I've never gave a handjob before.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months. He is my first proper relationship and we really havn't done anything sexually. He has fingered me twice, but I want to return the favour and give him a handjob. Problem is I've never done anything...
A. 27 February 2011: I agree with "YouWish" and others, but would add that as you know how you like to do it to yourself and he knows how he likes it, you could well find it more fun to demonstrate to each other?
Mutual masturbation can follow, once he has reco... (read in full...)
My friend told me all men are really gay!
Q. Are all men GAY??? A guy who once had sex with another guy said to me that all men are gay, and that they just wont admit it, that they don't actually want women they just want to get off or have babies? He said stuff like they think the vagina...
A. 27 February 2011: What a load of pony!
For non-Londoners, please google "Pony" in the rhyming slang section.
Ivan. ... (read in full...)
Bra size.... how do I measure myself for correct sizing??
Q. how can i measure myself to make sure i am wearing the crrect bra size?...
A. 27 February 2011: I keep applying to be a bra fitter, but they won't let me!
Ivan.... (read in full...)
I overheard my boyfriend bragging to his friend about using me for sex and then breaking up!!
Q. hi everybody I've been crying my eyes out all day because when I was walked into the passway leading to my boyfriend's dorm room I overheard him bragging and giving high fives to his roommate about how he was going to break up with me after he ...
A. 24 February 2011: You've been played, but atleast be thankful that you found out in time before you lost it to this bastard. He isn't worth your tears, which I'm sure are a lot to do with your anger at yourself for falling for his lies - as Cindy so wisely says, you ... (read in full...)
How to feel more secure with these large breasts?
Q. I am a young girl with very large breasts and to be Frank I don't like them. I am slightly bigger than the other girls height and width wise but I still consider myself quite slim, it's just in my year the girls are all sticks. I am a 34E when my ...
A. 22 February 2011: It IS possible to get a breast reduction done on the NHS in the UK, but only if it seriously affects your health in everyday life, physically or psychologically.
All operations carry a risk, and breast reduction is considered to be far more risk... (read in full...)
Boyfriend taking advantage of me being jealous!
Q. i am 13 and my bf is 14. im a very jealous person but my bf seems to be taking advantage of this, one day he came out of lesson telling me how big this other girls breasts are and her bra size. he has done this to me with many girls on many dif...
A. 19 February 2011: He's a turd, and you know you can't polish those!
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I have so much hair down there, that prick-free sex with my guy is near impossible!!
Q. I've been seeing a lot of questions about shaving/waxing down there lately and I figured I'd chime in with my own. My dad blessed me with thick body hair (note the sarcasm). When I shave, it usually starts getting prickly the same day. Then t...
A. 15 February 2011: Not a helpful answer, I know, but I fell about at reading "prick-free sex"!
If you were from the UK you would understand the hilarity....
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I don't know what to write in the valentine card!
Q. First Valentine's day with a boyfriend... we have been dating for 2 months, haven't said "I love you" or anything like that yet, and I need help with what to write in a Valentine's day card for him, so far all I have is Happy Valentine's Day, but i ...
A. 14 February 2011: Unless protocols have changed, it is normal NOT to sign Valentine's cards; they are sent anonymously.
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My piercing is ruining my sex life. Does anyone else have tips on how to fix these problems?
Q. Hey, back in November i got a VCH piercing. I spent years researching it and was 110% sure i wanted one. Fast forward to now and it is still tender and ruining my sex life. Especially when i have to ask my boyfriend to stop doing what he's doin...
A. 13 February 2011: Your GP would be gentle, and would check for any possible infection, which could be the cause of your pain.
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How do I handle a threatening group at school?
Q. Okay so there's this girl in my school who's like really ghetto. And she has her own "posse" but so do i and i'm the leader of mine except i'm not ghetto at all. In fact the ghetto girl calls me "blonde" but i have brown hair and i'm part african. ...
A. 13 February 2011: Have you forgotten why you are at school? You are there to learn, gain qualifications and prepare yourself for the adult world, where you will have to earn your living.
You are NOT there to play at gangs and childish warfare - there are no care... (read in full...)
My roommate keeps breaking "house rules"! How can I approach her about this?
Q. Hi everyone!! I hate it when people take the Mickey! I am a student in my 3rd year at uni. I live with my boyfriend and another couple who we were friends with last year. We all live in a flat that my parents bought and we rent from them. Ever sinc...
A. 12 February 2011: Your place (or your parents'), your rules.
She knew up front what was required of her and already apologised for breaking the rules. Now she has done it again - that IS taking the piss!
