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30-35,
*ylan6264
writes:Basically...my gf of 12 months spilt up with me and got a bf within 3 weeks after the break up...mutual friends assure me that she didn't cheat... This week I went to see my mates who live in the same town as my ex and 3 different girls (her friends) have told me that my ex has been asking me how I was etc and said 'make sure you tell him i asked how he was'. The other night my mate and I went to this club and some mutual friends were there so we danced and had a drink with them...my ex was there with her new bf and when she realised I was there she dragged one of the mutual friend outside and shout at her for ''not telling my ex was coming'', even tho the mutual friend didn't know. My ex started crying etc. she said "Its not just hard for him ya know" Then she started kissing her new bf right in front of me, look at me for a reaction...which I gave none. Later on in the night she came up to me said hey and 'Wow!!! you smell nice' I asked about uni, she asked about my life and when her bf came back from the bathroom she kissed him in front of me...I was embarrassed for her... Her bf was absolutely oblivious to the nights events?If she has moved on etc why did she cry that I was there and kiss her man in such a ridiculous way, and also ask about me so much ...and today, the day after I get home she is texting all our mutual friends, inviting them to go to the pub...even my best friend, who she never really liked and she even used to say "I tolerate him for you". What are these games? Or am I just thinking to much into it ?
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reader, bernergirl  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 You know...she's hurting. Its easy to say she is just being jealous, she probably isn't trying to hurt you out of spite, but it I believe it is more of a self preservation. 3 weeks is really fast to get a new boyfriend. People have to go through stages of loss and grieving, some people jump into relationships, some people take time to figure things out. But you should realize if people don't take time to grieve or deal with the situation it will eventually come up in other parts of their life. That's why we call it a rebound relationship. I think when people ask for advice, its important to give them a direction. You have two choices here. 1.) Let go and try and stay strong. 2) Talk to her, invite her out to lunch and coffee and see where things are. If anything it may help you both obtain closure, or if things are really good, it could be a chance to reunite and try again. But you should know the ball is in your court. Good Luck and keep me posted!
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reader, dietcoke.1 +, writes (19 March 2011):
Shes not over you ! Shes playing the jelous card, making out she has the perfect boyfriend who she loves so you are jelous and wish you were with her. When you could get her with a click of your fingers .
If you like her go for it , if not just leave it you dont want to lead her on and hopeful for something thats not going happen
Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): Jaysus dude. Why are you splitting hairs?
This person is as crazy as they come. Thank your lucky stars she showed her true self now instead of three kids from now.
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