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writes:My ex and I dated for a year, we're both 15, and we broke up 2 months ago. He was the first guy I dated for a long time, and we had sex a couple times. I miss him. I'm not sure if it's that i miss him so much as i miss having someone there for me the way he was, and he has already moved on, and I have not. ive hooked up with a couple guys, but i don't have a new boyfriend the way he has a new girlfriend.How can i move on? Guys want to hook up with me but I don't really want to hookup, i'm more interested in dating. If there any advcie at all? Anything will be appreciated. Thank you so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Exactly what happened to me. Im 15 years old also and i dated this boy for about 2 years. We just recently broke up. I also had sex with him a couple times. Hes had 2 girlfriends since we broke up. He was really interested in them which broke my heart. Ive had a few boyfriends after him but they werent anything serious...
All u gotta do is move on. Because one day u will be married and happy and im sorry but ur probably not even going to remember his name. For now, i would stay away from hooking up with guys because u dont want a bad rep cuz then most likely no one will want anything serious with u. Let him be happy with his girl and then eventually u will get a boyfriend and be happy urself(:
good luck hunnn
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reader, Salinestained +, writes (3 March 2011):
When I was 16 I dated this guy who I thought was the end of my dating life. I was completely in love, everyone kept telling me it was puppy love but all I can say is "puppy love is real to the puppies". Anyways... I was in a small school and he and I had a majority of our classes together. He ended up with various different girlfriends who I of course knew and had to share "A Lunch" with daily. I remember it hurt, I remember crying, and I remember no one really caring.I will tell you what helped me. 1. Find a girlfriend who will make you go out of your comfort zone and go places you normally wouldn't. 2. Talk to your parents or a close friend about what you feel and why it hurts. 3. Focus your energy on something other than guys for just a few days. (I read maybe 12 million articles on ways to fix my hair and make up and I tried different things on different days) 4. Do not hook up with anyone else! Sex makes things worse right now so keep reminding yourself that this isn't what you are looking for and I promise a new guy will come along. 5. Enjoy looking hotter or being smarter or having anything over his new girl.This is what helped me move on and I hope it helps you! I will always love my first boyfriend but it doesn't hurt anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): I definitely don't think that hooking up is a good idea. You do not want a pregnancy or std. Honestly, I know that it hurts you right now, I have been there, however it will get easier with time. You will move on, in the meantime just enjoy being a teenager. There are plenty of better people out there, and you are still young.
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reader, thekidamidstall +, writes (3 March 2011):
Well as far as moving on I think it would take not only time, but a bit of effort on your part. Do you have to associate yourself with him at all in your daily life, like in school or something? If not, then all the better, because the less you have to see him, the less you'll think about him and all the great times in your relationship that you two have had. I'd suggest trying to keep yourself busy in anything you're in now to simply try to get your mind off of him. The more free time you have, the more your mind will wonder off to him and your ended relationship and there will be times you might even make yourself mope and think about him. That's happened to me quite a few times with me towards my ex. Only recently have i been more comfortable with me and my ex breaking up and feeling like I've been over her, even though its already been a couple months, mainly because i have to sit with her in my chemistry class. It kills me every class we have, and i hope you don't have to go through something like that when getting over him. Also try not to acknowledge how he has a new girlfriend, because that'll only make you hurt even more whilst getting over him. These'll only draw out that healing process.As far as getting back into dating goes, I'd say wait until you're fully over him before even thinking about it. Wanting to go back into it so quickly will only make you feel doubtful about the next relationship and you wont end up feeling as happy and comfortable as you would be if you simply waited. Simply decline those who want to hook up with you, simply say you're not interested in such a thing. That's all i really have about this situation, and i hope this helps you. Good luck and fare well! :D
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (3 March 2011):
Hello! First loves are hard to get over and some don't get over them at all. I have though so I think it is possible for anyone. The method I used to get over my first love was just admitting that things are over. I believed in myself that I am a good person. There are billions of people in the world and I'm bound to find someone new, who can show me a relationship and a love greater than I had before. I think the keywords there are believing in yourself. It's simple and sounds kind of cheesy but it works. I picked up my heart and I eventually moved on and sure enough I found someone new. To actually move on the admitting part that things are over is pretty tough. I had to get rid of eye reminders and box old letters. I hid anything online that could have reminded me of her and yes it was hard but in the end I really got over it. I'm not sure if I'm making any sense but I wish you look and I'm sure you hear this alot but I'll say it again, you are still young and have a lot of years to enjoy whether you are in a relationship or not. Keep an open heart, an open mind, and I'm sure you will come around. All the best
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reader, Amantha +, writes (3 March 2011):
 Well it's probably hurting you more because he has already move on so fast but there are so many guys out there. You don't have to hook up with anyone if you don't want to. Try talking to other guys in a more serious way. Make it obvious that you want a relationships and not just a fling. also i'm sure your just going to need some times and everything will be better!Hope this help!
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