I would suggest to her that if she cannot respect your rul... (read in full...)
Is this woman really pregnant, or is she trying to blackmail me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had an affair with a married woman. She is 40+ and I’m 20+. I’m single. After we broke up, I didn't see her for a few weeks. One day, we had dinner together. After dinner, she told me she is pregnant now. It was a terrible shock....
A. 9 February 2011: Has she asked you for money?
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Stole big brother's girl!!!
Q. Ok I have always known my big brother is seriously lacking in the size department I had always heard from girls he was around 3 inches and I got all the genes apparently I'm around 8 inches. Well I was really attracted to my brother's girlfriend ...
A. 8 February 2011: If this isn't a troll post then I'm with "dirtball" - you need to crawl back under the stone you came from.
What an ARSE!
Ivan.... (read in full...)
I want sex toys but I have to ask my mom
Q. I would like to ask my mum about getting sex toys but need her to buy them since I am only 15 and can't buy online. But I have know idea how to ask her since she is not so open about these things ...
A. 8 February 2011: I think that you CAN buy online, but paying might be difficult as you won't have a credit/debit card at your age.
Don't you have a friend who can help - or do you want to keep it totally private?
Maybe an online site would accept a Postal Order?
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She feels bad because I'm doing all the work
Q. My girlfriend says she feels bad about us having sex because she feels like I'm doing all the work. Theres no pleasure issues, I've done my anatomy, psychology and physiological homework and have developed some kind of bizarre self control from ...
A. 5 February 2011: She needs to adopt a better position. As we are not blessed with the means to draw diagrams on here, may I suggest that you look up the "Cosmopolitan" website; they have lots of graphic (in both senses!) descriptions of a wide variety of positions - ... (read in full...)
Is he serious about me? Or does he just want to get laid?
Q. I've been seeing this guy on and off... It all started off when we ended up kissing on his birthday (we were best friends)...and the kiss was so good that we ended up getting frisky a couple of times after that. I fell for him...and even told...
A. 5 February 2011: Hmm....is he coming back? Or is it a case of Love you and forget? Ivan.... (read in full...)
Wondering about cigarettes....
Q. Im 15 and love the smell of second hand smoke, so just wobdering wat they taste like and is it strange to get aroused by the thought of smoking? Abd dont give me rubbish like they bad for you plz!...
A. 2 February 2011: If nothing else, think of the cost. I looked at the cigarette prices in the supermarket the other day - £5 for a packet!
I hear that many people smoke more than one packet per day, so say £10 per day - £3,650 per year!!!
And if, as a smoker, ... (read in full...)
Pubic hair question for guys.....
Q. Well, I need advice on how I should shave my pubic area. I know the majority of guys like it all the way shaved, but I can never manage to get it completely smooth on the top part without getting bumps and redness. So, my question is, do you think ...
A. 2 February 2011: CG, most of the time you are spot on with your answers, but in this case I have to disagree (slightly) with you. It's not "small-minded" to prefer your partner to be hairless: when indulging in full-on sucking and licking to pleasure her it helps ... (read in full...)
Why swallow? whats the pleasure?
Q. dear readers, i would like to ask the men out there and possibly the women why men like a girl to swallow their semen? why is it attractive to men to see there girlfriend swalllowing the product of their energy? some women say it tastes awfu...
A. 1 February 2011: It's one of the most intimate and loving things a woman can do for her man, and we truly appreciate it. And, as has been said, stopping to spit spoils the mood.
I do my part to make my cum taste as good as possible by drinking loads of pine... (read in full...)
Why are men so tired after having an orgasm?
Q. dear readers, i just of the phone to my boyfriend, and well lets say what we talked about ended up in him, well finishing (cum)i would like to know why guys get so tired after they finish? for me it might make me tired for a little bit but t...
A. 30 January 2011: It's hormonal, for men. The release of endogenous opioids (commonly known as endorphins) that are required for ejaculation and associated with orgasm also lead to that slightly euphoric state and drowsiness. It's worth pointing out that women ex... (read in full...)
I couldn't get into masturbating!
Q. So i'm a virgin and last night i tried to masturbate for the first time. The thing is, i didn't really feel any pleasure from it. I read online before hand and read that it was amazing so i was thinking it would be the same for me. I touched my clit ...
A. 30 January 2011: The most erotic part of your body is your mind, so you need to be turned on first. But, as far as the mechanics of things are concerned I have some guidance for you. Too explicit for here, but if you wish to PM me, I'll explain. Ivan.... (read in full...)
