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writes:I am dating a new guy and his type is brunette with olive skin. I am blonde, which i dye. My natural color is dark brown. Should I go back to my natural color? He asked me to but acted like he was joking but i dont think he was. So stay blond or go back to brunette? Reply to this Question
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (22 March 2012):
Like others have said, it's your appearance, so your decision.
That said, being a dark brunette myself who has also walked the earth as a blondie, I have to say that in hindsight, my natural hair color looks much better on me. Our skin tones just don't suit such a light color. Film yourself and you'll see what you miss in the mirror.
Also, peroxide really ruins your hair. I've been blonde for years and my hair was like cotton candy at the end if I didn't throw bottles of conditioner and hair masks at it. Now I'm brunette again, not only is my hair very low maintenance, it's much shinier and prettier.
But again, you may think you look better blonde and that's perfectly fine if you think that. But if more people have told you you look better with your natural haircolor, ponder the possibility that they may be right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): to be honest i think he's being nice and thinking you look better brunette... you probably look shit blonde (p.s. the moderators won't post this because they will think that i'm being to extreme when i'm really being honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): he's asking you to go back to how you naturally look... he's saying he would find you more beautiful without chaning yourself (by dyeing your hair blonde)...
he's not demanding it, or telling you you're unatractive...
i'd say yeah, let your true hair color out. you can always go back to blonde if you hate it. maybe it will be nice not to have that maintenance!
i don't think he's insulting you by saying he'd prefer you how you naturally are.
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reader, SarahHarlene  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 Let me tell you my story. A few years ago, I was with this guy who I dated since my 2nd year in uni. He was nice, no drinking or smoking kinda guy and my relationship with him was alright. However, one thing that bothered me a lot was how he always wanted me to wear long hair. I hate long hair, as I think it's a waste of time to spend forever washing, conditioning, and drying. However, I decided I would keep my hair long for him. He was happy about it, but I hated every single inch of it. I got increasingly stressed to the point that I became a bad tempered person especially in summer when it was hot and my hair got sticky and dry and unmanageable. When I brought this up, he'd be like "it's a little thing, can't you do that for the man you love?" while my argument would be "it's my head and this hair is bothering me. Why don't you love me the way I am?" this could fo on forever. My point is, do things that you feel comfy to. If you feel ok with whatever colour your hair is then go ahead. But if you will do it just to satisfy his ideal girl fantasy, I don't think it's a good idea. I hope this helpsSarah H.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): No offense meant, but bleach blonde hair on a naturally dark-haired woman doesn't always look as good as all of them must think it does. At best, it very rarely looks natural; at worst, I wonder why these women's "friends" continue to tell them that what they are doing looks good.
I am not saying you are one of these women but I can promise you your bf would not have made the "joke" if he didn't think brunette would be an improvement.
Take that information and do what you like with it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 March 2012):
 DO not change your hair color FOR HIM... change it for yourself if you want.
never make any changes for anyone but yourself.
that being said: when I met my fiance he told me he preferred dark haired women... I am naturally dark brunette... I was a redhead when we met... and had been on and off for 20 years... over a period of a year I gradually went one shade darker every time I dyed my hair...I went as close to my natural shade as I could and now that the upkeep is so much easier I love it.
I never would have gone back to my own shade if I had not been with him. I did not do it because he asked... or because he preferred dark hair... I did it for me because I love him and wanted to please him.
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reader, natasia +, writes (21 March 2012):
 I think ... he thinks he would love to see your natural hair colour.
He obviously likes you, whatever your colour, though.
What do I think? I think that I had blonde hair, very blonde, all through my childhood, and that was my identity. Then, in my late teens, it went kind of mouseish - not so blonde. So I started having highlights, to make it how I was used to it being. And I have done ever since. So I guess I have just kept my childhood colour, and haven't accepted whatever happened later (frankly don't even know what colour it would be, as have just kept it how it was!).
But you are a natural brunette ... and have chosen to completely change that. I think that in your position, if someone wanted me to be my natural colour, I might think ... hey, that's cool. I can just be myself, and he'll love it.
But I know the colouring of hair is a very very touchy issue with most women, and they feel it their right to do what they want.
He isn't forcing you. He just wants you to know that he'd love to see your natural colour. In your position, I think I would let him see.
As for the person who said 'be yourself' - well, strictly speaking, you are a brunette : ) Being a blonde is being totally not yourself : D
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 March 2012):
It doesn't sound like he directly asked you to change your hair. That would be seriously controlling. If that were the case, then I'd advise you to dump him and don't look back.
No guy (if he has half of a brain) is going to outright tell you that he hates your hair and that you need to change. They nonchalantly make suggestions, which you can choose whether or not you want to take it into consideration.
Do you like being blonde? How long have you been a bottle blonde? What's the condition of your hair? I'd imagine it's damaged.
You do what you want. The only way you should change it back is if your hair is seriously damaged, you want a change, and if your blonde hair is breaking the bank (the upkeep is expensive). NOT because YOU THINK your boyfriend wants you to.
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reader, teehee2010  +, writes (21 March 2012):
not of you dont want to. when he saw you first he saw you blond unless he was saying to himself ill ask her to change. don t think so somehow and anyway we can always change our type so can he
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Do whatever makes YOU happiest. You're the one who has to live with it. He can walk away at any time.
And accomodating him like this so soon in the game sets a bad precedent. He will learn that you're prepared to go to considerable lengths to please him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): It's up to you really- how do like yourself and think you look best? It would be easier, healthier and less expensive not to have to dye your hair. Maybe try going back to your natural for a while and see how you like it. You can always go back to blonde later on.
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reader, lulu55 +, writes (21 March 2012):
honestly, dying your hair isn't that good for you but you should only change it for YOU not for him. =) goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): I think you should dye it pink, just to see the look on his face!
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reader, N91 +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Completely your choice.
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reader, josephy  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 The right question that you should be asking yourself lady is Would he leave you or keep you relying on your hair color?! That's YOUR hair.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (21 March 2012):
You have whatever hair colour YOU want.... don't change yourself for a man - don't ever go down that route please!!!!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 March 2012):
 You shouldn't if you like it blonde.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 March 2012):
 How do you prefer your hair?
& keep it like that...
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reader, shazz1991xoxo +, writes (21 March 2012):
 only change ur hair color if YOU want to, don't change for anyone be yourself xoxo
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