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writes: i am 13 and my bf is 14.im a very jealous person but my bf seems to be taking advantage of this, one day he came out of lesson telling me how big this other girls breasts are and her bra size. he has done this to me with many girls on many different occasions. as soon as i confront him about my feelings he ignores me and starts shouting at me saying im having a go at him, then he goes off and makes me even more purposely jealous.what do i do? what do i say to him? i love him so much!!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (19 February 2011):
 if someone goes out of their way to make you feel jealous and insecure you dump them, its that simple. maybe the more he makes you feel terrible the less you value yourself and the more attractive an option he seems-think of yourself and remember that if he acts like an arse you dont have to stay with him...
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reader, ivanichiaynus +, writes (19 February 2011):
 He's a turd, and you know you can't polish those!
Ivan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): My dear, after reading what you wrote, I feel that your bf's not giving you the respect you deserve by talking about other girls in such a way to you, especially when he knows it makes you jealous.
Try not to show him your jealous side. The more you show him you're jealous, he would live on this fact that you're afraid to lose him and take you for granted, and continue his actions.
Find some time to have a good chat with him, just a neutral chat, and take the chance to bring up the topic lightly. Talk to him, give him some scenarios like: What if you were in my shoes and I were to tell you that. How would you feel? Try not to confront him like the previous times, as he may feel accused and will not bother to listen in the end.
Lastly, I feel that if he loves you, your thoughts and feelings should matter to him, and he should be willing to change his ways/actions for you. Take care and hope all goes well for you. (:
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Hunny am afraid to tell you if he is going to act like this you are better of without him. He knows how you feel and yet he carries on hurting you intentionally. Usually I would say talk to him and tell him how you feel but he already knows therefore im sorry to say this but it sounds like he doesnt care that he hurts you, its almost like he is enjoying making you jelous. You deserve far better than that!!
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reader, Abass Abassi  +, writes (19 February 2011):
My dear, don't be crazy in love. You are quite young, very young. At that age, such things come and go. I am not saying dump that guy, but what I am saying is just concentrate on your studies and your career. You have a long life in front of you. Everyone is going through the same stage as you at this age, but you shouldn’t have to confess it love and lose yourself. Chin up and maintain your dignity. As it seems you are a cute and beautiful girl, you shouldn’t have to put yourself down to these boys. Maintain your pride and let him be crazy for you. I wish I could be your age again. I would study harder than before and would not let any chance pass me by.From long to short, I will briefly say, you are much young, don't unduly pressure yourself. Be patient, and choose your love at your legal age, and the one you choose should be well in all aspects. A person who is serious about you, respects your feelings, not like the current boy you have who doesn’t respect your feelings at all and compares other girl’s breasts to yours. You know, if I love a girl I will not even talk about another girl in front of her. That is not jealousy some people say, but that is a true connectivity everyone wants from their true life partners. It is human nature that they don’t want their partners to say anything about the other opposite sex, and why should they?Many best wishes for your future. Best of luck.
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Dump him, he's immature.
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reader, sunandstars +, writes (19 February 2011):
He could be doing this because he's a very insecure person himself, he most likely does it to make himself feel better, he thinks he looks 'cool' because he knows their bra size. No matter how hard it is you do need to talk to him about your feelings, if he is looking at other girls he isn't holding all his interest in you, if he stops doing it and pays some more attention to your feelings, perhaps he does really care for you. You say you love him, but if he is doing this, do you think he really loves you too? You are still very young, maybe you should let yourself mature, found out what you really want from a guy, do you really want or need someone who makes you feel like this? I used to have a lot of boyfriends when I was your age, but when I stopped and was single for 10 months or so, I really matured and got to know what I really want in a guy, now I have what I want. Just some food for thought. I hope I've helped.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (19 February 2011):
Make him feel jealous for a change. And see what happens.
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reader, MissVee  +, writes (19 February 2011):
If he's saying those things about other girls, what is he saying about you behind your back?
A good boyfriend doesn't try to upset you. Only someone with no self esteem will deliberately upset you or make you jealous, because when you rise to his taunts and tricks, he feels appreciated because you're then devoting all of your attention solely on him. In short, he feels important, desired, special. Really he is small, childish and pathetic, and doesn't deserve that attention. Give him the old heave-ho and find some hottie who is confident enough not to have to resort to childish tricks and games.
Oh, and perhaps mention loudly in the presence of the other girl exactly what he said about her - Us girls should look out for each other ;)
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reader, Eilish +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Well to me it seems like he finds it all a big joke. You've told him it bothers you so why does he still do it? Maybe he's looking for attention, testing whether you would be bothered? either way this is still immature. If it carries on I'd tell him to stick it, if he loved you like you love him then he'd have stopped doing this the moment you told him it upsets you.xxx
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