All of a sudden he's become secretive?
Q. I think I know the answer to this but just want some opinions and how to handle it please My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. In the first year he was meeting up with a girl behind my back but they both swore it was just as friends....
A. 14 March 2014: Please take advice from experience. He will not change. Whatever it is you hope for him to be and to provide for you, he will not. What you have now is what you will always have, plus some more bumps in the road. As harsh as this sounds and as ... (read in full...)
Is it true that the one who cares the least has the most power in a relationship?
Q. they say the one that cares the least has the most power- is this true? Boy, am i in trouble. I care the most....
A. 16 June 2011: Yes... (read in full...)
Which of these 2 scenarios is worse?
Q. I'm Doing a bit of introspection and have a very strange hypothetical question to ask: Which is worse; A) A guy who's a great provider, not very affectionate or caring, never helps out around the house, spends hardly any time with his kids bu...
A. 4 May 2011: The first option is worse.... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to have sex unless we're married, and I don't want to get married unless I know the sex will be good!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about a year. She's in her early 30s, and she was married for about 4 years when she was in her early 20s. She had quite a few boyfriends between her divorce and when we started seeing each other. She told me she ...
A. 21 April 2011: The sex will be like it was in the beginning. Most likely the view of her conservative church is that sex, even good sex, is acceptable in a marriage... you just aren't supposed to have sex with someone outside of marriage. Once she gets past her ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for him, he doesn't feel the same. How can I get over him?
Q. How can I get over someone who doesn't love me like I love them?...
A. 19 April 2011: Removing all remnants of him from your life, no contact, stay very busy... one day you will wake up and realize you're over him... it takes time to fall in love and time to get over someone as well.... (read in full...)
I'm worried our relationship is purely based on sex!
Q. My boyfriend of 3 and a half years are always having sex. Our sex drive is ridiculous and we always want eachother. Our relationship has been good so far but I am worried that its based on sex. Im taking him very seriously now so I dont want this to ...
A. 7 April 2011: If he's been your "boyfriend" for 3 and a half years then the relationship is based on more than just sex. A "boyfriend" is more than a sex partner. I don't see the problem here, especially since things have been good so far.... (read in full...)
Ladies, if you’re with a well endowed man, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect?
Q. Ladies...if you are with a man who is well endowed, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect? If it is his size, what specifically about his penis is the most enticing? Seeing it and looking ...
A. 8 March 2011: Ooooh la la!! The thing that excites me most about sex with a well endowed man is most definitely the sensation of being "filled" as you put it.... (read in full...)
Mycosis, again, ...really?
Q. mycosis, vaginal mycosis. really so a few months ago, my gf has a swollen / red p**sy, my own fella is a bit white colored - 7 day bateria treatment program including sheets, towels (changed daily) plus a creme both of us... nice. im ''assu...
A. 4 March 2011: She's for real. It hurts badly. I used to have that same problem, and I would have to take pain pills, valium, and use cream to be able to endure sex with my husband. It was awful, and it's awful for your gf. She def needs to get it totally cured, ... (read in full...)
My family are wealthy. His is not. Should I pay for everything on our first date?
Q. Please give me advice.. I have a boyfriend. He was my friend when i was in junior high school. Now he lives in another city. Two months ago he found me on facebook. We share all. Two weeks ago he said he loves me. And so do i. So we decide to have ...
A. 4 March 2011: No. Let him pay since it's the first date.... (read in full...)
Brain lapse re my birth control pill... Help!
Q. I've just had a moment of confusion about my birth control pill. I took my last pill on monday night and it was my last pill in the packet. So i am now on my pill free week. Do i start the next pack on the following monday or start it on ...
A. 2 March 2011: Tuesday... (read in full...)
I know he'll eventually get the message but I feel cruel!
Q. ok I have ceased contact with the man i was having an affair with, just stopped, he keeps txting me worried if im ok and asking to meet ive been ignoring these txts, am I doing the right thing, I know he will eventually get the message but I feel ...
A. 2 March 2011: Men do this sort of thing all the time without regard for how the woman feels. If it's the easiest way for you then stick to your decision of not communicating with him. If you text him it will only open the door that you want so badly to remain ... (read in full...)
