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writes:Long story short, and ill explain it the best i can. I am having a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for the past 3 months now. We seen and hung out with each other for a week over winter break, but after that she went back to living in florida and i went back to living in california. I never had a long relationship before but i always worry about her. She says this summer she is going to move to California and live with me, so i want to wait for her, unless i wouldn't be caught up in a long distance. We call, text, and email each other a lot for the first two months when we get to know each other. This month she rarely text or call me. she would usually send one text message a day, and the next day she never text me at all. the longest we never got in contact was 4 days. I would now usually text her at least 5-10 times before she sends a text message to me. When i ask her why doesnt she text me or call me, the only thing she says is that she is always with work and school or in deep stress. I mean, it wont hurt to take one minute of your time to text me for a reassurance wouldn't it?? I keep thinking about it, if she is bored of me, or is she really EXTREMELY busy. When i call her, she doesnt usually bother calling back, or text back saying "Sorry i missed your call."She would always tell me she loves and i am everything to her, but by the way we are communicating, i feel like she isnt trying anymore. i try to test her out by not calling or texting her until she sends the first text, and the reply i get was "You never say goodnight to me anymore "Sadface". i wander if she is trying to play me, or she really means it. Because it sounds kind of stupid that you are sad because i didnt say good night, but you didnt text me or call me back the past 3 days.Today i said good morning to her, and that is the only thing i text the whole day, and i got a text message back at night saying "Hey this is my new number." i feel kind of suspicious like why would she change her number? and what is really going on.i Finally text her saying that "I love you, but i feel really frustrated with you right now"I need help, what do you guys think? Girls and Guys opinion. Is she really busy? or is she just playing me.
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reader, elwhy +, writes (21 March 2011):
elwhy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks anonymous,but where we are right now I think its the end for us. It breaks my heart that distance has to tear us apart, and it breaks my heart that she doesn't trust me either. thanks for your guys support, but this relationship is a day before over. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): I am in a very similar situation except im on the girls end.. Im busy a lot I work 40 hrs a week and am a full time student.. But I try texting my boyfriend and hes doing what your girlfriend is. He's too busy..
I hear your pain and all I can say is maybe 3 texts without a response but anymore prolly becomes frustrating on her part.. Cuz it will feel like your clingy... but Dont stop showing you care because it will only think u dont. It sounds like you do have trust issues too so its just controlling yourself too.
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reader, elwhy +, writes (10 March 2011):
elwhy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah i did Called and we did talked about the situation, but she can only give me the same reply " she is Busy" i keep on telling how can she stay busy 24/7 but she can only say is school and work. I dont know if it is me having trust issues, but im trying to be really patient at the moment, but im going to explode with curiosity very soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): you dont trust her, some people do not fancy texting as much as you do. Do you have a reason not to trust her? And why dont you talk to her about it on the phone instead of a text message? Txt msgs are so unpersonal
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (10 March 2011):
No girl can be that busy. Even if she was that busy you should be trying to ask her what is going on in her life to make her that busy. If that is all the info you get from her...that she says she is busy then I think she fell out of love from you and probably seeing someone else.
I base those things from my own previous long distance relationship where I honestly felt like the one trying best to communicate and my ex was always "stressed" or "so busy". Either way there isn't much you can do other than to call her out on the bs.
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