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writes:Dear cupid,My name is stella,Please help me with your advice.I met this man online dating,we have been out on two dates so far.We seem to like each other and get on well.But on our second date i pushed him away,because i kept having doubts about him.Even though he has told me all about himself and his family.He said to me that he will give space to get rid of my doubts and that no hard feelings when he left.He has stopped texting me in the morning following our second date and all day the following day.I did however text him to say sorry and i still like him.When i pushed him away i felt really bad,guilty and i was so sad all day.Can you help.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (19 March 2012):
I believe in gut instinct as it very rarely lets us down - but in saying that, I myself have foolishly only just started listening to mine!
The same as you, I met a guy online and on the second date was having doubts, and my gut instinct was telling me not to see him again. However I felt I needed to give him the benefit of the doubt. How wrong that was......Lets just say, I will never ever do it again and learnt the hard way and wasted 6 months on a loose cannon!
Stick with your doubts, you won't go far wrong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2012): You didn't give him much of a chance really, but if you had a gut feeling it was wrong then you did the right thing.
Just leave it now,its only fair.
But ask yourself it was him or you, if your ready to date anyone yet.Or if he was indeed just 'wrong' for you.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (19 March 2012):
 You had doubts so you did the right thing.The sadness and guilt is often not because we suddenly have changed our minds about the person we have rejected, but because we suddenly feel alone again after having made a connection with someone.
If you draw him in again whilst you are still so unsure, you will either end up in an unsatisfactory relationship or end up having to reject him all over again.
People tend to break contact when they have been rejected, thats why he has stopped texting you. Let it go, your sadness will pass and then you can move on.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 March 2012):
 This man may perhaps give you a chance, but most likely something has changed. You need to know whether you want him or not. The answer is "no" for as long as it is not a clear and resounding "yes".
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2012): I wouldn't second guess yourself. If you had doubts there was probably a good reason. What were you doubts about?
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