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She says I suck in bed because my penis is too small and I'm not very good at having sex with her! What can I do to give her the best sex she's ever had?

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Question - (26 March 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 3 April 2012)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi

I have a really big issue with my girl

Basically she says I suck in bed that there is only one position that she likes that gives her pleasure but not nearly enough to satisfy her.

She thinks it's because my penis is too small and since I lost my virginity to her I have no prior experience and she tells meI can't "hump" good.

I'm not attractive in any way I may be tall and dark but no where near handsome.

And I know most of you will tell me I dump this girl but I am only looking for advice to help me on this topic.

She has has sex with another man before after we had a break up then some time later we had got back together.

She claims that this man gave her the best sex ever only because of his penis size but it was only a drunken fling.

I had told her shouldn't it mean more and have more of an emotional pleasure with me because she loves me than with him.

She had told me she can't feel pleasure with me only in one position and that position causes pain for my testicles.

What can I do to give her the best sex she's ever had? I want to be able to satisfy her in every aspect sexually emotional and mentally. I mean I know how to give her orgasms and make her squirt but that doesn't seem to be enough I want to be able to satisfy her with my penis and she wants that as well.

Any advice or help?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012):

Hey, you know what to do.

Dump this relationship.

"Basically she says I suck in bed that there is only one position that she likes that gives her pleasure but not nearly enough to satisfy her."

You don't suck in bed by yourself, you suck in bed TOGETHER because you have a THOUGHTLESS LOVER.

Get yourself a thoughtful lover, and you will be awesome in bed regardless of your penis size.

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A male reader, Serpico United States +, writes (29 March 2012):

Honestly - what I would do is turn the tables. "Wow - you're so loose I can hardly even feel you."

Maybe she'll learn something the hard way. Right before I left.....

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A female reader, Blonde68 United Kingdom +, writes (26 March 2012):

Blonde68 agony aunt

I really do dislike women who talk in this manner about the size of men!

Rather than making out that you're the one with the problem, who is to say that it is not her who has the problem - how would she like it if you said "well perhaps its the size of your vagina that is the problem"? Mmmm don't think she would like that would she!

If you aren't careful this good have a longterm damaging effect on you sexually, because your mind will take over and before you know it you won't be able to climax due to concentrating too much on her needs and worrying about having a small penis.

Majority of women can't orgasm purely from a penis being inside them so if I were you, I would spend more time on oral sex, stimulating her clitoris and this will enable her to perhaps orgasm during intercourse.

Please don't beat yourself up about it - you sound like a really nice thoughtful guy, but its such a shame you have a selfish lover!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (26 March 2012):

Honeypie agony auntSounds to me that she is saying all these hurtful things so YOU will dump her and she can walk away not being the "bad guy".

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (26 March 2012):

Yos agony auntIf she cared about you she wouldn't say those things. You know this already in your heart. The harder you try to satisfy her the worse things are going to get. You sound like a good person and a conscientious lover. She does not. I suggest you find someone who appreciates that about you.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (26 March 2012):

DoubleM agony auntThere is nothing in the world, short of perhaps some very questionable surgery, that you can do about penis size. All the pills you see advertised are scams. Presumably, you know about oral. The one thing I can suggest is to change your angle of penetration. Difficult to describe, but basically, penetrate at a sharper angle - namely from above. I've tried here before to explain it, but let's put it this way - if your move up a bit and lean in during intercourse, your erection can better stimulate her clitoris. It's similar to another technique called "grinding." That may also help, by the way.

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