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writes:I have had the same primary for years and he is well like by and respected by all through out the entire hospital. Over the past several months I have had to see him more due to some recent medical problems. I am in my early fifties married with grown children I love my husband, he is so good to me but the bedroom has always lacked something. I am more of a romantic and that is not his style. Over the past few months I have been looking at my doctor differently. He has always hugged me, kissed me on my cheek over the years. But recently is has become a bit different on his part , the hugs are stronger , the kisses went from cheek to neck, he calls me sugar. Compliments my hair, tells me I am looking good losing weight. I have my grove back. I have also been flirting someone with him. The staff complains always because he spends to much time with me. I can't stand this constant thinking and getting know where. The next time I go in I want to tell him how I fell, I want to tell him I have been on a diet for 4 months and have not cheated once but if the opportunity came up I would with him and I would rock his world. He is at least 13 years older then me married with children and a pillar of his community and the medical field . Please help me what should I do. I am one to be very honest . If you think I should keep my mouth shut please tell me before my next apt. I don't want to ruin what I do have with him . Though I feel he has something for me.
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reader, My Doc rocks +, writes (10 February 2011):
My Doc rocks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciated every one that toke the time to answer my question which has been nagging me for a long time. I must admit to all I feel I did not do my doctor justice when I wrote the first question. I have been extremely ill one thing after another. He has had stood by me when I wanted to give up , he kept searching for other medical treatments to ease my pains. When other Dr.s where not so understanding he stood up in my behalf. So I feel very close to him for his strength , compassion, care for my health and well being. On top of all this he is the first man that has made me feel safe , this has to do with other personal issues that has afflicted my life.
When this man showed me attention , after all he has done to make me well both physically and emotionality over the years. He also makes me feel safe like no one ever has not even my own father, and yes my husband is wonderful I love him but the bedroom has never been his place of achievement so as a good wife as I am I never complained and made him always feel like a man. I just want one night to feel like a women , to be held in the arms of a man that makes me feel safe in the arms of a man that is so caring and compassionate. When he walks through the hospital it does not matter what hat you where he stops and talks to all employees . He is the salt of the earth , he truly is . If I gave the wrong impression of him I apologize.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): I'm going to go against the grain on this one. Obviously, by the way he's acting, he's interested. Right or wrong, he's sending you signals. Apparently (and sadly) your husband has always come up short in satisfying your bedroom need(s). Would this be a one-time sexual meet?? Just getting it out of your system, so to speak? I say go for it! Live and let live. Lucky doctor!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): "is at least 13 years older then me married with children and a pillar of his community and the medical field"
No he isn't a "pillar", he is a sewer, and he wouldn't be doing this if he wasn't.
Really, this is the kind of doctor you report to your state medical licensing board. He is way over the line, and it's probably not the first person who is vulnerable he's done this to....or he is becoming demented.
Call your state medical licensing board, report him, they will investigate. You need to do this not because of just you, but because of others, and if he's doing this kind of stuff he's probably no longer sound in his medical actions either.
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reader, Auntie5 +, writes (5 February 2011):
Your doctor is acting very inappropriately with you. Don't say anything, put your relationship back on a professional footing, and concentrate on improving your relationship with your husband.
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reader, bernergirl +, writes (5 February 2011):
 Ok. I think you should keep your mouth shut. Your doctor may flirt with you and genuinely like you, but he may do it with other patients as well. Maybe not all patients, but maybe a few. I take the stand that if people will cheat with you, then they will cheat on you. But I think you need to look at yourself, what would you want from the relationship? Are you prepared to lose everything you have with your husband? Do you have children? How could this affect them? I think you should consider that you are possibly taking your happiness at the cost of two if not more families? It sounds pretty selfish. I would tell you to either "mend it, or end it!" With your husband. I think its great you feel good about yourself, but my parents have been married for over 40 years, if I found out one was unfaithful to the other...I don't think I could forgive that. Anytime you turn outside your relationship rather than to your relationship you need to stop and take a breather and re-evaluate what you want. I hope this helps, like I said this is my opinion, however I have had girlfriends that are in this same situation, and they have lost everything. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): this may be harsh but,i think you should doctors because in the end you might hurt not only your and his family and yoursellf and probly regret it too!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 You are both married and I think you should start respecting that fact. What's more is you have children and this, what is this? What is this really? Something to soothe your sexual urge or your need for romance? Can that not be brought into your own marriage? Is it impossible to talk to your husband about something so important that its absence would threaten to destroy your world? Work on your marriage and you should keep this relationship with your primary strictly professional.
I hope that helps.
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