Accidentally sent my ex an online Valentine's Day card!
Q. I sent my x a sexy online v card- I had written it last year and somehow it went out this year even though I thought I had deleted all cards from there. He replied back and said he loves me and is thinking about me and endearments. I'm not sure how ...
A. 14 February 2011: Do not reply. Stand back and see if he tries to contact you again and deal with that if he does.... (read in full...)
So for Valentine's Day my boyfriend got me lube and a dildo, where's the rest of my present?
Q. My Boyfriend got me a dildo and lube for valentine's day and I'm really upset because that is not at all what I wanted. What should I do?...
A. 14 February 2011: Use them for some really great rocking sex tonight.... (read in full...)
Is drug addiction a disease, or is it a choice?
Q. Is drug-addiction a disease, or is it a choice? I had terrible tragic experience with drug addiction. Two of my kids got into it, and it destroyed the whole family, and one is dead now. He was the loveliest boy. And me and my husband never use...
A. 7 February 2011: Nobody chooses to be a drug addict. I personally think it's a disease, and just like you would have to have a course of treatment to treat a physical disease such as cancer, there has to be a course of treatment to treat drug addiction.
Based... (read in full...)
She wants to take a "Mommy Break". Would getting her a weekend by herself for V-Day be unromantic?
Q. Would it be horribly un-romantic for me to book a beachfront room for my wife to take a 2-day getaway by herself, as a Valentines Day gift? She has been talking about wanting to take a "mommy break" as in, get away for a couple days to relax, read, ...
A. 7 February 2011: That's a wonderful gift, very thoughtful and a loving gesture. Get her a beautiful card and at least a box of chocolates just to add something to it.... (read in full...)
Is it hard for beautiful women to form good relationships?
Q. Hi All, I am just wondering what it is like to be beautiful and if it is hard to meet quality people? Beautiful women are always getting chatted up for dates, hit on for their looks, even propositioned for sex. It is no wonder then that many of ...
A. 1 February 2011: It's difficult in all the aspects you mention as well as the fact that they don't get hit on or asked out as often as you might think. I guess men either assume they aren't good enough, don't even have a shot, or that she's taken, but I know that ... (read in full...)
I don't even know if I want to go there with him anymore!
Q. Four months ago my boyfriend and I broke up after being together for 7 yrs. During this whole time we kept in contact with each other everyday. He has been seeing another woman for about as long as we have been broken up. Finally one day I ...
A. 28 January 2011: He hasn't suddenly has a change of heart and is the same man he was and always has been. There's a reason you're not married after 7 years together. Be glad to finally be rid of him and do NOT give him another chance to take even more of your ... (read in full...)
Can I skip my placebo pill and go straight into the next pack so I don't get my period? Are there any side effects?
Q. I am scheduled to go on vacation to Mexico in the middle of march for 8 days. I am due to get my period right on the second day there, which is highly irritating. If I were to skip taking my placebo birth control week and start right away with the ...
A. 26 January 2011: Yes, you can do this with the desired result of not having a period that week. I take several packs in a row due to menstrual migraines...the less often I have a period the less often I will get those related headaches. This is done on the advice of ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...
A. 5 January 2011: No, you're not a bad person, just a person with feelings like the rest of us. I offer that you should go to the funeral despite not wanting to put yourself through that. You are his wife, and he needs you there by his side.... (read in full...)
He's a nice guy, but there's no chemistry. Am I allowed to be picky at my age?
Q. I am 50 years old and I met a very nice man online dating. We went on two dates and he's done everything right. He is nice, has a good career and great kids. But there is no spark. It's so frustrating. He's asked me to go on a day trip this ...
A. 3 January 2011: Wow I'm having this very same issue! I keep thinking something will click, but we haven't really been out on many dates... one with our kids and another really casual bit. I'm used to having an instant attraction and not waiting to see if it ... (read in full...)
Does my FWB want more with me?
Q. For the past 4 months I have had this fwb..it was never defined as such. I met him online and we started hanging out and we see each other and have sex and hang out between 1-5 times a month. He texts me everyday lately i don't know if he likes me ...
