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writes:I have a problem with tattoos on women and don't know what it is, after a girlfriend got her second one I lost it and flipped out and my anxiety level goes up around her and everyone in her family has tattoos and that bothers me more, Is there any way at all to get over this?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 March 2016):
 Yes, there is a way to get over it. First you must tell us though, why do you freak out at the sight of tattoos? What is it about them? What feelings do you experience?
Figure out the root of what you feel and why. Then you will find the solution on how to work to get rid of these feelings associates with tattoos.
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (5 March 2016):
 first of all, you should question WHAT bothers yiuabout tattoos first. Then ask yourself why. once you can idnetify the why's and whats, you can better understand how to deal with this. Tattoos are in itself, nothing to be bothered by. Unless you belong to a religion or culture that forbids it! I am bhudddist, so my family and culture FORBID bodily tattoos, and facial piercings. I got a facial piercing ( nose), and my father flipped out on me. However, as I am adult, he could not say much! You should reflect on yourself, and remember that a tattoo does NOT define a person. Or their inside. It is merely a form of self expression. Unless shes got some real malicious or racist tattoos, which one may find offensive, however other than that I hope this helps!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (5 March 2016):
 Some see "tramp stamp" while others see body art. Look at her soul(it is in her eyes not under any ink. Deep breaths.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 March 2016):
 Her body - her choices.
If you don't like them, don't date women with tattoos.
Talk to a therapist? This is your issue, not your GF's.
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reader, LJCX  +, writes (4 March 2016):
 What's this tattoo like? Is it a big old ugly thing or is it small and discreet? I guess you chose her because you were attracted to her and the more of these she gets the less attracted you will be.I don't think you should be bothered about her family having them, you are in a relationship with her not her entire family. But the fact that they all have them should have been a bit of a clue that she would follow suit.Do you think she will have any more? If so then you need to seriously consider if you want to be with her knowing that it will get worse.I personally love tattoos and every boyfriend I've had has them. Funny thing is some of them disliked tattoos on women which is a bit of a double standard! Do you have any by the way?I just had a little look on the net to find out how many people have tattoos and it says around 30% so about 2.1 billion people in the world have them. That surprised me! I'm guessing you'd be a bit hard pushed to find somebody without one as about 30% of the population of the world are children and then you have people over 65 to factor in with all of that. I don't think many women over 65 has them.So perhaps one way of getting over this is to realise that being tattooed is all the rage at the moment and it would be difficult finding a person you really like without them having at least one.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 March 2016):
 Well first off I hope you apologised for losing it, it's her body and her choice, same goes with her family. Why do you think you have anxiety over these issues!? Try and think why it is you hate tattoos so much, have they any meaning to you? If you are unable to control these feelings then I suggest getting medical help.
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