ...
A. 8 March 2011: On to the next one. I don't think even I need to say why... (read in full...)
Is what I've seen in porn true?
Q. Hi, Aunts there i have a question in my mind, it may sound silly, but still i just want to know the opinion from different people. I've heard that the intercourse can last for more than half an our before men cum. is that true? i mean, don’t...
A. 8 March 2011: Truth = Porn is fake, it is all made up. It is designed to give you false advertisement.
Some couples enjoy long periods of sex of hours where as sex may last as long as 10 minutes for some. What you ask is true but IT DEPENDS ON THE WOMAN AN... (read in full...)
Anyone have any tips on stop being stiff and nervous around attractive women?
Q. I'm getting better at socializing with strangers, but women that I find attractive are still a wall that I'm struggling to overcome. Anyone have any tips on stop being stiff, nervous, and afraid that they're judging my every move and next sentence ...
A. 8 March 2011: Try drinking one beer before you go out just to loosen your nerves. That is the easiest ad quickest way to break out of it.
Remember that it is mental game that you are putting yourself in. Tell yourself that you are there to have fun and ming... (read in full...)
How can I move on from my ex?
Q. My ex and I dated for a year, we're both 15, and we broke up 2 months ago. He was the first guy I dated for a long time, and we had sex a couple times. I miss him. I'm not sure if it's that i miss him so much as i miss having someone there for me ...
A. 3 March 2011: Hello! First loves are hard to get over and some don't get over them at all. I have though so I think it is possible for anyone. The method I used to get over my first love was just admitting that things are over. I believed in myself that I am a g... (read in full...)
We broke up and now have a FWB relationship. I don't get much sex, and I feel used! Should I end it?
Q. So my girlfriend and I broke up a few months back, but kept a FWB relationship till one of us meet someone else. The only problem is that we actually have only had sex once or twice, yet every night she comes to my room, eats my food, watches my ...
A. 25 February 2011: Honestly, FWB is stupid. The sex isn't even that great. In any case this girl is clearly using you...which was maybe a sign of fine-print from the fwb deal u have with her. Kick her out. ... (read in full...)
Is she just stressed out or is something more serious wrong?
Q. I am in a long-distance relationship for 3 years. For the past 6 months we have been living long-distance. Two weeks ago I told her that we hadn't been talking or visiting enough. Then, I visit her (we live about 150 miles away) and she is crying. ...
A. 24 February 2011: I think you are doing the right thing but I must tell you of my experiences.
I too, was in a long distance and my ex acted similar to this...but instead of being sad like your gf , my ex got really bitchy.
In any case I later found out that she... (read in full...)
I don't want to stay friends if she can't guarantee to be faithful. Why is she upset about MY attitude to this?
Q. I made contact with my ex about a year ago and we were both single. I made it clear to her that if she ever hooked up with another bloke that I would walk away because I don't want to cause any problems. I kind of hoped that she would want to try ...
A. 20 February 2011: You...might as well not have any female friends at all lol. If I were her I'd be angry just like her. Friends that stop being friends, just because the person has a lover, is pretty stupid. It's like saying those friends never had ANY trust or faith ... (read in full...)
I don't want to stay friends if she can't guarantee to be faithful. Why is she upset about MY attitude to this?
Q. I made contact with my ex about a year ago and we were both single. I made it clear to her that if she ever hooked up with another bloke that I would walk away because I don't want to cause any problems. I kind of hoped that she would want to try ...
A. 20 February 2011: Sounds like you are the one that needs her since you don't want her to be with someone else...even though she has no obligation to you.
Why can't she see other people anyway? It's her life, she can date who she wants. Maybe you want her world to r... (read in full...)
Now she wants our relationship to go sexless until marriage. Should I accept this request?
Q. After leaving a long term relationship, that was based primarily on sexual attraction, I am dating a girl who attracted me more than just physically. We have been dating for about 5 months and have had anywhere from 25-30 sexual encounters. The fir...
A. 27 January 2011: I'm trying to solve my situation now by performing other sexual acts in bed. Basically I'm trying to allow myself to have new experiences with her and I'm slowly getting used to her. She is also realizing my own sexual turn ons that I didn't know ... (read in full...)
I love my ex so much and I miss her. Should I send her flowers for Valentine's day?
Q. I just recently broke up with my ex fiance. We were together for 6 years, we broke up 6 months ago, but we kept talking for many months. I was trying to work things out, but she did not believe that i would ever change. Her reason for leaving ...
A. 26 January 2011: If I were you I wouldn't send her flowers. If I did I would feel like I expected something back and I don;t think she would ever send something back.
If you love her, let her come to you. In the mean time, trust your decision to stop talking.... (read in full...)
Now she wants our relationship to go sexless until marriage. Should I accept this request?
Q. After leaving a long term relationship, that was based primarily on sexual attraction, I am dating a girl who attracted me more than just physically. We have been dating for about 5 months and have had anywhere from 25-30 sexual encounters. The fir...
