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writes:What is the main reason a man would cheat o his wife or girlfriend? Especially married men! :)andWhat would be the main reason for a woman to cheat on her husband or boyfriend? Especially married woman! :)
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reader, Moonknight  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Everyone are different, however think about this...
It's so easy not to cheat when no one wants you...
Being a good looking married man with females attracted to you, slipping once takes alot out of any man when so many attractive female wants you. as a man it makes you think WTF why am i not banging her? what if my wife is secretly doing the same? what if we break up? then i would have wasted all the time i had to have fun with others, when the marriage ends badly...
Those insecure thoughts plus with attractive women wanting a bit on the side are damn good reasons for a man to cheat. not only that, some women go after married men, they become a target it becomes fun to fuck another woman's man behind her back and all those secrets, lies and hiding makes the sex even so much more exciting.
Men are physically attracted to women, it has nothing to do with feelings, (a man don't have to be unhappy in his marriage to cheat) so it makes little difference who the female is, his wife or some random girl, he'll get just as hard.
How does a man who's been in his marriage refuse all that a put his wife first? It takes a real man to do that, and it is not just one sided, a man needs to know his women belongs to him and him only to refuse that. A flirty wife on the other hand may not give off the security a man needs to resist those other women..
As a man i can't speak for women, women seem to be alot more loyal than men are, probably because of society, where if a man has 4 different women he's the MAN! and if a woman has more than 1 man she's a slut. make no mistakes though, some women are sluts! and some women don't want to be like that, hence some strong loyality.
So i'd say the most comment reason that i come across why women cheat... married women too... are unhappiness, bad sex life with the hubby, and some other guy wanting her and maybe because he can't get her... it sems like he wants her far more than her husband... that may seem appealing to a female maybe
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Lust, physical lust.
There may be a billion other reasons relating to unhappiness with whoever they're supposed to be with, but I'm fairly sure the main cause of cheating is overwhelming sexual attraction to whoever they're cheating with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): The main reason someone cheats is...its in their character. There are 2 types of people ...those that will and those that won't cheat. Those that won't, will go through abuse, temptations, boredom and any kind of 'test' to their commitment that one can think of, but they don't believe it is right and will get divorced before they start seeing another person.
Those that will cheat, will find a reason or justification for doing it and then use that to defend the act as either not being their fault or beyond their control and even blame it on the other partner for doing something like neglecting them, but unless they were raped, it is in fact a choice they made based on the believe that under certain circumstances, cheating is justifiable.
That is why, once someone cheats on you, they are capable of and probably will, do it again...they have the type of character that cheats.
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reader, Black diamond20 +, writes (3 October 2010):
Black diamond20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks,great answers!:)
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Hm...broad question but everyone's different. From men, I've heard the reasons/excuses: my wife is not attractive anymore, our sex life is boring, my spouse didn't pay me any attention anymore, I was curious about her, I was drunk! I was far from my spouse and missed her so I used another woman for sex, my wife nagged me too much and it goes on... As for women: I didn't feel like I loved my spouse anymore. He'd been ignoring me for months so I fell for a man who paid attention to me. I was in love with this guy a long time ago, I couldn't help it...it just happened! I cheated to get back at him!" Really, both parties use these excuses interchangeably. Though in my experience, I hear men use the specific ones I listed and the women use the ones I listed. There are people though who cheat only for excitement, the thrill of the chase, and/or whatever available sexual gratification they found for the moment.
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 there are many reasons to cheating, one could go onn forever on all the reasons why people cheat!! however, the most common reasons are boredom,lack of sex or wanting a spicier sex life and spouse does not provide the flair it once had,one of the really weird reasons people cheat is they want to see if they still love their other half. some men find having a wife and family has altered his sex life in a negative way so he looks for sexual excitement with other women, fighting- a lot of fighting kills love for ur spouse and a lot of people look for solace and cmfort with others other thnen the spouse. etc etc etc. so there are many reasons, every person cheats for their own reason and usuallyit cant be gender specific as men and w2omen cheat often for the same reasons.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 There is no main reason, everybody is different so everybody cheats for different reasons. Some people just fall out of love, others want the danger risk, and others fall for someone else and they end up giving in. There is a lot of different reasons.
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