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reader, person12345 +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Without trust a relationship can't survive. But to some extent trust has to be gained. As long as there's some trust and it's improving there's hope. Most people don't just jump into a relationship fully trusting their boyfriend or girlfriend, it develops and is earned over time. So if you're talking about a relatively new relationship, give it time. If you mean years now and you still have trouble with trust, it's probably time to move on.
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reader, bernergirl +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Well, this answer depends on how you define a relationship. There are some people who don't need trust, they are in a relationship for money, fame, and other things that make them tick. As for me, I have to have trust. I am going to take the liberty to read between the lines of your question and say that someone has abused your trust.... Can it be prepared? Yes it can. But it takes time. And a whole bunch of work. The time is up to you. Because they now need to build up the trust that they have lost with you. If it takes a month, a year, five years that is your prerogative. They need to work to build it up again. So you should ask yourself if you want to take this time to rebuild the trust and if they even would want to put in the effort. The statistics are definitely stacked against you. But it is possible. Remember trust takes a lifetime to build and a minute to destroy. But keep me posted and good luck.
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reader, d'writer  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Trust is the foundation for a lasting relationship. And once trust is broken, the damage can't be easily repaired. It can be mend, you can forgive but you will not forget....I have been there many times, and it did not work out.
Trust must be earned, not just simply demanded. If they betrayed your trust and ask for forgiveness and a second chance, they should need to prove themselves and earn your trust hard again, they can't simply demand for it.
It's hard to be in a relationship where you can't trust the other person. No relationship can ever succeed without the element of full trust.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 I think that trust has to be there for it to be a successful relationship. That being said though, trust does not appear out of nowhere. It has to be earned and created through experiences with that person.
Just because there is no trust now doesn't mean that the two people can't build up to trusting each other. Even if that means taking things slow 3 or 4 years into the relationship. There is no real time frame for this, it is all based on how you feel so you have t be consious of that so you know when the relationship should have more trust then it does and it is time to end it.
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