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writes:About a month ago, I went on a chat site when I was at a loose end, I wasn't looking for anyone but ended up chatting to a girl. She gave me her number, we texted and eventually decided to meet.She looked lovely, genuine, and said she looked forward to getting to know me. She told me her job was as a backing dancer, and that she would be away for 3 and a half weeks. So we texted, and I wasn't expecting to hear from her until she got back. A week later, she texted me as normal, saying she can't wait to meet me, and we texted about normal stuff.However, last Tuesday, she texted me telling me she had something to tell me. She slept with one of the other backing dancers. I was disappointed. Then she took two days to decide whether she wanted to be with me or him. It turned out to be him, but as she had me at home waiting for her, it shouldn't have been a decision full stop!She then texted me to say she was sorry, she was so drunk she never meant it to happen, and she felt guilty.I talked about this to my friend and he said that her new relationship may not last as the temptation to stray in her job is too much for some people.If she hadn't have gone with him, we prob would have been together.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not hoping
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): Stop entertaing her bullcrap drama. Why are you so interested in her and the decline of her relationship?
ME finks you are an angereth man and wanted her so bad; you are obsessive.
End all contact. MOVE ON.
Why hope and wait for someone untrustworthy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan only think that the 'relationship' may be in trouble!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): WTF? How mental is she? Stop texting her and block or blacklist her number.
Odd thing- why would she all of a sudden text you she is moving in with her BF if it was clearly ended, over and you told her to leave you alone and you left her alone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): I would just ignore her texts if I were you. If she kept texting or contacting me I would just ask her not to and say that you just want to be left alone to get on with your life. She's just keeping in contact with you to have you as an option, if this doesn't work out... unless of course you guys were friends for awhile before dating, if not cut her loose completely. Find a new focus. Never make somebody a priority in your life if you are only an option for them.
Good luck.x
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (21 March 2012):
Thats nice of her to inform you - adding more salt to the wounds!
Carrying on ignoring her, she will hate it and besides she isn't worth wasting a text on or any more of your time for that matter!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe texted me last night - said that her and her bf moved in together, and then she said she bets my friends and family hate her, which I just ignored!!
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (13 March 2012):
 Probably not but why attach your happiness to such outcomes? You'll only end up hurting yourself, just let it go...simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor my peace of mind, do you think she will be with her current bf for long? I don't think so!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): Let her keep dancing....yes you dodged a bullet and that was a good thing and you only knew the chick for about a month WOW lucky you. I always say things happens for a reason and for the best, WOW LUCKY YOU!!!!!!!!!
All the dancers I know was sleeping with everybody and anybody so be carefully with the dancers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): I'd say yes you had a lucky escape with that one. She seems like the time of person that gets bored easily and always wants whatever she doesn't have.
If you and her gave things another go I would be inclined to think she would do this again. Forget about her and find somebody that won't mess you around like this.
Good luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): No what it is is her testing you to see if you would beg her for a chance or put up with her cheating ways.
You were right to tell her to walk and stay gone.
You'll find someone better suited.
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reader, Dodds +, writes (12 March 2012):
Dude just be glad that she's gone, you actually will find a better and more suitable girl for you so quit the ponderings of whether the two of you should have hooked up or not. It's pointless now so look ahead and not backwards.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (12 March 2012):
My opinion for what is worth is, let her go! Do you really want to be with someone who puts it about so freely?
If you did start seeing her how would you feel when she went away dancing again? You would be thinking she is up to no good and rightly so. I am not sure that she is so keen on you as you are on her.
Ok, you hadn't got anything serious going on with her when she did go away but... Pleeeeease, do you want to be with an easy lay??
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 You two had a brief dating period where you were not exclusively monogamous. During this time, she met someone who she was more interested in pursuing, and you got dumped. Her job has nothing to do with her choosing another man over you, or temptations. You're either loyal and committed or you're not. Weakness has nothing to do with the job or outside circumstances. Clearly she was less interested in you than you were in her - the end. It happens to millions of people and is nothing new. Moving on is the best option.
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