A. 3 January 2011: No he does not want more. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you just fine or anything like that... he just doesn't want more than what you share at the moment. It's a very hard place to be in and to accept, but if you like being with him then continue ... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with a young woman having a "sugar daddy"?
Q. Hi All, I am a young guy still trying to figure out life and love. I am wondering if you all can give me your opinion on a girl I met. I met this girl a few months back.She's gorgeous, a model, wants to be an actress.She's from Czech Republi...
A. 31 December 2010: If you have to "figure out" if it fits in with your values, then it doesn't. It depends on whom you ask and at what level you want to know if what she does is wrong. God would say that it is def wrong, but many people living down here on earth would ... (read in full...)
I love him but I don't know if he's trying to reconcile with his wife?
Q. Ok, I never thought I would be in love with a married man, and thats not what we both were looking for when we met again after 24 years. And it was just like magic looking in his eyes for the first time again. When we met he was actually separated ...
A. 29 December 2010: Oh, honey, I have no advice for you other than to stay insanely busy. You need to stay so busy that you don't even know if you're coming or going. IDK what your schedule is like, work hours, etc., but you must keep all waking hours filled. I know ... (read in full...)
Do I keep this relationship going? I haven't seen or heard much from her since we had sex
Q. I was seeing this older women for awhile as a friend. We would go out and have fun, she didnt want sex at the time because we were just friends she said. One night as it happened she ended up having sex with me and i havent seen or heard much from ...
A. 27 December 2010: See what's up with her. She's worried what you're thinking and probably doesn't want to appear pushy or needy after sex.... (read in full...)
Does her "Merry Christmas" mean anything?
Q. About 6 weeks weeks ago my ex and I split up, her decision. The last thing she said to me was that she didn't feel comfortable talking to me anymore and I should forget about her. So I haven't spoken with her since. On Christmas Eve I get a text...
A. 27 December 2010: It would have meant something if I had been the one to send it. I wouldn't txt an ex anything unless I were reaching out.... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me that I can't see that he's obviously not into me?
Q. I don't know why I'm so into him and why I sit around waiting for him to call. I've been seeing this guy on and off for a few months now. Seeing is actually an exaggeration, more like saw him once and text often. I met at a party where he...
A. 15 December 2010: Don't have any advice for you, but I can't wait to read what others have to say. I LIVE in this boat!... (read in full...)
Is she testing me?
Q. Hi guys. Wondering if you can help me on something that confused me as hell. The other day me and a few friends from work met up and went to a restaurant. While there I caught sight of one really sexy woman. She was a waitress at the restaura...
A. 17 November 2010: Delete her number. This isn't a test.... (read in full...)
How should a single guy's bedroom look?
Q. Women, if you were at the house of a guy you liked and peeked in his bedroom, what would make a better impression on you: if it looked as though he entertained females there occasionally (candles, incense sticks, queen-size bed, tiny bottle of ...
A. 17 November 2010: The size of the bed says nothing about the relationship status of the individual. A large bed with many pillows is just more comforting and inviting than something that looks like it belongs in an institution.... (read in full...)
How should a single guy's bedroom look?
Q. Women, if you were at the house of a guy you liked and peeked in his bedroom, what would make a better impression on you: if it looked as though he entertained females there occasionally (candles, incense sticks, queen-size bed, tiny bottle of ...
A. 16 November 2010: Neat clean room with masculine colors but I would prefer to see a larger bed, a big cozy one with lots of pillows and thick covers... (read in full...)
What is the deal with women and high heels??
Q. I really wanna know the answer to this question especially from females - Do you females really like wearing sexy high heeled shoes or do you do it only for attention. I have heard of shoe fetish but I dont know how far it is true. Does it also have ...
A. 15 November 2010: I like wearing heels. It's not a turn on for me. What turns me on is knowing I turn my man on.... (read in full...)
My heart wants to stay with him, my head doesn't know...
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago. we'd been together 10 months and it had been quite a rocky relationship, very intense, moved very fast and although the good times were amazing, the bad times were too difficult. he suffered from retrograde ...
A. 9 November 2010: Do not listen to your heart.... (read in full...)
Is he giving me a hidden message/hint or is what he's saying legitimate?
