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writes:Recently my girlfriend and I moved in together but things haven't been so great. The reason being that I love herewith all my heart, and she assures me that she wants to be with me as well. Although she does have feelings for a close friend of hers, and tells him all the time she likes him, but never really says she wants to be with him. Is it really okay to love 2 people at the same time? Who is she leading on?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 March 2011):
She's leading you both on to be honest.
She's moved in with you, tells you she loves you, 'assures' you and all that - yet she regularly tells this other guy she likes him too.
I wouldn't ever accept that. It is not okay for her to be acting this way. At all. I personally don't believe it's possible to love 2 people at the same time - I only think there are those that are confused and should probably look for someone else.
Your girlfriend just isn't committed. And she never will be. She will play you and this other guy, and always get her way. The best thing you can do is just leave and find someone who isn't confused, and isn't blatantly lying to your face about it.
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (10 March 2011):
 This isn't acceptable, you can't love two people at the same time its not fair not on you or the other guy, you should tell her you don't appreciate her telling another guy she likes him when she is with you.
Im not realy sure who she is leading on but its deffinitly not acceptable to be saying that when your in a relationship.
Hope i helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): She doesn't say she loves her friend, she says she likes him, neither does she say she wants to be with him.Presumably she tells you that she loves you? You sound like you're feeling a bit insecure, and it can be difficult sometimes to accept that someone can be "just friends" with a member of the opposite sex. That could be the case here.It may be that she's "keeping her options open", it's impossible to say.Perhaps you moved in together a little too soon? What do you think? If you're not feeling totally happy and secure, try to talk to her about it.Was this boy her friend before you and she got together? Why should she have to give up her male friend because she's in a relationship with you?There are so many angles from which to approach your question, but really, all you can do is ask her openly what she feels for you, and what she feels for him. If you don't like the answer, then perhaps it's time to move on?Wishing you a happy, healthy and peaceful life.
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reader, Boy Blue  +, writes (10 March 2011):
I'm not sure who is leading who on but living with someone who loves someone else is kinda stupid..unless you don't mind that sort of thing. She moved in with you yet you feel like an option in her life and you shouldn't have to feel like that at this point.
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