A. 26 January 2011: I'm not sure what to tell you...my current gf and I are going through the same thing although she doesn't have any idea about it. I just don't have the heart to tell her but I know I will find some way to get around this. I look at it as one of ... (read in full...)
Going to finally meet the guy Iv been talking to online. Any pointers on what to expect??
Q. I got chatting to a guy I met on a social networking website in September last year, I was instantly taken in by his sense of humour and friendly nature. We continued contact and have since, got to know each other really well. I'm very cautious when ...
A. 8 January 2011: I have been there before. I met a girl online and after a year I met her. I've even met a girl from Australia online and two years later, I got to meet her.
I guess the most important thing is to remember is that "this" is the person you have bee... (read in full...)
Should I tell my former teacher, who is married, how I feel?
Q. Hi there, I have a little bit of a problem. I'm 20 years old, been out of high school for almost three years now but I still have very strong, deep feelings for my high school teacher. I first had him as my teacher during my junior year, and sinc...
A. 8 January 2011: Would confessing to him REALLY bring you that sense of moving on? When he's gained this knowledge of your love, will you really be able to move on? If it was a realistic relationship I would be able to say yes but given the circumstances, I think ... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong, was it my fault?
Q. This is a long story but to get the full effect and so i may get honest opinions u need to know the entire story thanks for your help everybody so here it goes I met this girl on a camping trip and it had been awhile since my last relationship bu...
A. 5 January 2011: Happy New Year to you too, I hope this year brings you back your confidence. I read everything and it feels a little familiar. I have been there myself so I can relate to what you are feeling. I spent a lot of months questioning myself and blami... (read in full...)
My live-in boyfriend refuses to do nice things for me asks me to pay him each favour he does for me!
Q. ok me and my boyfriend been together since 1998,we broke up for 2 years 2004 to 2007 he did he left. long story and i want answers for lots of things but my question today is why dont he want to do anything nice for me?? he got nothing for me this ...
A. 4 January 2011: I wont think behavior like this come from nowhere so since u are the one that knows him better I gotta ask you, why do you think he is like this? My only guess is that you did something bad in the past and the two of you broke up. You asked to... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to act when I've traveled 1,200 miles just to get rejected?
Q. Well I met this girl on facebook and we started chatting casually. We were truely interested in each other. We talked and texted on the phone with alot of pictures for a couple months and so I decided to make the trip over this thanksgiving holiday ...
A. 30 November 2010: If I were you I'd be raging and yelling at her...I'm sure that would show her just how confident I was. I'm not sure what to tell you here but at least you gave it a shot. Maybe it will work out but after your situation I don't think even I would ... (read in full...)
Why is it so bad someone my age has sex?
Q. Hi, I was thinking today, why is it so bad someone my age has sex? I assure you I haven't but I was talking to my mom and she said as long as you are responsible(using multiple forms of birth control) and had sex with someone you trusted and knew ...
A. 30 November 2010: Technically speaking we aren't animals so no need to try imitating them. Indeed society has a way of describing things to be worse than what they really are. If people don't want others to do something we are quick to amplify the story by making it ... (read in full...)
I want her to realize what she has done! What can I do?
Q. Hello everyone! My gf and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 yrs now. We're both 21 and love each other a lot and have a very good understanding and completely trust each other blindly. We have been having a long distance relation...
A. 22 November 2010: You want to punish her because she did nothing? If she actually had done something I'd understand but getting drunk with friends is pretty soft for you to get upset over. ... (read in full...)
We've been on a break for three weeks and I hate it
Q. So this is the first time I've ever done anything like this so bare with me. I've loved the idea of love for as long as I can remember. So my story is I met this girl that I feel in love with about 4-5 months ago. We dated for almost 2 months and ...
A. 18 October 2010: I don't think now would be a good time of telling her that you love her...she doesn't seem ready for any of this stuff that you have to offer. As much as you love her you gotta see about yourself as well, you can't keep putting her feelings first ... (read in full...)
I can't stand being single anymore!!!
Q. Hello I am 17 years old and still in high school. I can't stand being single anymore. I really can't. I have never kissed a girl before never been loved by a girl before I can't take it. I see all these other people getting all this love but for ...
A. 17 October 2010: The moment you stop actually giving a crap about when or where or generally stop worrying about relationships you'll stand a much better chance of picking up a girl in your life. Yeah it sounds messed up but I didn't have my first serious gf until I ... (read in full...)
Who do I lose my virginity to? Someone I love...or not?
Q. Would it be better to lose your virginity to someone your totally madly in love with? Or someone you dont care too much for?? I want to lose it to someone im in love with but i dont wanna feel a huge freakin piece missing from me if/when we break...
A. 14 October 2010: Indeed losing your virginity to someone you love that you may break up with sounds bad but there is just as much emotional set backs to losing your virginity with someone you don't love. You may not appreciate sex there after, or feel used. If you ... (read in full...)
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