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*lektra714
writes:Hey everyone, I have a question that is about a psycho ex who is a stalker. My boyfriend dated this crazy woman right before he and I got back together after 22 years. They sis not date very long about 3 months. She would not stop texting, emailing, posting nasty thing on facebook, and the list goes on and on. He sent her emails and messages saying its over and to stop. Also that she was being very disrespectful to me. It stopped for a while and then in December she went so far as to use another persons facebook account to contact him. Saying that she will "hunt him down" and things of that nature. I have been quite, letting him handle it, but I am at the point I have had enough!!!! She continues to do subtle things to get to him and to me. What wuld you guys do? Any advice is welcome. I am ready to confront this "B" and give her a piece of my mind. He says that he is handling it and that I don't have a thing to worry about. We live together and are very happy. I know he cares for me a lot. I just want her to sop and leave us alone already. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): There are 3 sides to every story:
His version
Her version
And the truth.
Did he leave her for you?
Did he break her heart?
What role did he play in turning his ex into this stalker?
Something tipped the scales. What was it?
22 years later you hook up. Do u even know the real him? What has he been up to all this while?
Any more crazy exs?
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reader, milburn03111965 +, writes (18 February 2011):
I say you should first ascertain what is going on REALLY with your boyfriend, because 22 years is a long time, and anythiing could be happening. Just like that woman does not know what you are being told, you don't know what that woman is being told. I was in a similiar situation, but the man JUST told me today that he was living with his girlfriend, and had been there every since before Christmas. And he bought me a Christmas Gift, like we were still dating! Could be a case of the man trying to hold two birds in the hand, instead of finding his own bush LOL
But check it out and see, dont automatically think the lady is a stalker, without good reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Don't waste your time debating the issue. His initial reaction should have been to retract the invitation. He didn't which speaks volumes. Just disappear from his life with no explanation. He's tacky and mostly beneath you. Move on without explanation and never look back. Change all avenues that will enable him to contact you, otherwise he will be a nuisance and stalk you. God Bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): I agree. It is very wrong for you to be included in this, but there are usually three sides to every story. I would get with the man and confront her, together as a couple, and let her know that you two are not having it, and that she should push on. I personally was involved in this kind of scenario as the woman who was so-called "stalking", and it was not that I was stalking. It was that while me and the man had not been sexual for months, the man and I were still in contact every day, and the man bought me an expensive Christmas Gift and was angry that I did not do anything in return for him, so he decided to spring the New Lady as retaliation. So I wanted to let the New Lady know what had transpired between me and he. Now I am good, and I have moved on. You sound like you are sincere in your relationship, I would not let it rock my world, but I would save all e-mails and stuff, your third wheel may not be like me, just trying to let the man know that he was Busted in his Game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): Tell your boyfriend to ignore her completly if she emails don't reply. Just ignore her. It will make her feel much worse to have been ignored then having the pleasure in knowing she's bothering you. That's the best you could do. I know you really want to tell her off but don't it will just stir up drama. I had the same problem with an ex stalker I had to change my phone number move and even quit my job that's how bad it was. If she does "hunt him down" and he can't move or quit work just get a restraining order on the bitch. Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 February 2011):
She does seem a bit if a bunny boiler to me. I wouldn't confront her at all. People like her have a habit of turning everything around, and you'd probably wind up in a police cell before you even knew what had happened.
Instead, keep everything she sends on facebook, print pages, print emails. Everything. Then you can take it to the police, tell them what's happened and suggest that you need a restraining order, and also that she needs to be committed or something. They'll take it from there, and hopefully she won't bother you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): Usually there is alot more to the story in these kinds of situations and you are only hearing one side of it. How well do you know him? 22 years is a long time apart. I think there is much missing information or else he would have filed a restraining order. He could still be having sex with her or dating her much longer than he first indicated. He is mature in age enough that being with a woman like her may mean he has just as serious flaws and that should trigger an alarm for you to take your time, alot of time, before you get attached to him.
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reader, bernergirl +, writes (9 February 2011):
 When I first read your little prelude to your question, I was going to go off on you for calling another woman psycho (just a pet peeve of mine) but I can see your point she has some serious issues. Remember to try and keep a level head about this, you can't go off on this lady because then she will be able to use it against you. Your bf asked her to stop (print those emails) and print the other emails and get your texts from your cel-phone carrier. Then send another email (print out of course) and tell her you have already asked her to respect her privacy. But if she is to carry on in such a fashion you will be forced to get the authorities involved. Then if she continues go and file a restraining order on her (bring all of your printed emails). Remember to stay 3 steps ahead of her by having all your ducks in a row. If she violates the protection order she will go to jail, done again you can prosecute for stalking. Good Luck keep me updated.
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