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writes:I got chatting to a guy I met on a social networking website in September last year, I was instantly taken in by his sense of humour and friendly nature. We continued contact and have since, got to know each other really well. I'm very cautious when it comes to men and I don't trust easily at all, therefore I didn't give him my number straight away - not until I knew for sure he was a genuine guy. Ever since, we've been texting every single day (roughly about 3 months now) and as a result, we've grown closer and well... feelings started developing. It sounds mad because we've never even met before, but we've got to know each other on a personal level and i've come to realise what a decent person he is. He's understanding, caring, sympathetic, funny, easy-going.... basically everything a woman could ever want in a man. The feelings are mutual between us, he's always telling me how 'beautiful' and 'amazing' he thinks I am, and how he can't wait for us to meet up, etc. The plan is that he'll be travelling to my town (which is a 5-hour train journey from where he lives) and he'll be spending the weekend with me and staying in a hotel. Baring in mind this is happening in 2 weeks time, i'm starting to feel a bit nervous about the whole thing as i've never done this before. I know there's risks attached to meeting someone you've met online, but I do trust him completely and would never agree to something like this unless I was entirely sure about them. I guess what I'm asking for here is a few of your personal experiences, just to give me some idea of what to expect. Also any advice would be greatly appreciated!!Thank you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Basically, you only know him as an online friend. You can not trust him until you have got to know him in real life. Meeting him could be very different. So be wary. It may be fine, but if within a short time you don't feel quite the same as you did before - the chemistry just may not be there. So keep it very much as friends. Do not consider getting intimate with him on this first weekend - basically it is like a first date, regardless of you being in contact in other ways. If he wants a proper relationship he will wait. Be in public places a lot, sight seeing, cafes - be safe and do not make yourself vunerable (many girls have met up with strangers and found themselves in tricky situations).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): This world is small, beautiful and good also. Neither all are full of criminal, evil minded nor the everyone who understand you closely. Instead of trusting on anyone other (though your net -friend) you first trust in yourself, think for the positive and negatives of this meeting and try to meet the guy in open, pulic cafe at first. Try to confirm your opinions, (that you have made by meeting on net site) in a plane meeting with him at any public place and then after you really found 'trust-confidance' in your relation then only proceed to your intimacy of relations. we many times depend on the body language and appearance and this you can't ignore, though you heard the opinions, writting with 'computer keyboard'. Best Wishes for your innovation.
Manohar
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reader, Boy Blue  +, writes (8 January 2011):
I have been there before. I met a girl online and after a year I met her. I've even met a girl from Australia online and two years later, I got to meet her.
I guess the most important thing is to remember is that "this" is the person you have been talking to all the time. They know a lot about you and you do of them. It's ok to be nervous but don't waste your time being nervous! Spend more time to get over it when you see him and re-kindle that love and familiarity. He came all the way to see you, so you should meet him halfway. I'm sure he is nervous as hell just like you are.
My experiences were amazing. Because I just picked up where I left off. I kept it in my mind that this person who I was with knew me. We got along great. It really is an amazing experience and theres nothing quite like it.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (8 January 2011):
 You say that you are 100% comfortable with him, and know tht he is a genuine guy, but let's face it, you are on this site because you are indeedhaving second thoughts.
My first suggestion is to meet at a location where there are many people and be sure to take a friend or two.
I am not saying that this guy is not who he say's he is, but let's be honest, there are many young victims who really thought they knew who they were meeting.
If at first glance he is not exactly who he said he was (looks different, looks older, different name) run away, and don't look back.
I do hope that you is a good experience for you, but please promise, to Just be careful!
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Excellent advice by the woman below me. Ive met up with a woman before and gonna do it again here soon with a different one. The first one was a horrible experience and learned a lot from it and applied it here so hopefully things turn out better. Be cautious indeed just because of the internet aspect. People can be anyone online and granted you have a very positive feeling inside, which is very good, still keep a little guard up in case youre disappointed with who he is in person. In my honest opinion, meeting in a hotel will create pressure on both parties to engage in intimacy... whereas meeting at a restaurant or a cafe would possibly help ease into that scene more. Just so you two can break the ice in person and have a little convo before things get heavy with the bed sheets. Good luck here.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Main pointer you said you trust him completely....dont. I mean this in the nicest way possible i really do! It leaves you so vunerable and at risk, just always keep your wits about you.Many people meet on the internet and have great relationships, its common now and there is nothing wrong with starting a relationship this way.Just remember that people do often lie in the net and can be different than you expect.I guess the best advice would be to stay safe, meet in a public place, just have your wits about you and have fun hope it all goes well.
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