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writes: I have a problem. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half months now. Our sex life was awesome in the begining, but lately not so much. We have sex almost everyday, but I feel like i'm getting loose down there and I don't think he enjoys it as much as he used to and neither do I. I always have to MAKE IT tighter so that he starts liking it but I don't, other wise if I don't do that it will take him too long to finish. What can I do so that i'm tight again without me having to actually MAKE IT tighter for him all the time? It's too stressful for me having to make it tighter everytime. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): best thing to do is make yourself have a orgasm by rubbing your clit really fast and then have sex stright after your mucsels tighten and feels really nice
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (24 December 2007):
 If you haven't had children yet, you're NOT too loose. And if he says even ONE thing about it, you need to leave him. Seriously, you don't want to get older with someone who's that shallow.You probably just need to vary the position. If it's taking him "too long" you need to either move to a position that gives more friction, or get some lubricant and be ready for it to take longer.Something else just occurred to me: if he hasn't SAID that it's taking too long, perhaps he's just being a gentleman and waiting for you? Maybe he thinks you'll have an orgasm if you just get some more time?TALK to him. Conversation about your sex life is probably the MOST IMPORTANT talk (and most ignored talk) in any relationship. Good luck hon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): It sounds more like bordom setting in than anything else..if vaginas lost all of their lasticity then women who give birth could never again have enjoyable sex. That being said, heres a tip, after he's inside you, either close your legs and have his legs on the outside of just keep your legs on the outside but pressed close to him. Dont spread your legs wide and try to use your vaginal muscles to make it tighter. Perhaps lubricant might help as well)
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reader, LULU'S Advice  +, writes (24 December 2007):
 The best exercise for tightening the muscles down there is to practice pulling the vaginal muscles up.You do this by stopping yourself from peeing,just hold and count to ten,relax and do it again.You can do this any time cos no one can tell.xx
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reader, dreamgurl380200 +, writes (24 December 2007):
ok u know when your peeing?...and when your in the middle of peeing just stop...even though u have more....then thats what u do all the time but not while your peeing just when you're sitting around or whatever just push out and in ..like your peeing you can feel the muscles...its call like kegal excersies or something...it'll gradually make it tighter down there...u gotta push out hold for 20 seconds then release u can do it anywhere anytime...and when your having sex do it ...he'll luv it...because i had a baby so ..
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reader, eyesramazing +, writes (24 December 2007):
Don't be silly. You can tighten your vaginal muscles by doing Kegel exercies. Research it. You are not getting "loose" down there. Your vagina expands when you get excited and have intercourse. Don't let your man make you feel inadequate or like there is something wrong with you. Trust me... he's still enjoying you
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Well what works for me is just letting things happen and not worrying about anything. But what also works to make you tighter well for me at least is curling your toes. It works!
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