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writes:Dear Cupid, I had an affair with a married woman. She is 40+ and I’m 20+. I’m single. After we broke up, I didn't see her for a few weeks. One day, we had dinner together. After dinner, she told me she is pregnant now. It was a terrible shock. I can't believe that. Yes, we had unprotected sex, but she took the emergency contraception pill within 48 hours. Also, I never finished inside of her.Now, she has told me not to worry about her and that she is going to abort the pregnancy. Now, I don't know what to do. Is she trying to blackmail me about her pregnancy? I also don't know whether she is telling the truth or lying to me. Please give some advice.I appreciate your kind help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@AuntyEm
Thanks again for your suggestions.
I will stay away from her from now on.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Absolutely the right decision. If you contacted her for sex or anything else now you would be a completely disgusting and evil person.
Leave her alone, no contact, forget she exists...
Also book yourself in for some sex education classes so you can learn how to have sex safely without risking getting anyone pregnant or picking up an STD.
Leaving the responsibility to women to take the pill or whatever is extremely stupid. Man up, protect yourself and keep your sexual adventures to the single market from now on....you will be a better person for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@AuntyEmYes, you are right. Nobody knows. She might be angry with me. After I had left her, she sms me and blamed me that I’m so selfish and irresponsible man…etc.I felt very bad. From now on, there will be no call, no sms and no meeting with her. Is that the right decision, to stay away from her?Thanks for your help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@CerberusI think it will be either the pill failed or she’s lying to me. It cannot be with her husband. Anyway she will do abortion. So, I don’t have to worry. Thanks for your suggestion my friend. I will stay away from her.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (9 February 2011):
Nobody knows if she is pregnant apart from her. It may or may not be yours but thats a 'dead in the water' point.
She is angry at you for whatever reason amd this is her way of giving you some of the pain she probably felt when you broke it off with her. Sure she may be over you now, but she's going to make damn sure you walk away limping!!
It's a human thing to do but it isn't blackmail at all.
If you play with fire, you are going to get burned!!
Learn your lesson and stay away from married women.
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reader, ashley187  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 What you did is wrong, you don't sleep with someone elses wife! Either she is pregnant and like Cerberus says.. karma is a bit.. or she is just twirling you along for fun to see how much attention she can get from you. Either way, why would you even put yourself in this situation?? Not smart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): Oh yeah, how is she blackmailing you? Nothing you've said indicates that. Stay away from her man. You're that other guy, you're acting the homewrecker and if you're wondering whether Karma truly is a bitch, one day you'll find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): Why do you care?
Regardless of whether she's pregnant or not she's going to abort it so you're not going to be a father so what's the big deal?
Here are the possibilities choose one and stick to it, try not to let it bother you.
1. The pill failed.
2. She lied about taking it.
3. She took the pill for the time you were together but is pregnant by her husband.
4. She's not really pregnant.
Do you know the chances of her getting pregnant when you didn't cum inside her? Do you know the chances of that when she has also taken the pill?
It's not yours if she is and if she's lying then that doesn't matter either, plus she's planning to abort. So no matter what my friend, you're not going to be a father so don't worry about it.
Oh and stop messing around with another man's woman. If this gets all messed up it's your own fault. Why oh why would you have unprotected sex with a woman you know is sleeping with someone else? Do you know how foolish that is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ivan
No, she even said that she already let me go.
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reader, ivanichiaynus +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Has she asked you for money?
Ivan.
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