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writes:we have been together for 10 yrs have 2 kids. I told her I wanted to end it a month ago because I catch her in lies all the time....including cheating on me 7 yrs ago in which I found out 2 yrs ago...we have been arguing a lot the last year or so. Dont want to make it hard on kids, we are still living in same house... Wasnt sure if I did the right thing. then she tells me a week ago she is already on eharmony...but she insist that she still lives me and wants me.....not sure about that Reply to this Question
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 First of all, I'm sorry to hear about what's going on. Breaking up is a difficult thing to do, especially when there are kids involved
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It sounds like your wife doesn't know what she wants. When someone starts cruising for other guys on dating websites, then it normally means they're looking for a rebound or they're perhaps using it as a means to move on from their past relationship quicker. But I would say given that your wife has lied to you and cheated on you in the past, that she can't really be trusted.
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reader, bernergirl +, writes (5 February 2011):
 Ugg! So sorry you are going through this. I would leave. She obviously can't be trusted, and I don't think there can be much of a relationship without trust. I would look at it like this. You have to act for what is in the best interest of the children. I think it is important to show children that when someone has disrespected you, then you should never except it. I always try and tell people to try and think as logically as possible, how would you advise one of your friends if they told you this story? Plus I would ask her to leave and stay at a hotel...because she obviously doesn't think any of her lies hold any consequences, maybe a few nights at a hotel would make her think twice. But I think you need to set some ground rules. It is NEVER ok to cheat on anyone....EVER! BOTTOM LINE! Hope this helps...hope everything turns out ok, keep me posted. Good Luck.
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