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writes:I lost my virginity about a month ago. since then, i've had sex about 4 times. the problem is that i have pain during penetration. he can get it all the way in but he is not able to thrust because it hurts me. will this go away or is there something wrong with me?
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Its called "vaginasmus". I have it too. Google it.
There is nothing wrong with you. A LOT of women have it, and no one talks about it.
Its a psycological condition. You think the penis is too big so everytime you see one you tense up.
Some people spend years like that...
There are people who have given birth and still have it. How, you ask? Splash pregnancies... Google that too.
It could become worse because if you start to associate your partner with pain, you will get more and more hurt. (and I know, sometimes it feels like theres a knife in your vagina, lube, foreplay and all)
The net has great excercises you can do to over come it.... Failing that there are sexual health specialists. Just don't trust any gynie who says you need surgery to make your vagina bigger. What you need is to relax your pelvic floor muscles.
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reader, shazz1991xoxo  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 hey hunni it will go away eventually dont worry i had sex about six times till it got easier, mind you it only got easier when i was really drunk and didn't feel the pain as much but seriously it will get better try and relax and take ur time xoxo good luck
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (21 March 2012):
You are probably tensed up and a little nervous as it is all new to you. Try and relax, have lots of foreplay as this will help you relax and arouse you enough for intercourse. Try not to worry, it can be quite daunting when you first start having sex. I am sure with time the pain will go.
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reader, uroboros +, writes (21 March 2012):
this will go away when you're relaxed and aroused. make sure you're comfortable and make him concentrate on you more.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 March 2012):
 are you lubircated enough during sex?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 March 2012):
 The most likely thing is that you are not aroused enough. Make sure you are getting enough foreplay. In the beginning he should bring you close to orgasm before penetration to make certain you're aroused enough. You should also invest in a good lube, as it will make things less painful and speed things up a little.
If those don't help you need to see a gynecologist.
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