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*ikandme
writes:Hey i just turned 16. i went to a party a few nights ago and met a very nice girl. very mature acting just being part of the crowd. little did i know she is only 13 and turning 14. she suprised everyone at the bonfire with her age, i mean nobody guessed she was that age. we went to a rodeo dance together, and i'm fallin really really hard. im giving a new meaning to it. but i'm not the type to date girls that much younger than me but i cant hold my feelings down this time. i need some advise. should i just go with it? or should i suck it up and try to move on? the only thing makin this so hard is we are so much alike its unbelievable. help me out please
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (1 October 2009):
 It sounds to me like you're attracted much more to her personality than her body, and thats fantastic - in my opinion much better than if you went after some girl your age, only interested in sex rather than a relationship.I would say try to create chances to spend a bit of time with her on your own, just as a friend at first (try to get a sense of her maturity level, etc) - and then if you still feel the same and she does too, why not pursue it? :) Just make sure that you're not pressuring her into anything, sexual or otherwise. Even if she seems perfectly stable, that age can be more difficult for girls than they let on, so make sure that you're always sensitive and supportive with her. :) As for the age gap, although it is more obvious when the girl is under 16, don't be discouraged - I started my current relationship when I was 16 and my boyfriend was 20 and have never been happier. Just be aware that obviously she may be a little behind you in certain respects, even if she is very mature, and make sure you are fully respectful of her and her parents as they may have a few worries about it. So long as you tread carefully though, I think everything should be fine :)Good luck!
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reader, nikandme +, writes (1 October 2009):
nikandme is verified as being by the original poster of the question FYI " asian tealeaf" she has a bigger chest then most of the 16 year old girls. odd i know. but please dont assume i am some horn dog. just looking for somthing to fuck. you are way back asswards there. sex is the LAST thing im after. i have a unique respect for girls. and i would never jeperdise her health or anything by having sex with her. not gona happen for a while. befor insaulting someone maybe get some back ground on them dont you think? or they might just get pissed off like i am now.
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 too young in my opinion, u should date a gal at least ur age...but if uwere 20 and she was 18 then it would not be soo bad. but no matter how mature she seems, 13 yr old girls still go thru the things that girls there age do. she is also
going thru puberty and u might find her very flippy in mood swings etc. ur a a bit older in age. why go for a little girl who probably has that boyish looking chest and child like body when u can date a girl with more wits and a more mature female body? and, lastly, if u date her and u end up sleeping with her and knock her up, i might say ur screwed. do u want the mom of ur child to be a child herself? hmmm, i think u need to be a little wiser in ur judgement here buddy. and of course, wrap the little guy up. u are still young and u dont need kids. plus, u will have way more in common with a 16 yr old then a 13 yr old girl who still might be sleeping with stuffed toys and has curfews and cant go the movie theatre with u or go on a fancy dinner date.. u want to be a bf to a girl or play daddy with a 13 yr old? geez, whats with guys and young girls? its not attraction ur feeling buddy. ur confusing that with ur cocks carnal primal desires and # 1 function in life. to go skinny dipping in a tidal pool. keep ur soldiers under control...whack ur noodle when u need to and leave the 13 yr olds alone eh? what happens when ur 20 and u still feel attracted to some other 13 yr old? i think theres a term for it somewhere. but, seeing as how ur 16 yrs old, one cant use it here. but back off from her, let her grow up and mature in to a LADY and then maybe u can go double dipping with ur nacho scoop!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): I think you should tell her your feelings and ask her out on a date. 2 years isn't much but, then again it is when it comes to sexual activity as you're older and probably wanting this at some point during a relationship. Just make sure that if you do go out with her, don't (if she isn't sexually active) pressure her into anything!
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reader, Brook_e_boo +, writes (4 July 2009):
 well if u like this girl alot and u are falling for her take her out a coupl times and tell her how u are not to shure about the age diffrence and see how the relation ship gose froem there. this same thing happend to me like to months ago wit a older guy and to this day i am dating him cuz he connfrunted me
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