Q. Been seeing a married man for the past 10 mths. He has broken up with me three times (he rekindles us each time after a few weeks). He’s stuck on the theory that it’s unfair and selfish of him to expect me to wait around for him when he’s home with ...
A. 7 November 2010: I don't think he's that noble. Sounds to me like he just wants the continuing reassurance that you will be there and that you're NOT out with someone else. I understand what you mean about this situation working well for you. I do not think he's ... (read in full...)
I can't put up with this abuse any more...
Q. Well me and my baby's dad been together for 5 years, and a little after a year he started throwing things at me, yelling at me, now its kicking me, socking me in the side of my head and at times he does it in front of our kids and he only does it if ...
A. 4 November 2010: Try not to feel dumb. You're not dumb. You're also not alone. You do need to figure out how to get out of there and away from him, as his anger and violence will only worsen the longer you stay. I finally had to sneak out of the house with my teen ... (read in full...)
In love with a married man and he wants to marry me too!
Q. I am in so much pain because I don’t know what to do or who to talk to. I met this man over eight years ago and we have been best of friends ever since. When I said best of friends I mean there is nothing about me or him we do not tell each other, ...
A. 3 November 2010: I'm not understanding the problem. He divorces his wife and marries you. That's how it works.... (read in full...)
We had sex and now he threatens to tell my husband if I don't do what he wants!!! Help!
Q. Long story short, I met a guy and we ended up having sex. I'm married. Now he threatens to tell my husband if I don't do what he wants, when he wants. How do I get out of this? Please help me....
A. 2 November 2010: Depending on the circumstances, you could try calling his bluff. If your husband doesn't know this guy, why would he believe some random person who's telling him his wife cheated?... (read in full...)
I’m Seriously Considering Having an Affair with My Ex-Boyfriend/Best Friend
Q. Sorry... it's a LONG one to read if you have time :-D So, I’ve been married for 6 years to my husband. I’m 28 and he’s 32. We had a great foundation of friendship before we got married and he is a wonderful man as far as he tries to provide...
A. 2 November 2010: Insane chemistry will only get you in trouble, and having an affair will make you despise your husband even more. You knew to a certain extent what you were marrying; it's not like he just changed over night. I totally understand your frustration ... (read in full...)
I tried to get her interested in me, never planning on following through, and now I've got a problem!
Q. I've got myself into an awkward position. I am married 12 years with two children, very happy and wouldn't change that for the world. I love my wife dearly. However, there was a similarly aged lady at work who I thought was quite attractive, she ...
A. 27 October 2010: You can't get out of this without hurting anyone. Apologize to her and explain that you want to remain happily married. End whatever is between you and tell her it cannot continue. Be frank and definitive. DO NOT just avoid her and the situation. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible there is no pleasure in sex?
Q. Is it possible for a promiscuous person to not enjoy sex? Why sleep around if there is no pleasure? ...
A. 27 October 2010: No physical pleasure, then yes, it's quite possible. However, there is SOME type of enjoyment or pleasure being derived, whether it be attention, brain chemcial reaction, whatever. There may not be physical pleasure, but there's some need that is ... (read in full...)
I am unsure of whether or not this woman from one of my college classes is interested.
Q. I was in a relationship with a woman for 5 years. After a tumultuous breakup, involving her cheating, time has passed and we are friends and I feel great about life and everything. My problem is this: I have been out of the dating game for so long ...
A. 27 October 2010: She IS interested, but she's not going to show that to you more due to her trust issues. The inability to trust really holds a girl back. Take her up on the offer to play at your house. If that goes well ask her out again and tell her you want to ... (read in full...)
Why does he behave this way?
Q. Iam a married woman and developed a friendship with a married guy in one of our projects.This guy is very religious, which actually made me his friend as i too have an inclination to spirituality. But every now and then he stops calling or seems to ...
A. 25 October 2010: He's avoiding temptation and wants to stay away from you but can't. It's nothing personal against you that he wants to stay away; it's him and his inner conflict with temptation.... (read in full...)
| *appy24birthday's friends
These are mutual friends, so *appy24birthday has
added them and they have added *appy24birthday!
|
