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writes:I'm getting better at socializing with strangers, but women that I find attractive are still a wall that I'm struggling to overcome. Anyone have any tips on stop being stiff, nervous, and afraid that they're judging my every move and next sentence that stumbles out of my mouth? I feel like I can't be myself around women who are attractive to my tastes, but those who are not are much easier to talk to.I guess I'm equaling my self worth to whether a women likes me or not :S Any lines, that I can repeat in my head, or bits of advice on how to boost my self confidence around women would help out too.-Thanks
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 With the rare exception of a few, attractive women also want to make a good impression. So guess what buddy, they're just as nervous as you are. They're also afraid of saying something stupid, or making that snorting sound when they laugh. And guess what, women are afraid of farting too, yea, women fart!So stop worring, be yourself, and maybe, if you relax, they can relax too. Then suddenly, before you know it, you're both on equal footing. Once this happens, you suddenly become far more attractive than you were when you were nervous!
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reader, Naturalsoles +, writes (9 March 2011):
Naturalsoles is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys and gals for the info. I have to adjust my mindset too by stopping my self from judging others based on their appearances as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): Just be yourself and relax man, you can't lose something you never had.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (8 March 2011):
Try drinking one beer before you go out just to loosen your nerves. That is the easiest ad quickest way to break out of it.
Remember that it is mental game that you are putting yourself in. Tell yourself that you are there to have fun and mingle just like they are. The less you think about how attractive they are the better...perhaps pretend that you have known em forever or imagine they are ugly girls or something.
But if it is something you are getting better at then try to keep up the socializing and in time I'm sure you will naturally get used to it.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): Just remember to take deep breaths (but not creepy heavy breathing...!) and be yourself, ask her questions, listen to her, and try to concentrate on the conversation not on how attractive she is!
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