Married 5 years, still virgins, help!
Q. This year I will celebrate my 5 year wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, my wife and I are still virgins. I love her with all of my heart. People that know us think we have the most wonderful, romantic relationship. Love letters every morning before ...
A. 29 January 2011: As usual, "CG" has hit it spot on. You do everything in this so-called marriage and she appears to do nothing. After all those working hours you still do most of the housework - what a bad deal you have got! Does she make ANY contribution at ... (read in full...)
Pubic hair question.....
Q. Hi everyone, im just wondering does hair actually grow on the penis or they just grow on the base of the penis? ...
A. 25 January 2011: FA is quite clear - the fine hairs will be pretty well invisible, so for all intents and purposes are not there: coarse pubic hairs will not be.
Unless in your case, as you say, you have some towards the base. It doesn't mean you are odd, just part... (read in full...)
How do I ask my mom to get birth control?
Q. Okay, me and my boyfriend really wanna have sex we have been together for over a year, but how do I ask my mom to get me birth control? What do I say so she will understand and not get mad cause I don't wanna go behind her back and get it but I need ...
A. 23 January 2011: In most states what you are planning to do is illegal as you are below the age of consent at 17, so you are asking your mum to aid and abet an illegal act, for which she could also be arrested.
Your bf will be charged with statutory rape even thou... (read in full...)
Men, which male enhancement pills do you recommend?
Q. Stupid question but my boyfriend has been bugging me to ask. He wants some type of male enhancement pills for his birthday. There are all different kinds of pills out there and I've done some research online. What I want to know is if any men out ...
A. 11 January 2011: If you mean the type of pills that claim to increase personal dimensions, forget it - snake oil, every one! Ivan.... (read in full...)
Will my babies be born with problems?
Q. I was married to my first cousin 5 month ago….now I want be a mother. But I have herd that the baby born for relatives are born with physical or mental problem. Please help me....
A. 10 January 2011: Your information is way out of date and you will have no problems.
The incidence of birth defects for people in your position is no greater than for the rest of the population, current research indicates, so just treat yourselves as any other coup... (read in full...)
I am being forced to go to boarding school by my parents!
Q. My parents is forcing me to an all boys school which is the top school in the UK. I do not want to go to it because I will be a full boarder in that school, which means I will be in the campus 24/7. I seriously can't tolerate that. What c...
A. 10 January 2011: Without sounding too critical, aren't you being rather ungrateful?
Your parents are providing you with the best possible start in life, a very expensive education at, in your words, the top school in the UK and you rail against it.
It seems to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants two girls to give him a blow job!
Q. My boyfriend really wants to have 2 girls give him a blowjob. I'm not too keen on the idea of one of those girls being me. Should I let him do this with 2 other females so he can get over it and I won't be around to see it?...
A. 9 January 2011: Without getting stuffy about this, I regard a BJ as something special between a loving couple, an expression of their love in a very intimate way.
To do it so casually in an unfeeling way suggests that firstly he isn't very mature and also that he w... (read in full...)
Does it mean anything when a man holds your face when he kisses you?
Q. Does it mean anything when a man kisses you and holds your face? He cups your face with both hands but is he sending you a message also? Not all men do this? Just looking for opinions? thanks!...
A. 6 January 2011: It's another way of saying "I love you"......
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Is it dangerous for two people to make out with one another when one person is on top of the other, and both have clothes on?
Q. This is kind of an odd question.. but my boyfriend of about 2 years and I as we began to become alot closer to one another, we started making out laying down on his futon/bed type thing. It all started because a months after we had begun dating...
A. 5 January 2011: You are safe. Sperm cannot penetrate clothing; what you saw was seminal fluid and that is unimportant.
Provided you keep your clothes on, you can get as excited and carried away as you like, as long as he is happy to deal with the mess in his unde... (read in full...)
Does this make me a terrible girlfriend?
Q. My boyfriend is a "musician", or so he tries. I personally can't stand listening to him sing. I just don't have the heart to tell him that. Instead I suffer in silence. We haven't even been dating a year yet, and the noise is beginning to get under ...
A. 3 January 2011: In the UK we have a "talent" contest known as the X-Factor. In the early rounds it is full of people who clearly have zero talent or musicality and I am amazed that not one of them has an honest friend to tell the truth and save the dreadful ... (read in full...)
Why do people think they can talk down to you, just because you're serving them food!
