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age
30-35,
*raceJ
writes:This guy is from Lithuania originally and I met him a couple of years ago when I started working at the same place as him. We have really gotten to know each other but he is so shy, even now! I know he has feelings for me and he cares, but he's been so broken before that he is finding it really hard, but I'm being so patient with him because he's so lovely and worth it. Anyway, I've tried really really hard for him since the day I met him, I did everything right and I've been so careful and things are really great between us right now, he takes me for long walks up the river and he giggles when I hold his hand (bearing in mind he's a 26 year old man) lol! But he said he's going back home in a month and probably won't come back. He doesn't think I care and he's scared I will hurt him.. but now he's saying to me he doesn't want anything to happen between us because leaving me will be too painful for the both of us. I'm really finding this hard because for nearly two years he has been the only reason I went to work even on my darkest days, and I have been in love before and I am emotionally damaged from that. I can't let him leave :( is there anything I can say to make him stay, or even maybe come back later on? I want to hold on to him, he's one of a kind. He also has a lovely lovely accent when he talks!!
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (12 March 2012):
 He sounds extremely mixed up emotionally and it appears that no matter what you do or say won't change this. Besides, none of us have the power to convince someone to do anything - it has to come from within and you must allow him and respect his decisions and feelings.
Love and happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.
Let him go and he may just surprise you and either stay or return. You have said all you can, you really can't do anymore.
I am sorry... I do hope it works out how you want it too!
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reader, GraceJ +, writes (12 March 2012):
GraceJ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have told him how badly i want him to stay, he knows how much i care but the thing is, he has a very complicated personality, hes very shy and quiet, and when he goes to kiss me he quickly stops himself because he's so scared.. I hate it, it's taken me so long to get close to him and make him comfortable with me, I can't just let him leave
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 have you told him how you feel?
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