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writes:My boyfriend really wants to have 2 girls give him a blowjob. I'm not too keen on the idea of one of those girls being me. Should I let him do this with 2 other females so he can get over it and I won't be around to see it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): OK, for all of these insulted women and cautious men, think for a second, WHO WOULDN'T want two girls to blow them at the same time? That sounds (and for porn viewers looks) AWESOME!
jk... aside from a few of the most promiscuous nights in college, this is a porn fantasy and should probably stay that way. Women enjoy attention from many men and men certainly enjoy attention from many women, but the whole point of a relationship (at least in 2011) is to show commitment to the one person who you care about most.
I struggle to imagine a woman requesting the same thing from her male partner, but if you bring up sex with two men at the same time, he should realize that his idea is not acceptable pretty quickly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): If my guy had ever suggested this I would have been packing his bags, before he finished explaining his 'great' (NOT) idea.
It is my view that if a guy is really genuine then he will never suggest a three-some of any description. Such a suggestion is disrespectful to a partner, and, from what I have seen, a prelude to the ending of the relationship.
If he is so jaded and bored he is probably not working hard enough, and not doing enough chores at home, and spending too much time looking at porn.
You need a boyfriend with a better quality approach than this current guy.
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reader, ivanichiaynus  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Without getting stuffy about this, I regard a BJ as something special between a loving couple, an expression of their love in a very intimate way.
To do it so casually in an unfeeling way suggests that firstly he isn't very mature and also that he watches far too much porn: he has a very distorted view of life and relationships.
You can either wait for him to grow up or find someone who respects you and your relationship.
Ivan.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 January 2011):
Tell your boyfriend to quit watching porn so much because unless he finds a couple of drunk skanks at a club or posts it on craigslist he's probably not going to find two girls to do that unless he's some Brad Pitt look-a-like. And if you're not one of the girls that wants to do that, then that's a problem too.
So to answer your question: yes, tell him to go ahead and try to find two girls that actually want to do that AFTER you tell him to not let the door hit him in the ass on his way out.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Uh... no. If you are not comfortable with him having this threesome fantasy when you're at least one of the girls (and I can't see why on earth you would), then it would be ten times worse knowing that he had sex (oral counts) with two other girls without you! That's cheating, plain and simple. If he's getting blowjobs from other girls when you're not around, you cannot possibly feel right about it, can you?
Alright, so he has a fantasy about being with two girls at the same time. Fine. Most guys have or had that same fantasy. But acting on it is among the fastest ways to kill a relationship. If you aren't enough for him, then perhaps he's just not ready for a serious girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): first thing that came to mind after reading this post...
HELL NO!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Why on earth would you consider doing or consent something that you're not comfortable with? Does this guy want a relationship or a porn film?
If you're not into the whole swinger thing, then tell him no. Better yet, coming from someone who works within the phonesex industry: move on if you're into monogamy. This guy isn't going to give it to you for long. Discussing fantasy without the intent of actually doing it is one thing, but this guy takes it to a whole new level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): I find this guy selfish and very inconsiderate of the relationship as a whole and of you as a lady and a person. If he wishes to pursue such an activity, he must and absolutely must break things off with you. His thought alone is a BIG sign he is not ready at all for a relationship and wants to fool around and get some things out of his system. Albeit normal, the circumstance in which he does them can be harmful and detrimental to ones feelings and also any friendships or relationships he pursues therein. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Why on earth would you want two girls giving your boyfriend a blow job behind your back just so he can 'get over' some sexual fantasy/phase he's going through at the minute?
I'm guessing you guys aren't serious. The second my boyfriend even suggested such a thing, he'd be gone, let alone me even thinking of considering it or letting it happen without me.
You're basically letting him cheat on you, although it's not exactly cheating as you know about it. I don't know, you're just influencing him to disrespect you. And it's going to make him think he's allowed to do what he wants really, and a sign in his eyes that you're weak. You should just tell him straight, no, you don't want another girl giving him a blow job. He should only want you doing it.
Honestly, if you let that happen then you will look like a fool - To him, and to other people if they found out. My opinion? Dump him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): One thing you should know about men is if your boyfriend asked this of you than he is looking for an open relationship and the train doesn't stop there. Your decision is if you want a sexually exclusive relationship or not. He's not so much ASKING you if its cool this one time..he's PREPARING you for how he views commitment. If you are not keen on this get out now.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Sure, if you are comfortable with your boyfriend having sexual relations with other girls tell him its fine, this time simply blow jobs, next time it might be full on sex with two girls, and the time after that, maybe a mixed gender foursome, who knows, where this adventure might end up.
For me, if my partner suggested he have sex elsewhere, or involved another person into our relationship and I said NO, or if it made me feel uncomfortable, if he continued that would be a deal breaker for me.
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