Q. Hi guys just a random question. Since I was 14 Iv worked in fast food to aupport myself and help out my family. I'm currently in uni and online o graduate with a first. But why is it that people think they can speak to you like crap just cos your ...
A. 2 January 2011: Deplorable as it is, you are in England and I think it is the remnants of the class system. Ignorant people have this attitude to "servants", unlike the more egalitarian attitudes of New York that "female anon" described. You made me recall an occ... (read in full...)
Swollen penis... how can I stop this happening?
Q. Hey guys, I'm a 16 year old boy and I'm having a hard time masturbating. It never used to be like this. But the thing is, after I climax my penis gets really swollen and it'll go back to normal the next day. That's one of the reasons why I don't ...
A. 20 December 2010: If you mean that you are still erect all that time, it is called priapism (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priapism) and is dangerous; see your doctor as soon as possible because permanent damage to your penis could result.
The usual advice is that... (read in full...)
I have developed a phobia of driving!
Q. Hi aunts and uncles! Please can someone help. Since I passed my driving test 4 months ago I've developed a driving phobia. I'm a nervous person anyway and get panic attacks but I was fine driving with my instructor. When I passed me ...
A. 13 December 2010: If you do as CG suggests and still can't come to terms with driving, you will be a danger to yourself and others on the road so it could be the end of your driving career.
Sorry.
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My girlfriend's sister tried to kiss me!
Q. Last week I was shocked to find my girlfriends' sister trying it on with me! I'm 22 and live with my girlfriend, who is 23 and her sister is only 16. My girlfriends whole family came to stay at our house as we live quite far apart and one day I ...
A. 13 December 2010: Perhaps you should threaten to tell her sister and/or parents if she doesn't behave?
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Why do women play hard to get?
Q. I don't know if there's something wrong with me, but I get extremely angry when a woman is interested in me but she plays hard to get. Why do women do that? Why can't they just throw themselves at you if they are genuinely interested. It w...
A. 8 December 2010: Oh "BrownWolf", you made me laugh! Not really from what you said; not directly, anyway, but by recalling a memory....
The mother of my pet dog was impregnated by the fateher, who was tied up at the time - she went and offered herself to the dog!... (read in full...)
We have anal sex one time, and now he always wants it!
Q. i am kinda having an issue that i don't know how to address. me and my boyfriend tried anal a couple weeks ago. i was afraid at first but i was surprised that i actually liked it. but the problem is now that seems to be all my an boyfriend wants! i ...
A. 7 December 2010: Thanks, Jilly. I'm sure you don't need telling that a lot of women's problems stem from having certain holes way too close together and it's best not to encourage these problems by mixing fluids up.
And as for "rimming", I've never understood the ... (read in full...)
We have anal sex one time, and now he always wants it!
Q. i am kinda having an issue that i don't know how to address. me and my boyfriend tried anal a couple weeks ago. i was afraid at first but i was surprised that i actually liked it. but the problem is now that seems to be all my an boyfriend wants! i ...
A. 7 December 2010: I'm sorry, male anan, but if you doubt what I have said ask a health professional yourself - or any porn star that indulges in anal; that's why they get paid extra, for the risk.
Ivan.
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We have anal sex one time, and now he always wants it!
Q. i am kinda having an issue that i don't know how to address. me and my boyfriend tried anal a couple weeks ago. i was afraid at first but i was surprised that i actually liked it. but the problem is now that seems to be all my an boyfriend wants! i ...
A. 7 December 2010: If he is indulging in anal sex without a condom, he is seriously at risk from infection as lots of unfriendly bacteria live up there, together with the fact that you could end up incontinent if you do it frequently.
If he IS wearing a condom for ... (read in full...)
Guys, what do you like when looking at a gal?
Q. this is just for abit of fun really lol. I've never had a BF, and honestly aint that interested, but lately I've decided that I'm going to make abit more of an effort with my apperance/clothes etc etc. Then that got me wondering what guys actua...
A. 3 December 2010: May I add to Loveless' comments about make-up?
It's wise to emphasise eyes OR lips, but not both: underplay whichever you feel less confident about, or alternate.
Ivan.
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Guys, what do you like when looking at a gal?
Q. this is just for abit of fun really lol. I've never had a BF, and honestly aint that interested, but lately I've decided that I'm going to make abit more of an effort with my apperance/clothes etc etc. Then that got me wondering what guys actua...
A. 3 December 2010: A recent study concluded that women were at their most attractive when showing no more than 40% bare flesh - much more and it seems threatening, much less and there's not much to be interested in!
Use that as your guide?
Ivan.... (read in full...)
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