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writes:i was just wondering how many people end up with a person that they went out with when they were younger?? Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom +, writes (19 January 2008):
I can understand your question two ways:
- "How many couples meet, then move on to other partners or other interests, but come back to each other as permanent partners?", or
- "How many couples meet their life partners when they are (say) 17 years old or younger?"
I don't have a definite answer. Among my circle of acquaintances there are couples who fit either interpretation, and at least one that fits both. I might guess that the "get serious/separate/reconnect" scenario fits 10% or less, and the "High School sweethearts" scenario fits fewer than 5%. Either case is probably much more likely among people who are not physically mobile - i.e., grow up, go to college, and have a career all within the same community.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): I don't know the numbers. But it is a common thing to remember old flames and want to get back with them.
The reason it probably doesn't happen that often is because usually one person has moved on and is doing better than the other person. And the person who is still reminiscing on the old flame just couldn't manage to meet someone as good or their life just didn't turn out as great as they thought. But the person who is better off is just no longer interested and that's probably why it wouldn't work out.
But don't focus so much on old flames and always look forward and focus on your career, your education, your experieces-make them good. Just don't look back, look forward. If someone wants to contact you they will. n the meantime be all that you can be.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (19 January 2008):
 Sorry, I didn't explain. I met my husband when I was in high school and he was in University. He was 18 and I was 17. We are now 52 and 53. We have two grown kids. I can't say that it has been my experience that many couple we have know have made it, only a few, including a few gay couples as well! But anonymous probably had it right, probably about 10%. It would be great to hear the actual statistic if anyone out there knew the answer!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (19 January 2008):
Me! Yay!
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reader, Asexy +, writes (19 January 2008):
 I dated my H.S. love for 9 years. We didn't marry, which was a good thing. Wonderful person, but as adults we didn't have the same ideas about how things should go. With the love of my life now, whom I didn't meet until after 30.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): These days, probably less than 10% of the population.
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